My mom had twins recently and it's her first time having twins and having boys. This was their first night home and my mom barely got any sleep, and I feel bad because I can't do anything to help her. Can anybody give me tips like...how to get them to sleep, and stop crying, and any other things you think could help?
2007-12-07 23:53:57 · 7 answers · asked by Christina 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I think it wonderful you want to help!Babies check list of needs: hungry -tired- comfortable,That where world at the beginning.the first 2 are pretty much easy to figure out it's that comfortable where you needed to be a mind reader.Check diapers,are they to hot to cool ,do they hurt meaning gas bubble, stomach pain,constipation,colic,to noise, to bright and so on.
OK now problem solving many babies like to be swaddled it remember them of the womb,rocking give some babies comfort because it is the motion of walking that they felt for 9 months.Sing or softly talk to them it help them build to bond in their new world .Smile at them so they know someone loves them. Ask your Mom what you can do to help, believe or not sometimes washing dishes or cleaning the house is the best help you can offer. Mess house cause stress and babies can feel the stress.
2007-12-08 00:21:17 · answer #1 · answered by noteworthy5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh the poor thing! What a lovely daughter (i'm assuming!) to want to help her.
Firstly run through the basic list of baby needs like....
does bubs need a nappy change?
is the baby too hot or cold?
is the baby hungry or need burping for wind/gas?
is baby not tired enough or over tired to sleep?
If none of these things seem to make a difference then the best thing you can do at this point is to take the baby and basically try and rock it to sleep in your arms or in the position it seems to like the best. Some babies like really close chest to chest contact with someone and a sh,sh,sh noise and a rythmic patting on the bottom to drift off to sleep.
It can take a while to calm a crying baby so don't expect it to stop cyring and sleep in a few seconds, but if you can take just one for the night so your mum only has the other one to take care of then that will make all the difference.
Sometimes a warm relaxing bath helps to soothe a little baby as does a pacifier so try all options but don't give up!
Most of all though, ask your mum what she really needs you to do and be patient with her. Call other friends or family around to help out with some basic housework like washing and dishes and cooking, then you and your mum will have a little less to worry about.
Best of all give her a hug and tell her she is doing a fantastic job and is the best mum in the world. Those words will be music to her ears and will give her a little extra energy to keep going.
Good luck and congrats on your new brothers!
2007-12-08 00:16:48 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy; mum to 3 monkeys! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They will cry and not sleep.....
Babies are like that. Specially on the first 3 months of life. When you have twins it's extra difficult because of course...you have two, so it's double the work.
There's a lot of diaper changing at nights as well, and feedings at this time, because they are so little, they need to be fed more and changed more. That will change.
***For now try to help as much as you can around the house. maybe giving her a break to go get a shower, wash the dishes, do the laundry, and so on***
Once they start going into their 2nd and 3rd month, things will start getting better. It's always hard, she'll get the hang of it in a few weeks. She just needs time to get a routine going.
At this time...she really needs to bond with them. i really don't recommend letting a baby....cry at this time...for more that 15 minutes. You can do that later, they have too many needs when they are newborns.
You can feed one while she's taking care of the other of course, that's a great way to help her as well. Also you can try, what they show you in the hospital sometimes. When you rap the baby in the blanket, so they are nice and tight. Not so tight, but it gets them nice and bundled up.
http://www.babycenter.com/baby-sleep-basics
Good luck Hun.
Lucy
2007-12-08 00:11:26 · answer #3 · answered by Photographer, USN Wife & Mother. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Babies do not generally sleep through the night on their first night home or for about 6 weeks or more. Sometimes it takes several months before that happens. Unless they have colic, they are crying because (1) they need feeding, (2) they have wet diapers, or (3) they have not yet learned how to self-sooth and get back to sleep.
What you can do to help your mom is check their diapers and change them if necessary. If she is breast feeding, she will have to do that even though she is tired (it is normal to be tired after giving birth, BTW), but if not, you can certainly help feed them.
As for helping them learn to self-sooth, once they have been changed and fed and there is nothing else obviously wrong, they can be allowed to cry for 10-20 minutes in their cribs. It is very hard for some families to do, but the pay-off is that most babies will get better at going back to sleep on their own and finally sleeping through the night if you can put up with some crying.
One more thing: with my babies, I was always careful to keep the light very low at night, and stay very quiet, to help the babies learn the difference between day and night. It may seem obvious but maybe not. Good luck. They are only this little for a short while and your mom will feel stronger soon.
2007-12-08 00:07:39 · answer #4 · answered by Trilby 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
this is not going to be a popular answer follow a set night time routine - bath, bottle, book, bed or similar. wish your baby good night with the same words and put him down. if he cries and there is nothing wrong, go in every 5 mins, keep lights down, verbally comfort him, give him his dummy etc but dont pick him up. we went in every 5 mins for over an hour the first night, half an hour the second, and now - only a month on, he sleeps straight away. it does feel cruel but unless you want a little boy who doesnt sleep, then a young man who cant sleep, you owe it to your son to show him he CAN do this himself. if he needs you as part of his routine, he'll need you forever. also, keep the cot just for sleeping. that way he'll associate it with bedtime
2016-05-22 03:39:01 · answer #5 · answered by janell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This early in infancy they will do alot of crying and will wake up possibly every 2-3 hours. Their nervous system and digestive system are very immature at this stage that is alot of reasons for their crying. Plus they don't know better, they don't even relize their hands are attached to them yet or even what they are, your getting the point right? You have to do a lot of holding rocking singing. Bouncers and bassinets with the vibrations in it greatly helped with my infant, thank god for that invention. As their system's matures you will see a difference as the days and weeks go on. This was providing they are not crying due to something more serious. It's to soon to tell if it's colic. You'll just have to be patient, this crying phase is normal.
2007-12-08 00:05:48 · answer #6 · answered by koda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to put them to sleep lay them on your chest in a quiet room and pat there backs softly it always works with my little sister
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to stop crying give them a pacifier or bottle
hope it helps!!!!!
2007-12-08 01:07:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋