I have a "friend" who is very manipulative, I know they have alot of stress right now, but they have always been like this.I cant just quit being their friend, I am the only one theyve got, but I just dont know how to handle them anymore.
2007-12-07 16:50:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He was diagnosed bi-polar, quit taking his medications, cant afford them, and wont go talk to a psychatrist.I have to see him from time to time because we have a daughter together.
2007-12-07 17:10:23 · update #1
Be specific on the manipulation that he does with you. Point it out to him and tell him how you feel about it and that you don't want to tolerate it anymore and that it is a big part of why your relationship isn't working. If he asks you why you didn't bring it up earlier, say you weren't strong enough to discuss it then but you are getting stronger every day and you are wanting more out of your life. If this doesn't work, keep your relationship with him to the minimum.
2007-12-10 05:47:15 · answer #1 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the only one they have got eh?
That, right there, should give you a clue on the only solution other people have found to her manipulative behavior.
If you insist on remain her ‘friend’ refuse to be manipulated and call her on the behavior.
If you do this, one of two things will happen.
One: She will learn she cannot manipulate you and that you will not tolerate it. After much whining, yelling, threatening and raising the stakes as she tries to get you do what she wants, she will stop trying to play you.
Two: After much whining, yelling, threatening and raising the stakes she will decide you aren’t a very good ‘friend’ and dump you because you wont let her walk all over you.
Either way, your problem will be solved. You just need to put up with her screaming, bullying and threatening well it gets solIved.
If you don't do this, you'll just have to keep on with the 'put up and shut up' approach.
2007-12-07 16:57:08 · answer #2 · answered by chasingraspberries 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about every move you make with them.
Do not let them talk you into doing anything that you didn't want to do in the first place.
Be your own person .. and don't let them influence any of your decisions.
Hold them at arm's length.
And .. if they get to be too much ... be honest, and tell them that you are not going to put up with their stuff .. so they better catch a snap - and be real .. instead of being a manipulative person.
2007-12-07 17:02:11 · answer #3 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have to either leave them alone for them to understand what friendship is. Have you ever heard of reverse psychology (do what your friend does)? I want you the next time you see your friend to act just like him or her. If they happen to catch on to the change in your behavior tell him or her that you want to be just like they are. Things will probably change from that point on and they will behave accordingly (maybe?).
2007-12-07 17:02:24 · answer #4 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting you are the only one they've got? Are you sure you aren't just the only one that puts up with being manipulated?
2007-12-07 16:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're the only friend because you allow yourself to get walked on and everyone else has taken the hint and moved on. So should you.
2007-12-07 16:54:49 · answer #6 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your the only friend because you feel sorry for them & they use your sympathy to use you...everyone else had enough sense to walk away from that bull.
walk away before they drive you crazy...a friendship is 50/50. do you get in return what you give? I bet not.
2007-12-07 16:56:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can stop being this persons friend...they are not much of a friend to you...Friends don't manipulate....
2007-12-07 16:54:44 · answer #8 · answered by DWInSTL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well when they do something 'manipulative' stop and question their intentions.... confront the situation or they will continue to think you are blind to their actions...
2007-12-07 17:06:59 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't manipulate me: it's not a "friend" of yours, it's your daughter's father, uh
2007-12-07 17:25:17 · answer #10 · answered by Idon'tlivehere 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋