Please someone help!! Im 13 now and i havent said anything to anyone i still live with him and acts normal and i dont know what to do or if i should say anything my best friend at school sometimes think im a bit weird cuz i dont fancy any boys but she doesnt know what happened and im really nervous and scared of them and all the boys at my school are all pervy and just want to get into a girls underwear please someone help im really confused and i want to tell someone but im too scared and the only people that know are me and him please help!!
2007-12-08 03:12:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The only person i felt close to was my Nan but she died of cancer in May and i dont think anyone will believe me
2007-12-08 10:09:00 · update #1
And im not really close to my mum either
2007-12-08 10:09:36 · update #2
This is a cry for help. You know you should tell someone. You know it's wrong what he has done to you, and you should talk about this to someone. A Councilor at your school would be the best, because they will listen to you. If you have another family member that you love with all your heart who loves you and trusts you, it would be really wise to tell them as well. Honestly... I feel really bad but you really need to be removed from your father, even if he is not doing it anymore, you need to get away from him. You could even tell the police... and you should.
The longer you hold it in, the worse it will affect you later on in life, you're young and the best time is now to talk about it to someone in authority who can help you.
He should be punished for what he has done to you and where is your mother? You should tell her! Or, your grandparents, or someone!
You shouldn't have to have this burden alone and he should not get away with it.
Sorry to hear about it.
xo
Heart
2007-12-08 07:02:03 · answer #1 · answered by ~Live,Love,Breathe~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you are in a very serious jam. I was in your place many years ago. Unfortunately my rapist didn't stop until I moved away.
It got so bad for me at almost the exact age you are that I went to a Priest and told him. I had already told my Mother and my Grandparents and it did no good. My Mother wouldn't leave him for social status reasons. She was always against me and I always just assumed it was because she knew what was going on.
The Priest got involved and I was taken from my home. It wound up in court and the rapist was punished (not by the harder standards of today though!!)
I've had issues with it all my life. I sought counseling and even took antidepressants.
Please make sure that you get professional help. Help from friends and those closest to us is not healthy or good. You need to deal with someone who is not personally involved in your life. It will be harder than you think, but in the long run it will make you a much stronger person. Always remember that it was not your fault!!! You were a victim!!!
Please get help now. Waiting just allows more problems and issues to form.
EM me, there is so much you can learn from another survivor. I have now at 47 forgiven my rapist and years ago gone on to get an MBA and am working on my PHD. I lead a very productive and positive life.
It's hard for you to see it now but God will never give you more than you can handle!!!!
Good luck and EM me if you choose!!
God Bless!!!
2007-12-08 11:26:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
with your dad i mean thats just wrong you shopuld never have bin treated that way and i think it a good idea to see a counsler about it they wont tell anyone unless your in imediet danger and with boys you should give them a chance go at your own speed most boy wont hurt you at our age it mostly just pupy love most kids at scool dont have experience enouf to talk about this right now you need to feel love and some people can give that to you but others cant you have to trust some one then you can tell them about your dad i dont think thell know what to say it wont hurt you to tell someone you trust
2007-12-08 11:38:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
As a Father myself, I think it's disgusting. I'm also a teacher. Talk to your school guidance counselor and get the police involved. Your dad needs to face the music. I will pray for you dear child.
2007-12-08 11:22:47 · answer #4 · answered by Semp-listic! 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, u really need to tell someone. I know ur scared but u need to tell someone so u can get the help that u need. I am sorry that this has happenend to u. Good luck
2007-12-08 11:31:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
your going to have to tell some one u trust. i hide my rape for months n i stayed home all day all week never left but i tol my sister n mom n i got the help i needed. even with the help im still scared but not as much.
2007-12-08 11:19:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well im a dad and i think you should tell someone, if this is still going on its a shame that he is doing this to you and you are allowing it by not tell noone about it, please get some help or if you need someone to talk to, im here, im a dad of 8 kids and one more would not hurt
2007-12-08 11:19:47 · answer #7 · answered by bigdaddy9965 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
thats awful!!!!! where's your mom? did you tell her? does he still rape you? man, i dont know what to say because ive never been in that position before...if you and your friends are really close and they never tell your secrets,then maybe theyll have some advice for you.or you cam tell a trusted adult if you have one.
2007-12-08 11:18:50 · answer #8 · answered by DiyahDaNinjaa♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your mother or talk to a guidance counsler or an adult you trust. I'm so sorry! :(
2007-12-08 11:21:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
call the cops or tell some one so u wont be scard no more
2007-12-08 11:20:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋