Is teasing and playfighting cheating or harmless?

Question

If a married woman has a very close guy friend who she knows fancies her is it acceptable for her to engage in teasing and light playfighting (gentle punching, poking, chasing, tickling, etc) with him? Is she sending the wrong signal? Does it make a difference if they're alone?

Answer 1

If she wouldn't want her partner to see it or know about it, then yes, it's cheating.

Answer 2

I honestly believe she's sending the wrong signal.

Just switch it around: What if she saw her husband tickling, poking, etc. with another woman? How would she feel?

I went to dinner with a married friend once. She had a male friend with her - and they were close to cuddling, I swear. I asked her how her husband would feel if he drove by at that moment. She said "He's just a friend". I went on to say "How would you feel if you saw your husband doing that"?

That first night was the undoing of a marriage and family. Because she let things get out of hand, a famliy is torn apart and a toddler has a broken family.

Answer 3

i wouldn't like it if my husband had a close "female friend" that they did that. i feel that teasing and playfighting and tickling ect is between a husband and wife bf/gr but that's me. and i sure in the heck don't think it's a good idea to be alone with the opp. sex either. i just don't see how having a good friend of the opp sex is good in any marriage. and i also know how most females are. but i also have old fashion values

Answer 4

It's not cheating..yet. But it is play that two people attracted to each other often indulge in...and it can lead to a different kind of 'poking'.....if she respects her husband she'll direct this play towards him alone and knock it off with the other guy.Period!

perhaps you should give her a taste of her own medicine...is there a lady friend you can have help 'act out' a similar scene in front of her...see how well she deals with it...and if she fusses tell her if she can do it with so and so, you can do with with so and so......

Answer 5

as long as you trust her thats all that matters, i am like that with some of my friends and my b./f and i have been together for 2 1/2 years and we have a 16 month old son and it is fine, just trust her you have no proof that she is cheating, and she is having fun with her friends, and i dont think that she is sending the wrong signal....she MARRIED YOU....that a pretty big signal to me

Answer 6

She knows his intentions and that he fancies her, then yes she is encouraging behavior that will lead to big issues with her marriage. If they are alone it is really sending the wrong messages. Put that much energy in to the marriage and at least it will be spent productively.

Answer 7

the real professionals cheat by ability of: a million.) working a key-word seek for questions. 2.) making use of prewritten, somewhat-criminal solutions. 3.) Returning a week later with numerous bills to vote for any no longer resolved by ability of the asker. 4.) Reporting solutions periodically so as that they'd as we communicate get rid of anybody who tries to demonstrate them. this type of cheating isn't innocuous, because of the fact the middle of that's greed.

Answer 8

My experience from observing many people over the years, is that this kind of behavior says they are cheating already or they are engaged in the precusor to sex. Tell her to knock it off or you will kick her to the curb.

Answer 9

The married woman is engaging in the First part of a dangerous Affair.....The "LAST" part of an affair is the sex.....

Answer 10

Hmmm .. that sounds wrong .. she should act like a married woman

Answer 11

If she knows this guy has feelings for her, she shouldn't be doing stuff like that to him, not because she is in a relationship but because of what it does to that poor guy's feelings.