i am a teenage girl. i have depression and social anxiety, and am getting treated, but since then all of my friends have abandoned me, except for my boyfriend of two years. he is my best and only friend left. we are in love and a great relationship. a few months ago ive been confused sexually, whether it be straight, bisexual, or lesbian. ive had sex with my boyfriend and we connected deeply; emotionally and physically. About a while ago ive started think about girls in sexual ways, while also feeling atrracted to my boyfriend. i told my boyfriend and he supported me 100%, he loved me no matter what. i have no problem with any type of sexuality, but at times i only like girls, at times i only like boys, and other times i like both. but the last few times having sex i couldnt orgasm. i dont want to break up with him to explore because he is the only person whos there for me and i am in love with him, which is why im scared i might only like girls. i just dont know. i am so confused
2007-12-07 17:21:57 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You have been with him a long time, and seem to have a very healthy and loving relationship with him. Discuss with him you new "fears". Only through discussing our "problems" with our loved ones can we truly come to a solution that works for all parties involved.
best of luck girl
much luv
jake
2007-12-07 17:26:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you're in just about the same position I'm in. I'm 16 too but I'm a teenage boy and I don't have a girlfriend or a boyfriend. I've definitely been depressed for a while now AND confused about my sexuality. From what I've heard, I think this is normal for many teens to feel these ways. Remember, you're definitely not alone. You might be lesbian or bisexual or straight. It takes time to know for sure. In the meantime, I think you should continue your relationship with your boyfriend just as a friend, or at least not intimately( if you feel that way ). You can talk to me anytime.
2007-12-07 17:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by 0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My situation has some similarities to yours. I'm 15 and I also have depression and anxiety and insommnia and I'm very shy. I have a wonderful bf who has helped me a lot who I love and he's the only bf I had and I feel very lucky.
I'm a little confused about my sexuality now (best friend has a crush on me and I have feelings for her too) but I'm not a cheat and my bf has nothing to worry about there.
If I may offer a suggestion (Easier said than done I realise)you may want to focus on meeting people and finding some new friends both online and in real life. I understand that the social anxiety makes that difficult and maybe scary but for what it's worth people will not know it unless you tell them or you are clearly anxious. Making a new set of friends is healthy and important and has you at least trying and doing something active.
And it takes the pressure off your bf! He can be a beautiful person and wonderful guy but if he's all you got that is not good for either of you. Relationships are much more happy when both people have other friends and spend time with them. It's good to have some variation in your people and good to have more than one source of support and even affection.
About your sexuality. To be honest I don't think it is the most critical thing you have going on to deal with and I wouldn't worry That much about it. Desire for sex can change with your moods and can just fluctuate.
Who you prefer sexually I'm not sure about how that changes and it's probably not something you can generalise about anyway. But again I wouldn't worry much about it and just let it flow. You say your bf doesn't have a problem with your sexuality so you are ok there.
It would be Very wrong to break up with him to explore or to cheat (cheating is much worse..I have very strong feelings about this).
For sex with him I can suggest going slow and affectionate and maybe don't worry about having an orgasm but just enjoy being with him. If you don't want to be frustrated than say that and do other things that you know or think excite you and both explore.
And honestly a few times my bf has curled up and held me while I just brought myself across and it was just as beautiful. :)
*hugs* I hope this is helpful to you. I wish you all the best and good luck. :)
2007-12-07 18:41:00 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ ~Sigy the Arctic Kitty~♥ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course this is a normal teenage question im a teenager my self & just recently i was going through the same thing i was very confused because i knew i liked boys but i was starting 2 look at girls differently like you. No this does not mean your gay your just un sure & curious i was too I think this is a phase for you though im not sure because i don't know you but from my own experience i would have to say this is a bi curious phase that will dissapear I beleve you when you say you love your boyfriend i believe you do like boys & soon once passed this phase will continue likking them but just 2 make sure try kissing a girl just 2 see if you feel anything towards them ask your boyfriend first since your so close with him he will most likely allow it If u feel any sparks when kissing the girl & you feel the same when kissing your boyfriend you will know your not straight obviously but you'll know your bisexual & this is ok i know so many teenagers that are going through this so don't feel bad ok im done
2016-05-22 03:09:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay. this has happened to me twice, i broke up with both of these boys i was going out with.
When i thought i did have feelings for this girl. It ended up tragic, because my friends left me, but also came back to me thanks to my twin sister, (which is really lucky)
Turns out then i still thought i was bi'curious frm that point because i liked this girl, but i was in a relationship. So i dumped this boy also because he cheated on me :(
Well just recently ive started college, and just broken up with another boyfriend. This was because ive got a crush on a girl, now im wondering whether i am a lesbian or just bisexual. Really confusing :(
Im also 16, coming up 17 soon. I think its just the age. We dont know who we are, until later in life. But im certainly wondering whether its just a phase.
You are who you are btw, it shouldnt matter whether you like girls like that, or what just dont lead the guy on, you did the right thing telling him =] so dont get depressed, no need to okay.
2007-12-08 01:07:30 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋