I'm living a nightmare.?

Question

I love my 6 year old daughter and refuse to become a weekend dad. How do I remain sane without any intimacy in my life?

Answer 1

Hello I am so very sorry but I don't think I understand your question, are you saying you are standing in a loveless marriage so that you can be with your daughter all of the time.And that is why you will not have intimacy in your life? If this is what you mean I commend you for loving your daughter so much but I can not give you any advice on this until I know if this is what you mean, please rewrite your question that we may be able to help and maybe able to wake you up from this terrible nightmare I will be looking for your revised question.

Answer 2

What are you meaning? your married but not in love with your wife anymore but wont risk making your daughter anymore unhappy then you already are by staying and being miserable and I'm guessing your arguing with your wife and causing more stress which she is probably inadvertantly taking out on your 6 year old when your not home because she is so frustrated at your attitude , if you leave you'll upset and confuse your daughter and only see her on weekends on holidays and what ever other time you can arrange and this will somehow be worse?.

If you truely see NO hope of reconciliation then end it , your daughter will thank you for it later , get out now before you do something stupid like have an affair or get so angry you beat into your child's mother for the stupidest reason.We dont know you , we dont know your wife , we dont know your problems , but if life is so miserable get out of there and cherish every moment you have with your daughter because which is more important , sex? or your child 's happiness? be the man and think long and hard.

Answer 3

You know, you cannot always have everything that you want in life. You have to decided what is best for both you and your daughter. You could remain in a horrible marriage, and try to pretend that everything is okay. But I got to tell you , kids are not as stupid as you think, and know a lot about what is going on in the house. Which could be a bad thing, because your daughter can grow up having a dysfunctional view of love and marriage. Or, you can let the marriage go, but still love and support your daughter. You can still be a major player in her life, even if you are not married to her mother.

Answer 4

Hey Bud,
If you love that little girl,,, you will never be jut a weekend Dad. I know things feel truly bad for you but if you keep her feelings in mind ,,, you will come up with ways for her to always know you love her.
Is it possible for joint custody??? How much time could you give to her and work and take care of home... These are just questions I know you have already asked yourself. Could you have full custody??
At 6 this child knows so much more than most give them credit... I am happy you love your baby,,, believe me its the best time of your life.
As for your love life..... be careful but,,,, GET OUT NOW. Find that intimacy.... Its hard the second time... don't be to jaded.
Good Luck Dad
Oldguy

Answer 5

If their is no intimacy in your marriage, then obviously something is wrong. Try to address it with your wife, seek counseling, maybe she has a sex drive problem that medication could fix. If none of this works then you need to remember that the child can feel the tension and sometimes are better off with a different situation. And you could be more than just a weekend dad, their is joint custody, and many visitation scedules that could suite your needs.

Answer 6

Need more info. Are you and her mother together and not intimate? Not together and you are not seeing anyone? Not together, but regret it? Just because you have a child doesn't mean you can't have intimacy in your life. You have to have a clear understanding with her mother of what the situation between you two really is and since you didn't provide much info, i'm not sure what that is.

Answer 7

Just don't move to far or let her move to far away from you! Rent an apartment next door, or buy a duplex , anything to keep her near. I think after a divorce you should live close by so the kids can come and go whenever, no fixed schedule crap. You don't need the courts to be a prudent and responsible parent, even if you have to buy two house next door to each other. I fell ya man, that sucks, Good Luck!!

Answer 8

I'm hoping the wording of your question is just an error in understanding what you have implied.....suggest you rephrase that to How do I remain sane without any contact with someone I love so much....

and if that is what you meant - can't you apply for custody, or more visits? Don't forget though, a lot of men who are still married only see their kids at week-ends, if that...

Answer 9

I think you need to communicate with your wife. I would hope you are staying for more than your daughter cause if daddy's not happy, then no ones happy and that is the truth and no one knows more than the kids. If you love her, maybe you should consider counceling. Think about how it would be to never be with her again and never hold her or touch her and think about someone else doing that with her. Just make it about more than your daughter otherwise I would advise you to leave and plee with a judge to give you joint custody to get more time during the week to be with her also.

Answer 10

You know what I do...I pray ALOT!
Your question seems unclear to me...what kind of intimacy are you talking about! ???
If you mean quality time with your child or not taking time to date someone because you don't want to leave your child???