I have some feelings for a friend of mine and she's a Transgendered Pagan Woman but, She don't feel the same way about me. Should I accept this and go on?
2007-12-08 04:21:24 · 9 answers · asked by nancy_biri 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think your only choice is to accept this. But "go on"? Hopefully you can still be friends, as long as you can keep your feelings under control, and not try to manipulate your friendship for your own needs.
2007-12-08 04:31:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I notice in your picture that you are a woman and I don't know where you are coming from sexually, be it that you are confused or "questioning." I also don't know if your transgendered Pagan woman friend is through with the medical aspects of becoming - technically - a woman. So my questions are #1 are you attracted to this person as a man, or as a woman? #2 Are you coming to them with romantic and sexual fantasies that are straight or bisexual or lesbian?
I think we can all meet people we love as friends without having romantic or sexual feelings. If we have a friend we are fantasizing about as "more," in my experience it never works unless they feel the same, but at that point you just aren't friends anymore. It's a risk!
2007-12-09 09:09:56 · answer #2 · answered by Madam C 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you ned to do is be self reflective about your motive. If your intent is selfish and really bent on just hurting him as long as the ends justify your means...which is him breaking up with her...then stop and mind your own business.If you are are truly just friends then you have an obligation to look our for him. I would very tactfully tell him that you did something that you shouldn't have but you were curious about her. That you found some things that you felt were unsettling and that although you didn't want to hurt him you also would hope that if the shoe was on the other foot you would hope he would tell you. Tell him you aren't passing judgment but he might want to look up a few things and make his own decision. Then give him the website and let it go. It's up to him if he looks.
2016-05-22 04:20:52 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesnt feel the same u will only end up getting hurt. Try to find some one who feels the same way as u do. U two can always be friends :)
2007-12-08 04:24:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Definitely. If you do not accept this and go on, or you keep pushing it, then you will end up losing her friendship all together. So ask yourself if it is more important to keep her as only a friend or is it more important to lose her bc you want more than that?
2007-12-08 04:31:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on because there's no reason to waste you time liking someone who doesn't feel the same way. You should stay friends with her but start meeting other people.
2007-12-08 04:28:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should accept it for now but don't completely move on. let the friendship grow and see what happens then.
2007-12-08 05:21:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hun you should not push some one who does not nor is bi or a lesbain as it could hurt the friendship you are enjoying.
2007-12-08 08:45:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Accept and move on, she`s not interested.
2007-12-08 04:36:40 · answer #9 · answered by jms043 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋