I meet this guy from a dating site a few weeks ago and we have been exchaning emails to each other, and we have lots in common, and we are both planning to meet on new years eve. He lives an hour away from me and he wants to drive to where I live & pick me up, then take me to a new years party at the beach watching the fireworks, and then he wants me to sleep over at his house, and he'd take me home the next morning.
I'm 15 & he's 19.
My parent's don't know about it...do you think this is a good idea? Just looking for other people's advice...I really want to see him, thanks fo answering! :)
2007-12-07 23:39:12 · 18 answers · asked by Sarah C 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Do you know how many times each month I read about young girls either getting raped or killed because some guy earned their trust over the internet? I read about it too often, let's just put it that way. He may have very bad intentions and you'll never know until it's too late. Or you may not even find out about it because he could easily slip something into whatever you drink, even a glass of water. Date rape drugs disolve very quickly in any liquid.
Play it safe and do the right thing. None of us will ever know if something happened to you. And don't tell him that someone told you it can be dangerous to meet people over the internet. If you do that, he'll convince you otherwise. Your best bet is to hang out with people your own age. (I use to be a salesman -- Trust me, I could sell ice to an eskimo -- In other words, it's so easy to manipulate people (trick them into something) -- That's why I'm not a salesman anymore -- I have too good a heart)
I had to edit this and I've spent a lot of time reading other people's answers. They're all right. Listen please. You've been one of my contacts and one of my fans for quite a while. That means I condsider you a freind. I mean, you're a friend I'll never meet but a friend nontheless. Please don't be a friend that never logs on again. A few other people are also correct ----- He's 19, you're 15 --- He's out for ONE THING ONLY -------
One guy hit it right on the button. He could have other people come and take turns with you. You may never know about it because you might be unconcious. You just never know with people these days. ---- This kind of stuff happens every single day all around the world. I wish you were my neice because she has been fully educated about all this crazy stuff that happens. I'd die if that happened to her. We all know what it's like to be curious. We also know what CAN happen. (curiosity killed the cat)
2007-12-08 22:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by BIG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't meet him in that way the first time. You have to do the whole public place thing. Maybe you should pick a different day for your first meeting. As in the day time, considering you are only 15 and he is an adult. Obviously he simply wants to have sex with an underage gal. And if you have told him you will sleep at his house....well don't be shocked. And maybe you don't care if that's what you do, then fine. Just not a smart thing to do. He's 19. And that isn't a big age difference for adults. Personally I would wonder why a 19 year old would want to date a 15 year old little girl. Or can he just not get one because he is weird and older girls see that.
Just be careful dear. A couple weeks of emailing and instant messages doesn't tell a whole lot about a person.
2007-12-07 23:54:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG
do you know how dangerous that is? You should meet him before the new years eve thing in a public place. and then if things go well maybe you should take a friend to this beach thing.
from my experience there has always been alcohol involved at new years eve parties and him being 19 and you only 15 puts you in a very dangerous situation.
What does a 19 year old want in a 15 year old? How will you get home if things dont go so well? If he comes to your house to pick you up, he is going to know where you live.
Not trying to spoil things but just be careful and think it through, im sure you are smart, just use your head
2007-12-07 23:45:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
No way. It's too dangerous, you don't know if he's a straight guy or a psycho pretending to be one, you'll be all alone for a whole day with a complete stranger. I don't think is a good idea, you'd have to talk to your parents, and they will say you the same thing. If you were literally surrounded by your friends the situation could be a little less tollerable, but if something goes wrong, how could you go back home early? No, no, it's too soon, and it's to risky sleeping over with a stranger
2007-12-08 00:02:32 · answer #4 · answered by qzmaster591 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can actually judge someone more if you meet them in real life rather than on here...people can make up stuff on here to try to impress others or what about those young girls who thought they had been mailing some guys their same age & when they met up with them they were dirty old men & one poor girl was murdered recently in a situation like that....you can use your gut instinct & senses more when you are chatting to someone say at a bus stop.or in person,.but on line you never really know who anyone is...but some have met & got on great, it is just all about been careful really & not taking any risks especially for younger people who may be too trusting..also lots of people are probably married online but still chose to have fun with other women online.... personally for me anyone I dated was never someone I met in the pub anyway...was either through a pal or someone had known for a while..
2016-05-22 03:37:55 · answer #5 · answered by janell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think it's a good idea! It's stupid to trust some guy you met on the internet. Some people will say anything you want to hear to get you where they want you! What if this guy ends up being a pedophile and you're just falling right into his hands.! Don't be an idiot! DO NOT GO WITH HIM! You know in your heart it's wrong, or you would tell your parents.
2007-12-07 23:49:11 · answer #6 · answered by Jinxyblue 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
you gave a complete stranger your address?????sleep over?are you out of your mind?he could be anything!!he could be a nut case!he could be a porn pimp!!meaning that he will want to get you naked have sex with you and have it all taped so that he can sell it on the internet!he could also have friends over and they can all take turns on you!i mean,your parents won't know where you are,right?!he could keep you there and torture you!i know this may sound far-fetched,but it has happened!DO NOT MEET THIS GUY ALONE!!!if you really want to see him,then you meet him with a friend,NOT ALONE!!do not go to his house!a 19 year old does not want a 15 year old,unless it's for sex!!and this smells like teen porn to me!it has happened!!a 14 year old from florida went and met this guy and he had sex with her and made a video and played it on the internet!not only that,but he had 30-40 year olds over and they had sex with her too!and all this got on video and was played on the net!a few weeks is not enough to know somebody!let's say,for example you met a guy at the mall,and you talked for awhile and you had the same interests,would you go to his house without your parents knowing?without anybody knowing?and have sex with him?he wants you to have sex,nothing else!and he;ll joke later how he got a foolish girl to come to his house!!please,sweetheart,DO NOT GO!!get to know him more!and if you told him where you live then you must tell your parents that!!he could be stalking your house this very minute!!
it is always better to be safe than sorry!!
if you ever need more advice about things,then just e-mail me and we can talk!never do things like this that could prove to be dangerous!!and ALWAYS,and i mean ALWAYS have a friend with you,no matter whom you would want to meet in the future!!
2007-12-08 00:02:34 · answer #7 · answered by ....FED UP............ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You might be a bit too young. Is it legal where you live? What if your parents finds out? You got a lot to explain that time. Think carefully. He might be lying to you; see if you trust him or not. Maybe tell a very close friend and see what she thinks about it. It's very dangerous for you to sleep over at his house.
2007-12-07 23:43:43 · answer #8 · answered by Brendiie™ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not just NO but HELL NO. Do you ever watch the news. This may be a great guy but you or I or better yet your parents don't know that. What if this guy is not 19 but 49 and a sexual predator. Don't do it if he like you have him come over and meet your parents. Once again, Not just NO but HELL NO.
2007-12-08 00:13:01 · answer #9 · answered by Big Will 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Eh, goodness! You're only 15!
I'm 28 and i wouldnt do such a thing as meeting someone from a "dating site" (btw, i dont subscribe to one)...that's very very very dangerous for your age!
Listen to all the good advices you get here...wise up girl, thats all I can say...
2007-12-07 23:51:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋