should I marry him?

Question

Ime 17 and I am dating a guy who I have loved since I was 13. We have been together for 3 years now. Our fathers are business partners and my father has been telling me that my boyfriend might propose.
I love him more than life but I am scared that maybe we are to young. I also know that my father wants me to marry him because then our fathers busineses will combine and thay will be worth something like $19 billon. My father has always been interested in money, that nearly ruined my life. I am sure that I want to spend my life with my boyfriend! Should I just forget about my fathers interests and get married?

My boyfriend in 23.

my father doesn't just want money. He has a lot of money by himself. I am not going to university. I am taking over a part of my father oil business.

Answer 1

You are asking complete strangers how to handle YOUR future? Do you think thats wise?

lol, when you get married, your fathers businesses don't combine...

Answer 2

that depends. The question of what your father wants should not concern you as much as what you want to do. Do you want to go to college? Or work in the family business? Those things should both be considered. if you want to go to college, I would wait because too often getting married before college can lead to divorce. If the business combine and that doesn't work out, is it going to put a strain on a marriage? Thse are just two of the things to be considered as well as your ages. If it is real love, it will last and the longer you wait, the better chance you have of making it work for you. you are just beginning your life and you shouldn't rush into anything until you know where you are going and how you are going to get there. if you go to college to study medicine or law, for example, there is something like an 80% failure rate in marriage before college is completed because of a change in life style before and after graduation. If you do say yes, make it a long engagement with pre-marital counseling.

Answer 3

You are too young. Please, please, please wait. I had just turned 20 when I got married, and even that was too young. I knew it at the time, but did it anyway. Your sentence about your father's interest in money nearly ruining your life says a lot also. If you think that's the reason he wants you to marry, it's very much the wrong reason. Get further education, concentrate on you and your own future without your father or even your boyfriend trying to tell you what to do. Learn who your are. Learn how to take care of yourself and be self-sufficient. Live on your own and be independent. If your relationship is supposed to be forever, he'll still be there when the time is right, but now IS NOT the time.

Please listen to me.....I've been there, and would hate to see someone else rush into marriage like I did.

Answer 4

Forget your fathers interests. And if your bf does, or has propose, only say yes if you really want to be with him. And at 17, your way to young. I know. I'm 17. I'm waiting till after college at least to get married. When/if he asks you to marry him, dont think about how happy your father will be, think about something else. And wait for a while too.
Good luck

Answer 5

You are 17 and probably still in high school....whats the rush!?! Give yourself the chance to graduate and perhaps get a college degree. Once you get married, it is tough to do the things you would have done before... like go away to college or even travel! If he proposes and you choose to say yes, then make sure it is because it is what you want and not because this is what you father wants.

Answer 6

You are too young. I'm sure you still have to finish your education and go to college. You and your boyfriend need to set your priorities in the order that will best serve you the rest of your lives. Don't choose who or when to marry to accomodate your father. His business could go belly up at the most unexpected time. Be prepared to make your own money! Becoming independent is essential if you want to be happy. You've got lots of time!

Answer 7

You are too young to get married. Maybe he is the one for you and maybe he isn't, but you are too young to know now. Have you ever dated anyone else? Your father isn't the one who has to live with your boyfriend, you are...so I'm sorry but his wishes on whether you should marry or not marry are irrelevant. Get out there and live a little, if he's the one you'll realize it and if he's not you'll be so glad you didn't jump into this.

Answer 8

You don't get married just because it will make your father billions, you marry your boyfriend only if you love him & really want to be his wife. If you are feeling that you are to young yet, then you pretty much answered your own question & I would wait, if he loves you, then he'll respect your wishes to wait awhile. But whatever you decide, should not have anything to do with your father wanting you to, especially just to benefit him. Good luck in your decision.

Answer 9

I guess u r too young to get married...Enjoy life now..let life take its own course and dont get married on an impulse just to enhance your fathers' business...
If after a couple of years, your relationship survives the trial of time, you can think of tying the knot!

Answer 10

First you are too young. Wait till u hit 21. Dont rush to marriage and take this as advise from someone who got into it at 22! and still thinks she should have waited till 27!!

Secondly marry him simply coz of your feelings for each other. keep you dad out of it. This is your decision his was when he married your mom.

Good wishes.