I think my moms boss likes her, but she's married?

Question

My mother is happily married with a great family background. I'm the only child, and she's been married to my dad for a very long time. Recently, she started a new job in July. At dinner, she always tells me the nice things her boss does for her. The first time I heard, I knew something was up with him.

She says he buys her lunch all the time. He gives her brownies and things to give to us. He's always calling her at her desk or cracking jokes. Holding doors, nice gestures. All kinds of really nice things. I'm only 16, so I don't know how adults handle these things. At the dinner table, I gave my dad a look like "something is up" and he returned the expression.

Do you think I'm overreacting and that he's just a nice man? I'm just afraid. She always talks nice about him.

Answer 1

your mom is banging her boss on his desk.

Answer 2

Honey, thank you very much for your concern and I know very few kids out there are more than worried to have a broken family. In your situation, do not tell your dad about this suspicious acts your mother is doing. Sooner or later it's going to escalate in something else, accumulate feeling toward each other with her boss and in such situation, in either way she would end up loosing her job. The best thing to do is confront your mother about all the stories she tell you. ask her if she would tell you all those stories during dinner with your dad present on how her boss treat her. If she hesitate, then tell her your concern, how it's hurt you, your frustration, feelings as far as her behavior is concerned. If you want to bring this matter to your dad, know if things goes wrong and perhaps they divorce, you will regret it afterward. so if you want to bring it to on the table, during your dinner time, tell they together that you are worried staying at home, perhaps if they can find a place for you somewhere else, it would solve alot. If they ask you more detail, simply tell them you want peace and peace of mind. This perhaps will draw attention that something is going on and your mom would be greatly concerned about it, and listen to you, correct her behavior before things becomes twisted.

Answer 3

There are 2 takes on this one and you are only looking at the worse scenario. Your Mom is in a new job and everything is always rosy in a new job.. if you fast forward to a year from now I am sure things won't be as fun! Also since Mom is getting attention she might be hinting to you both she feels like you 2 need to give her that same feeling of being special.. maybe you and Dad have been taking her for granted?

Answer 4

good day, i'd be disillusioned too, yet you may desire to comprehend that her boss would be wonderful around for a jointly as. i'm helpful that youngster (your brother or sister) is his - that's why she's getting all she is. He aint goin nowhere. Milk his azz too, considering he's the style of gadget. And get some counseling so which you do no longer land up like her. "U want" took the words magnificent outta my mouth!!!

Answer 5

she is probably excited about the new job and he probably is just a friendly type person if he gave her the brownies to give to you and your father. As long as your mother is happily married she probably isn't going to cheat on your father so they are just friends. you want to make sure that your feelings about the situation do not make your father worry though or it might cause problems in the marriage if there is no trust there. He does have to make sure that he doesn't ignore her though or take her for granted but he not be should be doing that anyhow.

Answer 6

Perhaps you and your father need to do more to show your mother that she's appreciated and cared about and not taken for granted. That'll go a lot farther to keep her "loyal" than would getting all upset and pissy.

And you do need to take a look at yourself: how would you react if someone treated you with courtesy and respect? From my perspective, that may indeed be all this guy is doing - showing a new employee how much he values her contribution to his business endeavor(s).

And yes, it might be that he's hoping to get much more out it than "just business". That's why you and papa need to be sure your mother knows you both value her and respect her and trust her and need her - without being snotty about it. In fact, that may be why she talks so nice about this gentleman - she's hinting she's been feeling a bit neglected at home. Take it for what it's worth, y'all.

Answer 7

I think you probably are overreacting. If your parents have been married a long time & are happy, I imagine your mother isn't going to fall for a man who is just being nice.Be happy your mother has a job that she likes & her boss isn't a dictator.

Answer 8

You are only 16 and you are telling us about this, honey, why don't you confront your mom about this, you are too young to be worrying about what MIGHT be going on with your mom and her boss, take the weight off of your shoulders and ask your mom, just be honest and tell her what is on your mind, do not be afraid to talk to her, she is your mother, and you are way to young to carry this on your shoulders. Or if you can't talk to her, talk to a school counselor. Or someone that you can trust.

Ok, I have the person that you can talk to, you said at dinner, you and your dad exchanged "the look", well, since your dad knows about this, talk to him and tell him that it is really bothering you, and have him talk to her, it seems like you and your dad are really close, he is the right person to go to, and after you talk to him, your dad and your mom can have a one-on-one and talk this through, if your mom knows that this is bothering you and your dad, it is important that you both talk to her about this.

It just might wake her up and bring her back to reality!

Answer 9

Maybe its her boss's personality. Does he do that to every employee? you might be overreacting but who knows.

Answer 10

it's ok he's not going to take your dad's place