I wondered for those who've never been through sexual assault or anything like that, where a person would have a right to feel fearful, if it were normal for a person to feel fearful of sex. Do you think it would be the intimacy side, or possibly some mental things that are holding the person back?
What do YOU think could be causing fear in a person in this situation?
2007-12-08 02:46:59 · 11 answers · asked by cherish405 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It's just a simple fear of the unknown that's all. Don't make it into something it's not. I've been a victim of sexual abuse but when it came to real intimacy for me the sex was no big deal. I knew the difference between assualt and consenting to sex.
2007-12-08 02:57:23 · answer #1 · answered by Bunny 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you take 'Fear of the Unknown' as a basis for human experiences (= 'Virgin Territory'), the a level of 'fear' or maybe an 'anxiety' is probably quite the average experience.
You may have read the book and seen the film, but those characters were working according to a script, and the average person just isn't.
Both parties have expectations of themselves and of the other and ~ of being judged by the Other (and by their Self too) to some degree or another. And, from that experience can hang a whole lot more ~ which could just colour the rest of their lives.
Fearing or being anxious or nervous about it sounds quite reasonable actually.
'Intimacy' ~ is a whole other game which I'll leave alone, it is for me far too lengthy to get into writing about ....particularly as a great many people seem to not realise the 'Intimacy' in itself need not have anything to do with sex at all.
Sash.
2007-12-08 18:40:55 · answer #2 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of what the act of sex was originally intended to entail, its involves different levels of emotion and meaning to each person differently. For some people, its nothing but fun. For others, there is deeper meaning to the physical interaction. No other person can tell you what you should feel about the pending experience.
As with any new experience, most people will experience some degree of apprehension. If a person is feeling outright fear, then there may be some issues that need to be addressed or they're just not ready to take that step.
2007-12-08 11:14:59 · answer #3 · answered by Phienyxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There'd be a variety of reasons. As a virgin, the idea of sex just creeps be out, cause I mean... ouch >.O lol
But for others it could be fear of vulnerability, fear of the unknown, comitment, intimacy, nudity, the fact that they just don't feel ready, whatever.
2007-12-08 11:01:34 · answer #4 · answered by sindajes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do have a right to feel fearful and this could be down to a number of factors. Hesitancy can be a healthy warning sign and your bodies' defence mechanism protecting itself. Factors could be previous exposures to interpreting sexuality, your level of education [stories you may have been exposed to, etc], performance anxiety [fear of failure], needing to conform to set criteria to 'perform' sexually [peer pressure], medical or psychological reasons [vaginismus, dysparunia, Sexual disorders], your self and personality makeup and your self-belief.
Your focus may need to be how you view yourself and what value you are placing upon yourself. If you are going to engage in sexual relations who are you doing it for? Will it make you more of a person, are you needing this to identify you? Are you ready to find yourself through this? and if, are you really ready for this exploration into yourself. Maybe your fear is being fearful of what you are going to find...or maybe you may not want to find this yet...just think
2007-12-08 11:18:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it's just normal. One day you'll get over this "fear". It's just nervousness caused by the physical side of sex. It's hard to let someone else into your body, but one day you'll be ready too.
2007-12-08 11:06:09 · answer #6 · answered by Alesiù 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I would call it fear of sex. Maybe a certain level of nervousness would be involved. Maybe somebody they knew had a traumatic expeience.
2007-12-08 10:51:29 · answer #7 · answered by bgmcfn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure they could. It could be that something is missing in the relationship. Or it just hasn't progressed to that level. So it would be more of an emotional thing.
2007-12-08 10:55:14 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. For women it's a big step to allow another person to invade your body both physically and emotionally.
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2007-12-08 10:55:46 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
noreally
2007-12-08 11:35:08 · answer #10 · answered by 5 dolls for an august month 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋