If your wife refuses to have sex with you or sleep in same bed for 5years would it be unfair to cheat?

Answer 1

No, life isn't fair. You married her for better or worse. Buy a magazine and pleasure yourself.

Answer 2

It is not healthy for a man that is physically able to have sex to refrain from it especially when they are married.If your wife will no longer sleep in the same bed with you or have sex with you than there is something very wrong with your relationship.FIND OUT WHAT IT IS!You have the right to know and your happiness is just as important as hers.Don't cheat!Fix it! If she won't be honest about the situation and try to work it out ,maybe you should divorce.

Answer 3

When your in a committed relationship, cheating is cheating no matter what, you cannot justify it. It doesn't matter if your wife didn't sleep with you in two days or two weeks, cheating on her would be wrong.

Sure, things do sound fishy with your wife, like she may be up to something, but two wrongs don't make it right.

If you feel that you need to go out there and cheat, perhaps you need to really re-think this marriage.

Answer 4

My husband and I didn't have sex for 7 years and he did cheat on me and it has totally destroyed every ounce of trust I have ever had in him- it was a physical problem that I had -that's why we weren't having sex- and I felt guilty about him not getting any (from me!) and as stupid as I was, since he never asked me for it I just assumed he was okay with not getting any!! We have been married for 28 years and we are still together and trying to work through this "thing" he had going with the s**t he was seeing and it isn't easy for me becuz he sees her at work everyday and there's nothing we can do about that but I feel cheating becuz of not getting any is WRONG and you need to sit down and talk with your wife before you do anything you'll regret later on!!

Answer 5

No one here realizes how mercenary the courts are to husbands when they divorce. If there are children involved you'll find yourself living in your car, so I can easily see why living in separate beds or rooms is more realistic. At least he has a place to live.

Personally I wouldn't want sex from her and consider "cheating" to be a logical response. "Cheating" on what ? The only people that think it's cheating are the ones who think it's wrong if he doesn't put up with it.

Answer 6

It's still cheating, I spent many months sleeping in a different room from my wife and we didn't have sex for a year-but I didn't cheat on her and I never put any serious consideration to doing so.

Answer 7

Yes it would be wrong to cheat. You are still married and that is called Adultery. No matter how you look at it. If you are still bound together by law, you will be cheating on her. Have you asked what was wrong? There has to be some reason she is being so distant. Try counseling. If you love your wife, try to fix whatever the problem may be.

Answer 8

there's no such thing as cheating since marriage was invented by humans, enforced by humans... ---- of course, I'm just talking out of my hole here ------ I'm not a cheater but I was in High School --- I still feel guilty but no regrets -- that'd be a waste of time and energy ------ I learned a lot from those experiences. I learned that it's not worth it ------- I agree with whoever -- Be fair to yourself and to her, get a divorce and call it good. If she makes you feel guilty, I guess you'll have to play the game and make her feel guilty back. Whatever -- at least you have a choice, eh

Answer 9

I think that after 5 weeks, let alone five years, that sort of marrital neglect could begin to warp your sense of what is right or wrong.

That said, I can't blame you for thinking about cheating.

Take a step back though, and think about it before you act.

I don't know if you were married in a church or not. If you were, keep in mind that the sacrament of marraige not only creates a bond between you and your spouse, but it also creates a special bond between you and God. -You not only promise your spouse "to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part." but you promise God...

So before you cheat, consider the fact that you probably would regret not remaining faithful to God.

Granted sacrament equals sacrafice, but after five years I would say that your spouse is breaking the vows by negelcting you.

Before you cheat, do one of two things: Divorce her outright, or take steps to fix it through counseling and then see where you end up.

But I would encourage you to do something. Don't sit there wondering and waiting, and allowing your mind to get wrapped up in infidelity, instead turn your mind towards a constructive solution.

Doing that will be better for you in the long-run.

Good luck, I wish you the best, and the strength to do the right thing.

Answer 10

Yes. Cheating is cheating!!!!! Since you are married you owe her the respect of offering to go to couseling or therapy first.
Then.....if you've tried everything leave before you hurt someone. Do the respectful and best thing and end it if sex is an option you are not willing to live without.
Try to do everything you can to repair any damages or problems she may have to deal with first.
Adultery is adultery and there is no good way to describe it.

Answer 11

There is absolutely NO justifiable reason to cheat!!!

Cheating is WRONG, no matter WHAT the circumstances are.

There is WAY more to marriage than sex. You people need to grow up and realize this.

If my wife didn't want to sleep in the same bed with me, I would not be offended by it. I've heard of couples that don't sleep together, because one or the other snores really bad, or tosses & turns during the night.

If she doesn't want sex, talk with her and find out the reasons as to why not. Seek marriage counseling, but cheating will NEVER solve anything, if anything it will just give you a big problem that could destroy your marriage.