I am in my 30s… and I never have orgasm.. its feels like I am not 100 % okey….
The wired things that I can have it in my dreams or when I am with my self…
I did have fantastic lovers and I really enjoy S..
But when I have a long relation, I start to feel even worst (about my self) when I see my partner enjoy and I have to fake …….
I start to loose interest to S..
I can not talk about this with my partner .
Is some medicine for that
Pls help
2007-12-07 22:55:25 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Thank you to all of U
2007-12-10 02:31:57 · update #1
Get a vibrator and put it on your clitoris... this should lead you to orgasm... also talk to your doctor, certian meds often inhibit orgasm ( like SSRI'S ) and others might help you ( Like Buspar and Wellbutrin )
2007-12-07 23:43:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok first off an orgasm is an orgasm alone or with partner, don't discredit them. Only about 30% of women have orgasm through penetration.
If you are having problems because you are feeling your partner is judging you buy a love mask. You can not see him plus it heightens your sensations. Also if it is seeing your partner try positions where you are not facing him like downward facing dog or reverse cowgirl. Also have you looked into the use of sex toys like a simple silver bullet in the bedroom. The more orgasms you have the more you want which brings your sex drive up. Also you can buy stimulants that will heighten sensation for you. Alot of lubes offer enhancers into the lubricants.
I wish you the best. :)
2007-12-07 23:46:26 · answer #2 · answered by Creatively_braindead 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kudos to those who pointed out only 1/3 of women can achieve orgasm during intercourse!!!
Girl, you are NORMAL. You are being very hard on yourself for not being able to do something that most women live their whole lives not being able to do. Being hard on yourself will make more difficult to orgasm when you want to, so take a deep breath...
I never had an orgasm during intercourse until I met my husband. That's because his penis hits my g-spot. I suggest you and partner go for a g-spot hunt, first with fingers, than vibrator and then his penis.
Also, it might help to for you to stimulate your clitorous during intercourse. This is one way to ensure you have an orgasm, especially if you aren't in the right position for his penis to hit your g-spot.
If your partner finishes before you, you can either take matters into your own hands or let him know that you did not finish. Unless he's a jerk, he will respond positively and help you along.
By faking orgasm, you are telling your partner that you are satisfied with your sex life and nothing will change. And believe me, if you can't talk to him about your sexual needs, you'll never get what you want. Even if you write it down or buy a book for him to read, marking things you'd like... express your desires so you can fulfill them!
2007-12-08 01:12:36 · answer #3 · answered by divineblue_tigerlily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whenever you have sexual family, do no longer continually anticipate a woman or a guy to orgasm. i think of this subject has gotten so overboard and human beings anticipate their companions to orgasm continually that's why human beings (women human beings particularly) fake it. if your companion won't be able to orgasm, don't be offended...it fairly is a results of many stuff...
2016-11-14 21:09:34 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't get down on yourself for this. I am in the same boat. Never had one from sex, but i am fantastic by myself. What I learned to do is to start out with my man and my toy..That way i get off, he watches, n loves it..and then i return the favor. It wasn't fair anymore to fake it, and not worth the energy. Keep trying but if it doesn't work, he'll understand. He rather you be truthful than fake it forever. Just remember that it isn't your fault. We can't control everything in our lives, even if it is sex.
2007-12-08 00:22:16 · answer #5 · answered by lily80231 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to ask ur partner to continue doing what u like even after he has reached his climax
it usually takes girls more time to reach orgasm
its men responsibility to help u achive it or u will have to satisfy urself if u r shy to ask it to ur bf
2007-12-07 23:14:25 · answer #6 · answered by sas35353535 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only medicine for that is talking to some sort of sex counselor. Your problems sound psychological instead of physiological. I think you just need to talk to someone. Unfortunately our state of mind can totally ruin sex.
2007-12-07 23:06:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can do it yourself so you are capable. Women are generally anatomically incorrect for orgasms during intercourse, sadly. Teach your partner how you do it yourself or just do it while you are having sex. Males do everything in their power to have an orgasm during sex so you should too.
Oral sex works too.
2007-12-07 23:05:40 · answer #8 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This site gives a clearer answer than I can.
http://www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/arouse_indx.htm
2007-12-08 03:39:15 · answer #9 · answered by adanarama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok Well first of all tell abt ur nature and health. View hot films. Sometimes i call for spanking. Tell ur partner for spank you.
2007-12-07 23:07:53 · answer #10 · answered by malay_oza1 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋