My friend, who a week ago I would've called my best friend, hasn't spoken to me in 5 days. She'd been staying with my husband and me off and on for the past few months bc she's been in a bad living situation. I have a spine disease so she helps me around and we would hang out. We helped her financially and were nothing but great friends. We'd grown pretty close & trusted each other alot. Well, last weekend I took her to the ER bc she was having these wierd "blankouts" . By the time she got to the ER she was shaking & having tremors. They admitted her, her thyroid was not working and causing her to be disoriented. She asked me numerous times not to tell her mom or anyone (she's 25 years old) that she was in the hospital. I agreed, BUT knew in my mind I would call her mom if things got critical or if she had to stay longer than a day. She was discharged 24 hrs later & she called her mom. Her mom said for her to come to her home and she would look after her. When her mom arrived, she . .
2007-12-07
18:45:29
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wouldn't look at me or speak to me. She pushed past me and got my friend out of bed. I was nothing but nice to her at this point and was a little confused. After she left I got a phone call about an hour later. It was her mom telling me never to call my friend ever again. I am so confused!! I was nothing but a good friend to her. I stayed with her in the hospital and despite everyone insisting I tell her mother...I did what my friend wanted and didn't tell her mother. My friend is still with her mom I think and I haven't heard from her at all. I cried that night for an hour because she was my BEST friend. Should I leave her alone? I'm confused as to why she hasn't called me. She's an adult and so am I. Mom's don't really have a choice anymore what we do. It hurts me she hasn't tried to make one attempt at contact with me.
2007-12-07
18:49:23 ·
update #1
I don't want her to choose, that's infantile. We are both in our mid twenties. I would rather never speak to her again than her mom and she not having a relationship. . . you know? I don't understand why she hasn't stood up for me though. I have to start chemo treatment on Monday and I just don't want to be so stressed out about this as I have enough to be scared of.
2007-12-07
18:55:10 ·
update #2
coolone, I have thought about all of those aspects and expressed them to my friend. I would have called my mother before I even went into the hospital. Unfortunately my friend has some issues with her mother that she doesn't know how to deal with. She is a grown adult and could make decisions on her own. I saw her talk to many people on her cell phone with no problem at all. If she wanted her mother to know...she could have called or had me call at a moments notice. I asked her over and over if I could call her mom. She begged me not to call. I speak with my mother every day of my life and if I was in the hospital I wouldn't HAVE to tell her, she would notice that she hasn't spoken to me.
2007-12-08
06:58:27 ·
update #3