Do I have a right to not feal comfterbul talking about my sexuallity with my parents?I dont feal comfterble talking about sex with my parents.Like they ask me if I know this stuf and I say yes from health class.Now I dont want to get close to them alone in a room being afraid it will come up agan.I know all about sex and what it is and everything but they want to talk to me and I dont want.I havent shown any sighns I hope but I was sexually abused 5 times at ages 4,6,8,9,10.Would that affect my mental issues while talking about sex with my parents?I never told them it happend to me.I realy have no intrest in talking about sex with them!
2007-12-07 16:06:45 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
To be honest i am 23 years old with two children. And Growing up my parents owned a bar. I was molested by A LOT of people. My grandfather for 5 years. I told my parents straight up! I got the help i needed and here i am 23 diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder, borderline personality disorder, Bipolar disorder and so much more. I am not unstable by any means. But holding a job among other things is tough. Anyway will the sexual abuse affect your mental illness. To be honest yes it can. Being sexual abused at a young age i lost my virginity at a young age. And dated every loser and ahole i could cause that is what i was used too. I know you have no interest but you really need to get help for the abuse. You can not repsect yourself until you get help on getting over what you went through. Trust me!
2007-12-07 16:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by Mom of three beautiful kids. 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand that discussing sex with your parents is uncomfortable, but the sexual abuse is a completely different story. You NEED to discuss the sexual abuse with your parents and explain to them what happened. Then if you know exactly who did that to you, tell your parents the person's name and then immediately go to the authorities. Albert Einstein said that the world is a dangerous place not because of the bad people in it but the people who don't do anything about them. The sex talk issue with your parents is a secondary issue...you have the power to put away someone who may possibly abusing other children right now! Please do the right thing, and with time your issues with sex and discussing it with your parents will fall into place after some time and possibly therapy. Good luck....and remember you have the power!
2007-12-07 16:14:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to talk to them about it. That they're interested is a good indicator that they want to be part of your life, but you may feel somethings aren't their business. (You can always ask if they'd be comfortable knowing intimate details of their parents' lives as a diversion.)
It was only with great reluctance that I let my parents know that I was sexually active. It wasn't reluctance, so much as they were going to know as soon as my girlfriend filed a patternity suit; I figured I was better off telling them than they were hearing it from someone else. My father started asking me to take my razor to my bedroom when it wasn't in use to avoid the spread of diseases.
As to sexual abuse, it isn't your fault. You never asked for it, you never wanted it, it was inflicted upon you. You need to talk to someone about it, and Y!A probably isn't the place to do that. A school counselor, or psychologist would be a better choice. To a certain extent, I'd say that your parents have a right to know, and the person who abused you is going to keep doing it until they're stopped, which is going to be best done with your parents driving police forces on.
As to personal things, in discussion with anyone, including your parents, remember that your life is your life. Ask them to respect that, no matter what you choose to do about the previous sexual abuse issues.
Help isn't much farther than a phone call away.
D
2007-12-07 16:29:48 · answer #3 · answered by Damon A 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's completely normal not to talk about sex with your parents! I actually doubt that being sexually abused has very much to do with how you talk about sex with your parents. Nobody really does, except for really open people. If you think about your being abused a lot, then it's still having an affect on you. Keep in mind, though, lots of people were.
2007-12-07 16:15:55 · answer #4 · answered by Grace K 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Max, that is very sad what happen to you. I think the abuse contributes a lot to your uncomforting feelings on the topic and will actively play a huge roll in your adult life. You need to speak to your parents about the abuse and if you don’t feel safe or comfortable talking to them then perhaps a school councilor or look in the phone book for a sexual abuse hot line to call. I wish you the best.
2007-12-07 16:21:52 · answer #5 · answered by Spirit 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them that you're not comfortable speaking to them about it, and that you've learned all about it at school.
Yes, your past sexual abuse may have an impact on you at any time, not just talking about sex with your parents. It depends on how traumatic of an experience it was for you. You should probably seek some counseling for that if you think it's bothering you.
2007-12-07 17:30:07 · answer #6 · answered by Tripod T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that maybe you should let you parents know that you were abused i have a 13 year old and i would hope that she would feel comfortable enough to talk to me. I dont know that it would affect you talking about sex to them but it could cause other issues with you.
2007-12-07 16:15:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you not tell them that you were abused? You need to do this. They are right for wanting to talk to you about all of this. It is their job to make sure that you are well informed and educated so you can protect yourself. If you have learned about all of this in health class it is long over due from your parents. Your feelings are yours and you have a right to them.
2007-12-07 16:29:06 · answer #8 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it may be hard & you may not want to do it, but i think you should tell you parents about being sexually abused & then tell them that you feel uncomfortable about talking about sex because of that
2007-12-07 16:10:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to let them know you were sexually abused and then go to a therapist.
2007-12-07 16:09:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋