What do you expect to hear? Would be honest and comfortable to talk to her. If you did, were you satisfied to have heard the "truth" from her instead of lies back and forth from your husband? How did you respond, did you hate her guts and cursed her out?
2007-12-08 03:48:00 · 14 answers · asked by ladida 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How baout if you already left, would you mind talking to her?
2007-12-08 03:54:48 · update #1
Some women on hear speak of men (husbands) like the "other" women are trying to steal them away. There are other men out ther and I am sure the other women knows that. SOme women get into these relationship b/c they think they have met someone nice and trust them. Some just likes married men. Tell them apart, not everyone out there is fighting for a guy, that's childish.
2007-12-08 04:04:51 · update #2
I wasn't married, but living with a guy, and made the mistake of talking to the "other woman", thinking I could reason with her woman to woman. Whoa was that a big mistake! You can't reason with someone who knowingly steals another girl's man. The men are just as guilty, no doubt about it. I never understood the hate directed at the other women, when the men are just as bad. Half the time the other woman is completely blameless and not in the know. As to my experience, I hated her for years, even after I got over my ex and moved on. She purposely left nasty voice mail messages, emails to me, so I had a reason. She would make up lies about him too, which I at first believed, and then realized by checking the calendar that were lies! LOL So I know you don't hear the truth from them because they have an ulterior motive!
2007-12-08 05:51:07 · answer #1 · answered by Mo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my husband is better than that....but I dated a guy who cheated on me once. I found out about it from an aquantance of ours. He claimed that this girl he knew had been with him a few weeks before. I called her and asked about it. She acted really scared to talk to me at first, but she wasn't really my problem (and I told her that). I wanted to know what he did. After all he was the one who cheated! She confirmed what I had heard, so I left him.
2007-12-08 12:06:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband cheated on me with my best friend. I spoke briefly with her, saying that I never wanted to hear from her again. To be honest, I missed her. My husband and I worked through it with some marriage counseling... and came to a better, stronger marriage. When he died, I sent her a note, letting her know...as they carried on for eight years..it was no flash in the pan. She sent a nice card back. I ripped it up and threw it away...done is done. Good luck.
2007-12-08 11:59:58 · answer #3 · answered by Gina C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go after my husband and the woman he cheated with. I'd curse my husband's guts, and the girl he cheated with. I will hate them. Probably give them a slow death. But, knowing me, I would go talk to both of them, and listen to their stories while embracing hate. I would also be very rude, and perhaps violent, throughout the talking process. Final move?
Divorce and lawsuit.
2007-12-08 11:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by bnns29 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No.
I was there and wish I could have had the insight I had now back then. I did talk to her and what I found out ended up hurting me worse.
We did divorce and then I did finally meet her.
But I couldn't blame her. She wasn't married and my husband was. He knew better and should have been the one I blamed!!!!
2007-12-08 12:03:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if i would ever do that? Speak to the woman my husband cheated on me with.....but when i am pist off i do irrational things so there could be a possibility
2007-12-08 13:00:40 · answer #6 · answered by 1 UnIqUe InDiViDuAl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To speak to her is a wrong choice...I admit it is natural to want to, but it just keeps it going and the doubts enter your head more often. I was cheated on and thought I wanted to hear it from her, but I was wrong to consider it.... remember she might have a different agenda, like stealing him for herself. Thus she might tell you lie too.
I know it's hard to believe your husband...extreemly hard, but if you want to move on . Let it go....
2007-12-08 11:55:39 · answer #7 · answered by StorM 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah that is an insecurity issue on your part. If you are secure you get rid of the cheater, heal yourself, and go find someone that loves you for you --- if you are secure you know you deserve that and the other cheaters aren't worth any energy going forward.
2007-12-08 11:59:05 · answer #8 · answered by George 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think it depends,
my husband cheated on me with my Friend, who i confided in when suspected he was cheating,
i found them together, when i came home from doc,s having my post natal check,
if she had not known he was married, then yes,
but you will find that if she new she didn't care, and talking to her will only cause you more pain, not advised just move on
2007-12-08 12:09:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spank? What kind of BS is that? I say throw her under the bus.
2007-12-08 11:52:37 · answer #10 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋