where we play sex games and swap around....wondering if this would be cool or eventually ruin our friendships?
2007-12-08 02:11:36 · 17 answers · asked by rem0teking 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i would only suggest that you entertain the idea if you are truly ok with it yourself. the fact that you posted this question leads me to believe that you already have a little concern as to the outcome. if you are open about your feelings with your wife and you eventually gain more confidence with the intended result of swinging then i think you will be fine. confide in your wife how you feel and appreciate her response.
if you want to learn more about the practice and listen to others who have been through the same situation check out http://swingtowns.com or you can ask more questions at http://swingersanswers.com
hope this helps,
dawn
2007-12-12 00:41:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are serious about this, I have a suggestion or two from experience,
I would start with another couple, play the games and enjoy yourselves. I would not jump right into an all out orgy with a bunch of friends.
Make sure the couple you play with is trustworthy, you don't want mr smith stopping by or calling the wife inappropriately down the road
make sure that everyone agrees, we all stop when one wants to stop.
lay out guide lines, none of this or that is allowed
as for the future relationship issues, think about whether or not you are looking to cheat with your wife's permission or vice versa, secondly, make sure that you discuss whether or not you can handle some of the things the other will be doing or having done during the party with someone else,
great fantasies may be difficult to put into action, remember your spouse is gonna get just as dirty if not more than you are...is that cool with you?
2007-12-08 02:35:00 · answer #2 · answered by jerry kaye 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who cares about the friendship?, you should care about your relationship first. Swing takes a special mentallity because as humans we aren't programmed that way, it's also easier for couples who don't really care for each other or consider the risk of loosing each other not that much of a risk, that if it happens is not that big of a deal because they will be happy anyway or end up with another partner.
If you guys really want to swing, go out of town to a swing party and use protection, you will see that there is a difference between the fantasy and reality, you will also meet swingers who are in love with each other, ask them how they meet, in some cases they meet in swingers party where they went with their exhusband or exwife and there they saw they like each other more than their spouses. - DHUH!.
Swinging is not to do it with friends, unless it's ok to start packing and finishing the relationship sometime in the future.
2007-12-08 03:15:48 · answer #3 · answered by livingthe30s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-22 03:58:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK when your looking for your wife and she is trying to get to the other guy, then you will be looking stupid. Don't do it, it will ruin your relationship, and how do you handle something like this when kids are involved. Seen this true story on TV where the teenage kids found out there parents were swingers ruined there friendships and families. One leak, buddy that is all it takes, on somebodies end for your business to be all in the streets. Why marry in the first place if you want to play around? Just stay single or divorce one, why ruin the sanctity of marriage?
2007-12-08 02:18:21 · answer #5 · answered by stepintostep 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It's a risky game to play with your marriage and friendships. I'm not going to tell you not to do it, a lot of couples do it and I don't see anything wrong with it if both of you want it. Just be careful, and make rules and boundaries so you can keep order in your household.
2007-12-08 02:49:05 · answer #6 · answered by JONES 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
even tho it sounds cool and all but that's allot of different feelings getting involved and jealousy is very possible for someone, and then destruction of friends. Each person has to make there own choice and should not pressure any other. good luck.
2007-12-08 02:25:48 · answer #7 · answered by shadow of life. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think she will start to take interest in the other and lose interest in you. The girls may find out they don't need these men and move on without you all later on. Good Luck I don't think I could do that. Their fantasies will become reality and that could be permanent.
Just remain single and don't be married and all is good!!!
2007-12-08 02:32:44 · answer #8 · answered by darlin 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
its gonna ruin the friendship take it from me i did that with some of my friends and now my man is dating my girls husband sooooooooo noooooooooottttttttttttt a goooooooood idea
2007-12-08 05:52:12 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. know it all 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
as long as its only about the sex and not feelings it not a bad thing. but make sure that both have you have no abjection to it and make sure that you both know whats on the line.
2007-12-08 02:21:21 · answer #10 · answered by big-tdl81 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋