2007-12-08 04:52:28 · 17 answers · asked by kittens 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
cheaters and beaters never change, tell him to pack his sh*t and get out!!!!
2007-12-08 04:55:25 · answer #1 · answered by Winter Glory 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You can take him back, but if the trust is not there then whats the point. You need love and trust-and a few other things in a relationship. Tell you the truth I cheated once on my husband and he took me back, we have 3 kids together and its been hard as hell to get the trust back. i know he still has his doubts about me but he and i both decided to try and make things work out. If you think that is something that you can handle then take him back...
2007-12-08 13:17:02 · answer #2 · answered by 1 UnIqUe InDiViDuAl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you take him back, make him go get tested for diseases and have him bring the written proof that he doesn't have one to you, before you have relations with him again. This may take 6 months, because one has to be tested twice for AIDS
HIV. Then he will have to prove his faithfulness in word and deed, he will have to be accountable for everything he does, on the computer, the phone and every time he leaves the house. Don't sit there with your eyes closed, be investigating him at all times. Don't let your guard down ever.
2007-12-08 13:02:46 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is entirely up to you how to decide, we know nothing about how this happened, do what makes you feel is right, trust takes time to prove one will not cheat again.
2007-12-08 12:59:52 · answer #4 · answered by joe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to a marriage counselor/therapist to work this out...Invite the man to go with you. If he says he won't go ...Go yourself so you can get a good grip on what you are dealing with and if you are able or want to TRUST the man again...
If your man will not go for counseling with you its a good indication the ONLY one hurt with the cheating was you ..
If he shows no self remorse...and offers no ways to make up for what happened that involves counseling....
GET OUT and find a divorce attorney as fast as you can....
Good luck
2007-12-08 13:06:27 · answer #5 · answered by Dog Rescuer 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a proverb in hindi, " Chhati pe moong dalna." means he cheated u. U cheat him, in front of him.His ego will be hurted. Eitherhe will suffer or he will finish him self. Why U ask him to trust u when u dont trust him.
2007-12-08 13:00:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't-but if you do it will take a very long time for you to trust him again-you can forgive but it takes a while to forget.
2007-12-08 12:56:16 · answer #7 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You probably won't ever be able to trust him again. And he'll probably do it again seeing as you wouldn't leave him anyway. Leave before you get hurt again
2007-12-08 12:55:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
get out and smell the flowers let him wonder where you are at and things and come in late. dont take him back quickly make him wait
2007-12-08 12:57:19 · answer #9 · answered by ***Lovin*** 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Honey...we all make mistakes...we are all imperfect human beings. Give him a 2nd chance. But if he cheats again...then strike3....he's out!
2007-12-08 12:56:38 · answer #10 · answered by Caesar 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No way! Don't take him back!
It's telling him what he did is Ok and that he can do it again and again.
2007-12-08 12:55:56 · answer #11 · answered by ♫♪Bag♫♪ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋