I've just been thinking about babies, not planing, yet. I'm with someone that I really like and I want to get married before kids, but the sex is great! Only in the middle of sex I think about forcing him to *** in me, and don't care about the consequences. Is that bad? I don't think that he wants kids right now, but he's doing all the right things to get me pregnant, all I have to do is just stop taking my pills. Is that wrong?
2007-12-08 03:57:04 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I have a moral issue when it come to getting something I want.
2007-12-08 03:58:29 · update #1
Me getting pregnant has noting to do with finance stability!
2007-12-08 04:29:54 · update #2
You really have to ask if that's wrong? Give me a break. You know it is. It's a shame you don't have an open enough relationship where you can just discuss your longing for a child with your BF.
I feel bad for him that he is in a relationship with someone who could potentially be so manipulative, sneaky, and deceitful. I hope you resist the temptation to act like that.
If not, I hope you're prepared to be a single mother, because any man with any self-respect will drop your a** for deliberately getting pregnant in such a sneaky way.
2007-12-08 04:06:58 · answer #1 · answered by Take A Test! 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yes, that is wrong. You need to think about the baby first than your own wishes and wims. You need to realize that babies should be brought up in a harmony and secure environment but if you won't have a good relationship with your man, it won't happen. Plus however we like children, it is different when they are born and you need to take care of them 24/7. Your body changes your life changes and it is more difficult thnan many people thought before getting pregnant. Many can't cope. So, for you and the baby and the dad to be ahppy and cared for, the circumstances need to be very perfect or someone will suffer. Think about what babies represent you and why do you want them so much - someone to love or someone you can give a good future? Not judging you, just saying that you might think so different when the baby is born.
2007-12-08 04:27:46 · answer #2 · answered by Lona 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutly incorrect. Do you want your child to have a excellent dad? How can he be a excellent dad if he isn't ready to be a dad. How can he be a just right dad if he decides after you betray his believe that he can not be with any individual he can not believe and depart you. You are now not married either for that matter. Your little one would never have a average life in case your boyfriend resents you and your youngster for the relaxation of its life. Is that why you need to have a little one? I doubt it. Its now not virtually YOU its about your boyfriend AND its mainly concerning the baby. If you don't have the patience to wait except he is able for a child, then you most likely shouldn't have the endurance to elevate a child. You've a lot of time to have a kid before you're "too historic" to raise one. Just be sufferer. Your time will come.
2016-08-06 10:39:11 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I wouldn't even consider trapping your boyfriend into making a baby. Assuming he knows that you're on birth control, then you shouldn't assume that he's be ok with you getting pregnant.
You'd have to live with the guilt knowing that you've stopped him doing whatever it is he wants to do with his life before having children.
It may not mean that he would stay with you - then you would be a single mum, is that what you want/could deal with?
And as for the child - imagine having a child and it eventually knowing (as these things have a habit of getting out) that only his/her mother wanted him/her. Or not having a father role at all. Unplanned pregnancies are common, but are very hard to deal with for everyone involved. It's much better to bring a child into a mutual, loving environment.
If you love this man and want to be with him long term, then wait, or at least talk about the prospect of kids. It may turn out that he's dying to start a family too.
It's natural to feel broody every so often, especially with the man you love, doesn't mean you need to immediately act on it.
2007-12-08 04:30:39 · answer #4 · answered by Ruth W 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, definitely wrong. Why do things the wrong way? Even if he ended up staying with you, you may always wonder if a baby was the only reason why. If you care about this guy, let it progress, plan your future TOGETHER. Guys definitely do not like being lied to or trapped. He may end up resenting you and the baby. It would be a huge mistake and totally unfair to your child. If you are ready to be a mom then you need to be ready to put that baby before anything else, including your own needs.
2007-12-08 04:07:18 · answer #5 · answered by andmic510 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are even thinking about this proves you are not ready to have a baby. You are putting your desires ahead of your boyfriend and a potential baby.
Learning to defer your gratification is hard but, to be a responsible adult you have to do it. Don't get pregnant. It would be a mistake and all 3 of you would suffer.
2007-12-08 05:54:26 · answer #6 · answered by SusieQ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's wrong. Imagine how you would feel if he wanted to "trick" you and put holes in the condom to get you pregnant.... Wait till you know for sure that you and your significant other wants a baby. It will be so much better knowing that both of you are in it together.
2007-12-08 04:12:21 · answer #7 · answered by mrs.russell 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Boy, do you EVER have a moral issue. You would be basically tricking him into becoming a father. But don't worry; if your birth control method is just pulling out early you will probably be pregnant soon anyway.
2007-12-08 04:04:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should really talk to him. Because if you get pregnant and he isnt ready for kids then he may leave you and youll be stuck reaising a baby on your own. And if you want to get married before kids then you should do that first.
2007-12-08 04:03:53 · answer #9 · answered by MEE 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it without discussing it with him first. My sister did it with her boyfriend and then a year later he found out she stopped taking the pill on purpose, dumped her, and took custody of the baby because she was "unbalanced, mentally" because of the deceptive way she did it. Judge ruled in his favor.
2007-12-08 04:04:20 · answer #10 · answered by Fred Said...クリスティー 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋