Do you claim to be good or goodness is thrust upon you ??

Question

You know who & what you are.
There are streaks of goodness & badness in everyones character & personality.
No one is perfect.

Well there are some people who claim to be good or perfect & there are some on whom goodness is thrust.
Some particular quality or your deed impresses people & they start telling you - " Oh, how good you are !!". " You are so nice "
" You are so sweet ", " You are a very very good person ". & so & so.....
It happens sometimes ....
And you want to be just yourself not categorised between good & bad. You want to be free & just yourself & you don't want your future actions & decisions, your opinion & thoughts , your choice to be judged by others on the basis of your " that particular quality & deed " that pleased them.

Hope you understand my point.
So in which category do you fall & how do you feel ?

Thanks for your kind response :)

Ha ha ha !! Gogo :)

Ya C.J i can understand your point :)

Answer 1

I just wanna be me & i dont claim to be good....but ya i come under pressure sometimes to show the othersa side of me which is not me & then it feels very un-natural....u know the formalities & that people around me expect me to be nice.., but...i mean....i am what i am & only i know that, the world sees me the way they want me to ....so i have to be like the way society expects...but still , i claim that i am not bad.....i mean..... give me a break ... thats too much confusion... hope u understand my point..!!

Answer 2

I guess in some ways I am a good person. But it was the way that I was raised. Being a good person and doing good deeds is not a bad thing. If people judge me according to my good deeds then so be it. But I know what you mean. You feel that at that point you have to continue to do good in order to feel accepted. You feel that you now have a reputation to uphold whether you want to or not. Just be yourself and not what people expect you to be.

Answer 3

As far as I know myself I am a person who doesn't harm or hurt other feelings. Some times I get into situation where I am ill treated or my feelings are hurt and I will get this bad thought of hurting them back or take revenge on them. But I don't do this. I will think, what will be the difference between them and me. I have learned this from childhood friend. When I was kid I used to take revenge if somebody hurts me. Then I got this friend who changed me. I have learned a lot from her to take things positive, not to hurt back etc., I am not telling I am perfect or I am saint but this is one of the goodness I have got in me. I believe in God and when I try to do something bad my conscious will tell me that if I do bad GOD will punish me and I will just let it go. If I don't like a person or people who hurts me I just ignore them and eliminate them from life.

Answer 4

Throughout most of my life, I've felt that goodness has been thrust upon me. ("You're so nice", "you're so smart", "You never do anything wrong" blah blah.) The pressure was intense, and I almost imploded. I quit college, partied like crazy...generally did anything to be different than what people thought I was.

Years later, I still feel it, but don't allow it to negatively influence my life. I went back to school, and am basically following the same path that I was following years ago. The only difference is I no longer allow other's thoughts and opinions of me influence my decisions. I am just myself and I like it. I do what I do because it makes me happy.

Answer 5

Whew, man my head hurts after reading your question. There is good in most people. I like to think I am always good to go. Therefore, I usually meet goodness at the crossroads and depending on my mood I then decide which path to take. As a result, I guess goodness is thrust upon me.

Answer 6

i think of it is going to count on the 'tone' of the question/solutions. some questions are fairly meant to only insult. yet solutions that declare understanding what God will enable / disallow is somewhat boastful besides.

Answer 7

I agree with Gogo :)


Have a great day :-)

Answer 8

its better for me to star this question.only

Answer 9

2 say de truth...
i'm damn selfish...