My date is married n he has three children.He is a superb nice man.I know he likes n loves me so much and at the same time,he had never ever say bad things about his wife yet he loves her so much n appreciate her for supporting him in their 17years of marriage.
At the same time,he gave me everything that i need and always makes me happy.He take care of me as much as how he care for his family.I have a very2 good relationship with his family and honestly i love them as if they're mine.
The problem is that,I dont want to continue cheating his wife. If one day she found out the truth,I am very sure that she will be hurt badly.I love this man whole-heartedly but I dont wanna hurt his wife and his three beautiful children. Please give me ur opinion on what I should do and how am I to face if u think the best way to solve this is,walk away.
Thank you.
2007-12-07 19:47:25 · 17 answers · asked by keen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been where you are. I dated "Mr. Wonderful Married Man" for 2 years and in the end I was left with a broken heart and shattered self-esteem. In the beginning he told me that he had 3 significant others: his wife & 2 kids. They took priority. In the end he said "I can't see you anymore" and just like that the man that loved me--left me but he was never really with me.
Married men who cheat love themselves. He is good to you because you are doing him a favor by allowing him to "date" you without demanding that he choose between you & his wife.
You say that you don't want to continue cheating his wife and IF she found out she would surely hurt badly--she is already hurting b/c the "love", attention, & affection he gives to you belongs to her & he is probably not giving her as much since he has to share it with you.
You should let go & move on because YOU could be hurt. Women today go crazy over their men and most times they take it out on the other woman. If you value & respect your life & yourself END IT NOW!! There are too many good, single men out there to love!! I have a great guy that loves me & that would never treat me like a 2nd choice--you can have true love one day to! It's your choice!
2007-12-07 20:39:46 · answer #1 · answered by Mackenzie Walsh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just walk away with no explanation.
He truly doesn't deserve any. He should know. And truth is, if he truly loved you, he'd have made a choice to break up with his wife, or let go of you a long time ago. That's what true love is about. You have to love someone so much that you want what is right for them, even if it's not for you.
As it is, he is being weak and is using you.
He will not leave his wife and can't have enough of you.
But, only you know if that's you want for your future.
You can also just tell him things the way they are and still walk away.
That situation was wrong right from the start.
A married party is not the right person to date, in any way.
They have to make a choice, either they are available or they are not.
Good luck honey!xxx
2007-12-07 21:02:15 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating someone who is already married is definately wrong. I know a few people in this situation and they are actually dumb enough to believe that the man is going to divorce his wife and marry them. The man is after only one thing, he can have his cake and eat it too. You are a fool if you don't end now. You, his wife and kids are only going to be hurt in the long run. Think about, how would you feel if you were in his wifes shoes.
2007-12-07 21:46:19 · answer #3 · answered by hippiechic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like expected, most people here will condemn you in the name of morality and all that. I will be a little different and tell you that life is never fair and our hearts are not very smart when it comes the the choice of who we fall in love with.
if this man makes you happy, makes you complete, enjoy it till it lasts. What matters here is if both of you are ok with this and that you are getting the sastfcation u both need. Morality, fairness can all wait outside the door.
Many single men out there who will not make you ahppy like this man so dont give up on this love coz society brands it wrong. Its your own life and you are the only one accountable.
One day he might decide to walk out on you and go back to his family, well even single men dump their galfriends for new ones so dont let it stress you.
give your all and enjoy as much.
2007-12-07 20:07:34 · answer #4 · answered by Essie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
walking away is easier said thn done. it depends on how long you have been seeing this man. you should have never allowed yourself into this situation,but its too late now and you must end it. you describe yourself as if you are a close frind of the family.if so,you havent only been fooling this mans wife,but the entire family of whom you are. if you care about this mans relationship at all with his wife and family,end the affair NOW. this os going to have to come from you because he is obviously not minding what hes doing one bit. there are manySINGLE men out there whom can give you the love and care that this man is giving you,and you dont have to worry about hurting anyone.reguardless of how old his kids are,put yourself in thier shoes and think about what it would do to you if some woman came and tore your parents and family apart.my point here is that someone has to be the better person here and it isnt going to be him........
2007-12-07 20:01:42 · answer #5 · answered by fishin for answer 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
STOP DATING HIM. SImply tell him you don't think this is a good idea, and walk away. There areplrnty of men like this who are single. Get away from his family too. Yes, it will be rough, but its the best thing for you. You may be close to this familym but they are not yours. Do right by everyone and find your own family.
2007-12-07 20:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u said it, the real answer its to walk away from him, ure saying u love him I dont think u do, why because ure not caring for the deception and anguish all his recent family will feel once, they know the truth.....if u have a lil respect for him then make it clear to him that if he does not let his wife know about the cituation that u will do..........but then again its just my opinion and its also ure life just think if thats what u would like to be done to u too...............later
2007-12-07 19:59:46 · answer #7 · answered by angel81 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have any decency in you at all, walk away before you are blamed for destroying a family, cause if he gets caught he will let all the blame fall on your shoulders to save himself. Surely you are worth better than that.
2007-12-07 21:46:25 · answer #8 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are doing is sin. You need to repent or you will answer to God for it. If you don't, it WILL destroy you, the man you "claim" to love and his wife and children. You MUST stop seeing him or even talking to him. Find an eligible man.
Remember, love is not a feeling, it is a choice. You apparently "chose" to love this man. Now you must "chose" to not love him and find your own man.
2007-12-07 19:56:05 · answer #9 · answered by avidmark4 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT DATE A MARRIED MAN!!! WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT! There is a word for you "HOME WRECKER". You can not keep this up you are going to get hurt and think of the kids.
People that know they are the mistress are just as bad as the one doing the cheating.
2007-12-07 19:55:53 · answer #10 · answered by snowflake311 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋