Someone I know (who is significantly financially better off than me) rarely calls me, but sends me text messages telling me to call her.
Often when I call, she's busy and says "I'll call you tomorrow" but she never does. I wait for her to call and then after a few days she'll send me a message along the lines of "Don't you care about me anymore/What did I do/Why haven't you rung me, call me now"
On the rarely occasions that she calls me, the conversation is short and sweet, but if I call her, she talks non stop for an hour and I don't get a word in edgewise. Then I get the whopping big bill.
Is it just me or is that rude?
2007-12-07 20:24:55 · 31 answers · asked by . 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes 8 track, I'd call you :)
(((((Spike))))) Thank you :)
Icy - lol :) I have $79 cap with $500 worth of calls. (she won't talk on her land line, only her mobile) I exceeded my limit of calls the other month, mostly listening to her talk about the fleas her dog has...
I think I need to get a backbone...
2007-12-07 20:57:46 · update #1
Tash.. you are an Aussie right? Well, we got a Telstra plan for home phone calls... $1.50 or sommat capped anywhere in Australia... and for 20 mins international.... we pay more per month for the line rental.
.. Now.. optus have a capped call plan too tied in with broadband.. that is a ripper.... free calls anywhere in Australia... you just pay for your broadband for 12Gb or sommat.... I think it's $99.. no extra line rental.
Now .. don't be so inconsiderate. There is a reason your friend is wealthier than you.. she has worked out that it is better to use other people's money. If you want to keep her as a friend (Only God would know why) ..,. then change phone plans.. cause you won't change her.
:)
EDIT:
If her carrier is Otus.. you can call optus mobiles as part of that capped plan!... worth a try. Actually, I have 5 mobiles in our household.. we call each other for free on a group plan... maybe you could sort that out with her... then she might call you more often.... just a thought...
2007-12-07 20:46:02 · answer #1 · answered by Icy Gazpacho 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It may seem rude to you, but this girl sound like she is having abandenment issues. She may not relize that you are always calling her and she never calls you. Try this next time she texts you and says call me try telling her to call you when she gets the chance. If she calls you right away then she may not have known when it was ok to call. If she writes back and tells you to call her again talk to her and tell her how you feel. Let her know she is welcome to call and that you will call her too. That way she knows you care but understands that you should be spliting the cost of the phone bill.
2007-12-07 20:36:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is rude. She expects you to pay for the priviledge of talking to her? You should determine the amount you are willing to pay to keep in touch by phone. You might want to add a touch of humor by telling her you could take her to lunch with what it is costing you to talk to her. She eithers values your friendship or not.
Edit: Gaz makes a very good point about getting the best phone plan for your needs, whether or not you stay friends with the minute burner!
2007-12-07 21:04:00 · answer #3 · answered by One Wing Eagle Woman 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Rude
2007-12-07 20:45:53 · answer #4 · answered by American_Dago 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tash, next time you call, maybe you could preface the conversation by saying "I can only talk for a couple of minutes because we're kind of watching our pennies lately, but maybe we can IM as soon as I hang up." That way at least she's aware that the cost of the call is an issue. *hugs*
2007-12-08 01:52:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Either she is very busy, which she gets your message and forgets you called, or she is trying to cover up for not calling you. It could be a head game shes playing with you. Maybe she is dodging you and don't want you to suspect her. She is being polite and she doesn't want to hurt your feelings?
I would just e-mail her if I could or ignore the H-U-S-S-Y!
2007-12-08 03:26:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally would not continue to be the one doing all the calling and racking up the big bills. Next time she texted me, I'd text back and say "I'm free, you can call ME now".. At least make it even, half the costs should be hers and half should be yours..
2007-12-07 20:28:24 · answer #7 · answered by DTott 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
omg, i have a friend who used to do the same thing! if she really needs you, SHE will call you to talk to you, you can message her once in a while but if she wants the long phone calls she better call! lol, i mean seriously its ok if its once in a while but its not ok if she always does it! you try doing it to her from now on and let her know how you feel! ;)
2007-12-07 21:00:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're righ this is a bit rude. I usually try to avoid people like that, if she wants to talk to you then she should call you. Besides you don't need to waste your friendship on people like that, spend more time with people that make you feel comfortable.
2007-12-07 20:33:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's rude. I suggest you give her a cold shoulder. If she's irresponsible and inconsiderate as a friend, give her a hint or two. If it doesn't work, she's not worth your time, even if she's the granddaughter of Donald Trump.
2007-12-07 20:31:01 · answer #10 · answered by Master Strategist 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋