As adults, are we past asking people about the number of "partners" one has attained?

Question

I mean, if you ask someone this question, they're pretty much gonna lie anyway. What do you think?

Besides, I stopped asking people when I was in high school. Imagine now.

"Uhhh, how many people you been with?"

Sounds dumb, huh?

Answer 1

Correct. I think this whole questioning on numbers came about for two reasons:

1. The mistaken belief that only people who have a lot of partners can catch a STD, when anyone who has had sex without someone who is not a virgin can catch a STD.

2. The whole messed up ideal that women should be all pure and not truly enjoy or seek sex if they aren't married.

I think we'd all be better off if everyone just was tested for STDs prior to having unprotected sex with someone else instead of playing the numbers game.

Questioning someone about the specific number of partners they've had is akin to asking your partner why their former boyfriend/girlfriend dumped them in 1995: it's just all old news and in the past.

Answer 2

The past is the past and should be left there. Bringing skeletons out of the closet does no good!!!
If you truly are an adult and have truly looked hard at your own life and choices you have made in the past you shouldn't even want to ask that question.
No one can change the past. All we can do is make the future better!!!

Answer 3

at any age you should be past it. Most people even once they have asked if they were already planning on having sex with this person it doesn't detour them from doing so. It's just pointless to ask because people do it for no other reason than harrassing you about these former lovers.

Answer 4

I agree as well. I wasn't concerned how many 'partners' my wife had in the past. She picked me to be with so none of the others mattered. As for asking a perfect stranger that question..my answer is always the same. "Frankly, that's none of your business."

Answer 5

I think the more important question is "When did you get tested last?"

It really doesn't matter how many people someone has been with, it takes just one + person.

Answer 6

I agree. I can't understand why anyone would want to brag about have numerous partners. One person to whom you are faithful forever is what matters.

It's sad to me that people put so little importance on something like this.
Time for people to grow up.....

Thanks!

Answer 7

I think so, I never ask, not only do i not really want to know, but also since we're adults, we can usually tell how much experience someone has had once we become one of their "partners".

Answer 8

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Answer 9

I agree. I really wish I had this knowledge when I meet my "to be husband" when I was 21. He was 30. We had that conversation, and it was more information than I every cared or wished I knew.

Answer 10

Totally none of my business unless I am being groomed as the next on the list.