In a few months time I'm going on holiday with my Dad's side of the family for the first time ever(I only saw him for the second time in living memory about 3 months ago as him and my mum split up when I was young) and he's told me that my Aunty Joanne's a lesbian and that she'd be there as well and the last time anyone from my Mum's side of the family saw her she was 12years old and my Grandma asked how she was and I told her she was a lesbian now and my Grandma laughed at this and at the moment I'm really looking forward to meeting her as you would if you've never seen a member of your family before but I'm also looking forward to meeting her because she's a lesbian as well and I have no idea why and I just find this weird.
2007-12-08 04:23:54 · 33 answers · asked by Lily R 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I don't find my Aunty weird I find it weird that one of the reasons I'm looking forward to meet her is because she's a lesbian.
2007-12-08 04:30:43 · update #1
Why is curiosity weird? If you've never met a lesbian before, this may be the reason.
2007-12-08 04:28:21 · answer #1 · answered by jeanhack42 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
It is not weird. I was in the same boat as you with my father. I did not meet him until I was 16. In ways I was looking forward to meeting his side of the family, but I still held a grudge against him for not being there. If you are not used to seeing lesbians, then it is quite normal for you to be anxious to see this. You will likely be disappointed though, bc they act the same as everyone else and usually show no affection toward each other in circumstances as yours. It will be like meeting an aunt, but you will know that she is a lesbian.
2007-12-08 04:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are just curious. I never even heard the word until I was in high school myself, much less met anyone it applied to.
Your Aunt Joanne is a person. She has just chosen not to spend her life with a man. Instead she's found a life partner who happens to be female. It's like marrying your best friend.
Such relationships have the same failure and success rate as regular relationships. You have to work just as hard to make it work.
Your grandmother probably laughed because she knew Joanne was a very strong-minded girl (i.e. independent, stubborn, or even a bully).
2007-12-08 04:33:36 · answer #3 · answered by loryntoo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Weird? Why? How? Because she prefers women? It is a little off that you even care about her sexual preference, however given the very mention of the word lesbian for many men on here and in the world their mind goes straight to disgusting porn mode...to these men I say grow up and get real.
2007-12-08 04:50:28 · answer #4 · answered by DWInSTL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Reframing the question and replacing "weird" with "intriguing" or fascinating" or "outside my current experience" might change the whole tone of the experience. Celebrate diversity and champion the margins; the only way to make certain that privilege is not accessible to a narrowly defined "normal".
2007-12-08 04:47:51 · answer #5 · answered by swimbuns 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is weird in the scope of the world. Just weird for you because it is new and part of a situation where you are meeting family for the first time.
Statistically 10% of the population is gay. Just remember blood is thicker than water and enjoy meeting her.
2007-12-08 04:30:09 · answer #6 · answered by b b 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Right, well, I think you're in for a terrific time. It's great that some connections are coming about for you. Enjoy sharing yourself and receiving friendship and love from your once-alienated branch of the family tree. See them as the individuals they are, just like you, with feelings, intentions, experiences.
Neat.
2007-12-08 04:29:00 · answer #7 · answered by Zeera 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
longest. run-on sentence. ever.
Yeah, it's kind of funny. We hear about gays, bis, and lesbians, but it never really tends to hit people until it's someone they KNOW that comes out of the closet. Kind of makes you wonder, I suppose, what the family of every homosexual person must be thinking.
"Oh, cousin Bob? He's coming over with his boyfriend, so be nice." ".............WHAT?!?!" "Yes, dear, that was my reaction too."
As to why yer' excited over all of this, I'd say it's probably the fact that you likely haven't met alot of gay folks. Your aunt being attracted to other women is kind of out of the blue for you, so sheer force of curiosity about something different fascinates you.
"Wait....you mean, this little object here turns the space-time continuum inside out, eats a star from the sky, then plays 'Ode to Joy'?" "Yeah. Kind of funny, that someone put it in your baby rattle when you were born." ".......that is so COOL!!!"
2007-12-08 04:34:37 · answer #8 · answered by Shamon C 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is your father strict? Maybe she represents something you want. Are you able to express yourself freely or does your father criticise things you do? You might just be curious because you've never been around people who go against the norm.
2007-12-08 04:28:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Im sure it will be fine, I dont know any lesbians but I do know lots of homosexual men and they are just normal people the same as everyone else, they just do different things in bed!!! Dont worry about it!!!
2007-12-08 04:27:20 · answer #10 · answered by Beatlemaniac 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋