Is it possible to love two women? I mean really Im in love with two women? My wife and my lover who is also?

Question

Married. I feel almost the same feelings for both . Am I crazy?

I expected this reaction from women! Now I need a mans view.

Answer 1

Seriously? You're wife doesn't deserve this. Jerk.

Answer 2

You're equating "crazy" with "uncommon." Most people, if they're lucky, love only one person. For a lot of individual reasons, you've come to love two women.

Your brain knows that this is difficult to maintain. (We won't go into the ramifications involving your lover's husband.) You also didn't say if your wife is aware. I suspect she's not, since if she were OK with you and a second woman, you wouldn't be stressed.

You are facing some heartache. The logic is impeccable- you need both to be happy, but you can't have one. And you may end up with neither.

You need a friend, not a lover. You can hire a friend. They're called "counselors." Find one, spill your guts and see if you can find a resolution to this mess. You can't keep secrets from your wife for very long, and if your lover's husband gets into the picture, everything will hit the fan.

Best bet- take your wife to a couples counselor. There's something wrong with your marriage and fixing it is the best thing you can do. Find the beautiful woman inside your wife and the other may pale by comparison. Besides, she deserves a chance to make things better within your marriage.

The poet in me envies you for having two women important in your life, but the ex-husband in me doesn't envy the grief you're dodging. Good luck, pal.

Answer 3

Okay, of course you're going to get attacked by women when you post a question like that, but I won't attack you because I'm on the other side of your position right now and I understand. You say you have "almost" the same feelings for both. You can't have your cake and eat it too, darlin', so you're going to have to choose one or the other. You've probably got a lot of options to consider--How long have you been married? Do you have children with your wife? Is your lover serious about you? Are you really serious about her? Or is it just lust? You need to talk seriously with your lover and find out where she's willing to take this. I hope you can trust her. Once you've done that, and shared with her your own wishes for what kind of future you will have with her, you need to act on the decision. If you need to tell your wife you are leaving, do it now. If not, wait some time for your heart to cool off, then admit to her that you had an affair some time ago, but that you chose to stay with her because you love her and you won't do it again. I hope this helps. Just make up your mind, and FAST, because you're only going to torture yourself and those who love you in the meantime.

Answer 4

ok, here's your male answer...it is impossible 4 u 2 have the same feelings for both or you wouldn't need 2. 4 some reason u see different things in both that if were all rolled up into one u wouldn't need the other, so quit lying 2 yourself.
you love each 4 different reasons and neither in the same way, period.

now i have a question 4 u...how does it feel 2 cheat on your spouse and how would u feel if u found out she was cheating on u. sleep well at night, or just kinda toss and turn.
does this love u say u have for your wife justify what u r doing 2 her and your family.

u hate being bashed by women, well honestly what kind of answers were you expecting when u posted a question concerning infidelity in marriage, people 2 throw a party complete with balloons and squeaky horns and a big banner saying you're the greatest husband in the world...well it ain't gonna happen. your wife and family deserve better, or has that never occured 2 u.

Answer 5

If you're in love with TWO women, then you shouldn't even consider marriage right now. Someone's going to get hurt in this situation. Do these women know about each other? Why do think you HAVE to choose one of them to marry? Can't you just date and decide if there's one woman that's a better match for you then the other. Then you'll KNOW which is the right to marry. Just be careful. If both of these women love you as well, someone will lose you in the end. There's definately going to be heartache.

Answer 6

I don't think you are crazy. The other's are right to ask if your wife knows about your lover. It is definetely not morally right to have a wife and a lover and poligamy is not legal.
I am a wife who is in love with her husband. He has a girlfriend and I left him. He moved her in 16 days after I moved out. I was devestated to know that he cared for someone else.
For your wifes sake you need to talk to her about your problem. I am sorry that you have to go through this and I hope that things work out for you and your wife. You married her and made a commitment to her. Don't be like the rest of the corrupt men out there. Love her.

Answer 7

Rubbish!!!
You're just fooling yourself because at the moment you have the best of both world.
A tiny bit of the mistress, so obviously, both of you are going to behave and have quality time.
That's why there's the magic, and time seems to fly by.
If you could be in a polygamous relationship, I am pretty sure that you wouldn't want that!!!
If you truly loved either, you'd decide to make one happy 100% and let go of the other, whoever they are!
By keeping them both and giving them some love, the one you really love is yourself! Selfish b*st**d! Cut the cr*p!

Answer 8

You're not crazy, just confused. I don't think you planned to have the personal "hell" that you're experiencing right now. Its possible to love to women, but not be in love with both---only one. All I can say is that you're in for trouble dude. I've been ther & done that...it never works out. The new chick may be nice and all that, but you didn't marry her. Girlfiends are one thing, but a wife is something more. I hope you take my word for it and don't be hard-headed & find out on your own. Its very easy to end up all by yourself, so man stick with the wifey.

Answer 9

Its possible to love two women but accept the fact that you are married and think / care more about your wife rather than your girlfriend.

Answer 10

Yes, I believe it is possible to love 2 people at the same time, one you "love" and the other, you are "in love" with.............. You just love them in different ways. In life, things happen. Who is anyone to judge? Can anyone truly explain why humans do what they do? We're all individuals with our own preferences, needs, desires and situations. Some find everything in one person and that person becomes their world, but then there are some who find that they can only find everything in 2 people. Different strokes for different people. It's your life and only you can decide what you should do and how to do it.

Answer 11

You dont know what love is BOY. Why do want a man's opinion, when youre just a little girly boy? Do your wife a favor anf grant her a no fault divorce so she can find a real man.