Hello yes I believe men forgive their wives as wives forgive their husbands, I also believe it takes a while because the person has been hurt and their trust has also been violated. I think it is a mistake for them to try and repair their relationship without counseling, family and friends can't help they are to close to the situation and will take sides.Lets see what does the word forgive mean, (to cease being angry or bitter towards something or someone) I don't know about you but that would not work for me to stay angry 24hrs a day everyday,I would cease being angry and feel the pain that the unfaithfulness causes.We are so very quick to say no I would not forgive them,so for the rest of your natural life you will let what this person did eat you up like a cancer. I believe we do more harm to our selves than actually what the person did There are couples that has gone through this and survived you know why because their love was stronger than the act that was committed and when you have love that is the foundation that two people build and repair their relationship on and the trust will come back when you don't forgive you never allow the heart to heal, and you just keep caring that baggage around with you.You hear people talk about a situation and they sound so angry and you think at first it just happened but nope it happened years ago because they never forgave so how could they ever put closure to it.
2007-12-07 18:55:17
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answered by Back Field In Motion 6
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The ones that do will do so over and over again. The ones that don't probably never will...
In any event, I've seen both sides forgive and forgive and forgive. I think the right thing to do is cut 'em loose. Cheating is just plain unforgiveable, and I would only forgive it if I were desperate, which I am. If I could find someone else who actually cares about me I would ditch the girl that doesn't care about me, but if you're a lonely guy who hasn't had much affection you will accept it from any source, no matter how she acts.
2007-12-07 18:19:35
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answered by perfectlybaked 7
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They say they do , they fold back into the normal every day life , he gets up goes to work , she gets the kids off to school and then does what she needs doing then he comes home they have dinner , kids go to bed and sex may occur once a week or once every 2 to 3 weeks depending on how willing he is to fake being forgiving.....
No changes are made , they dont work harder for the relationship , to give what their cheating wife thought was missing originally and 9 time's out of 10 they have a revenge affair because their manhood has been attacked and torn to bits , it takes a strong man to forgive a woman , it takes a stronger man not to cheat to regain his manhood.....
Adultery effects the whole family not just the spouse who was cheated on , so if your considering doing it , or you've done it then work your butt off to make it work , dont expect him to fix the problem , it takes 2 to make a marriage work , it takes 1 cheating spouse to destroy it , and it takes 1 hurt spouse to get nasty because the cheating spouse acts like the victim , and seriously it took both of you to get to the point you had to cheat it wasnt just all him no matter the excuses you tell yourself to make yourself feel better about your drop in self esteem and respect for the person you vowed to spend your life with and be faithful to.....
2007-12-07 19:41:18
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answered by JadeyOz 5
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I don't know about all men but I know that forgiveness is not for the benefit of the cheater but it is for you.Though I will readily forgive I will end the relationship because the act of cheating is a deliberate act and by this action one has negated their vows.There is nothing adult about adultery.Given the chance one who commits adultery will kill you.
2007-12-07 18:21:20
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answered by miraclehand2020 5
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Do WOMEN ever forgive their husbands for committing adultery?
2007-12-07 18:09:05
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answered by Equinox 6
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i will remark in this with the aid of fact I regrettably became on your spouse's footwear. I kissed a woman who became no longer my spouse, lied approximately it returned and returned, and then became uncomplicated with regard to the indiscretions a pair of three hundred and sixty 5 days later. I easily have despatched sought treatment for intercourse and Love dependancy - it fairly is a actual component and additionally you and your spouse could opt to look into it. My spouse pursued the question you had with our pastor, "Is divorce allowed by the Bible while the companion purely kisses yet another person." Our pastor, who I have faith, suggested adultery is while the acts are sexual, which potential the guy doing them could be inspired sexually in some way. In different words, it fairly is achievable to kiss with out sexual emotions in the direction of a individual, like a delightful hi or see you later kiss, yet a kiss with a sexual choose would be adultery. for sure, your spouse did no longer provide a hi or see you later kiss and neither did I. even nevertheless, a love addict can completely kiss with out it being sexually inspired with the aid of fact their popular purpose is to no longer have intercourse. it fairly is to sense enjoyed and that they think of they sense enjoyed while somebody is giving them affection. it fairly is a yearning to fulfill a deep unmet emotional choose they did no longer get as a new child. besides the shown fact that my strikes are inexcusable and entirely unacceptable, they weren't inspired by sexual objective and hence no longer adultery. it fairly is infidelity nevertheless no rely the form you seem at it. I desire you the terrific on your marriage and that i'm hoping your spouse finds help. If i'm stunning approximately it stemming from love dependancy, please understand that her strikes weren't executed with the aid of fact she does no longer love you or needs to intentionally harm you. A love addict confuses emotional dependency with love. There are 12 step communities, CSAT therapists who concentrate on this field, dissimilar books, and restoration workshops to attend. it fairly is as severe as a drug or alcohol dependancy.
2016-11-14 20:55:35
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answered by ? 4
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Men seem to have a harder time forgiving their wives compared to women, I think its because men have larger egos? But at the end of the day, its about letting it go, & moving forward, theirs nothin you can change about the past but theirs lots of things you can do to change the future & #1 dont repeat past mistakes!
2007-12-08 01:08:25
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answered by penelope 5
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Never. Once it happens, and you know for sure, there is never trust again. I am going through this right now and have no respect nor do I believe anything that comes out of her mouth. I plan to cut and run. I know this sounds vindictive but right now I hope she wisens up someday and realizes just how badly she screwed up.
2007-12-07 19:16:35
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answered by U can't b serious 4
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Somewhat more often than the gals forgive the guys, actually.
2007-12-08 04:03:01
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answered by Anonymous
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Never. Even if they do, the relationship will never go back to the pre-adultery level. Never
2007-12-07 18:12:42
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answered by Whisperer 2
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