is there anyway that I can conceive my husband's child without my husband knowing?

Question

I really really want to get pregnant but dam him he always pulls out! the only time he cums inside is right after my period. he says he want to wait, but I've waiting a year now.. and he never says when he'll be ready. any ideas?

it would be our second child, our daugther will be 3 soon.

we have talked! he said that he would still love me and he would love the new baby, he'd just be mad at himself. any just letting you know divorce is not an opption for iether of us, no matter what happens.

our daughter is ready to have a sibling. every time she sees a baby she wants to run and look at it, hold it's hand or kiss it.
and besides I want a son.

Answer 1

well first of all the pull out method doesn't work trust me! I know first hand. second, you can't be sneaky about it. Would you want him being sneaking behind your back? Just keep talking to him eventually he will be give in and be happy.

Answer 2

Everyone seems to be fussing at you for wanting to trick him, but what about you?
My husband totally agreed to 3 kids, but wasn't sure about a 4th. Shortly after I because pregnant with our 3rd, he started talking about a vasectomy. What's a girl to do? After alot of talking and crying, I signed the papers and he had the surgery. Most miserable day of my life. Every so often, I'd mention a 4th. He'd freak out. I think he eventually realized how big a deal it was to me and that I was asking for ONLY 1 more, not 8 more. So when our youngest was 4 1/2, he had the reversal. (Yes, I know he's an angel). Later he said he wished we'd had the reversal sooner so the kids wouldn't be so far apart in ages (10, 8, 6 with #4 is born). I could have strangled him!!!
I understand waiting. I did it for 5 years (took a year to get preggy after the reversal). I also know how much of an agony it is to want a child your husband doesn't want. You need to sit him down and tell him how hard it is to deal with wanting a child badly and him not even giving you a time when he'll be ready. Ask for a month, day, or year, then hold him to it. Waiting is agony, but knowing you might not ever have the child you dreamed of is a living hell.

My sister has a 4 year old. After we told them I was (finally!) pregnant, her husband got a bit jealous. They've only been trying 8 months. They both now wish they'd started trying sooner. Sadly, sometimes you don't realize things till its too late.

Answer 3

Now that you two have talked and when you do conceive your second child (son) it will have been done out of love and open communication about each other's feelings and as long as you two can talk openly and not try to hide things from the other especially something as important as a new family member you will never have to or even want a divorce.And it does sound like mom,dad and soon to be big sissy is ready for another person to love and that would be such a cool way to start your new year!

Answer 4

i would not recommend forcing a baby on him ..seriously..he may say "i will still love you and the baby" and that may be so..but there will also be a bit of resentment towards you..BECAUSE YOU KNEW..that he wasnt ready for an other one yet.

I had the same trouble with my hubby..he didnt even want to talk about it..then i convienced him that talking about it was not going to get me pregnant..and we have both came up with an agreement of when to start trying for our 2nd baby..but the agreement was done by the both of us..not just me or just him.

I think it will put alot of bad preassure on your marriage if you go and get pregnant without your husband agreeing too.

I know you are the one that is going to carry the baby..and all that stuff..but if the husband is a part of it too...without the husband you wouldnt be able to have kids..

you should talk to him and ask him why exactly he doesnt want one..talk about the situation..maybe he doesnt think you and him will be able to do it fiancially wise..or maybe your daughter has been a hands on work ..and he wants a rest before he needs to do it all over again.. i am mentioning these things.. only because they are what me and my husband talked about..and thats how we were also able to come up with an agreement on how long we should wait to have an other one.

your daughter may want a sister or brother..but maybe she feels that way because those other babies are not actually living with her..you've got to think..is she going to be jealous.. and other things..also ..you will need to prepare her for the new baby..if your husband agrees on having an other one, pregnancy doesnt just affect you..it affects your family.

thats an other thing..you say you want a son..well u cant really pick..so are you still going to be content if you have a girl?

Answer 5

You need to grow the hell up!!! Why do you have to be sneaky like that. That is the reason that men sometimes flip because you crazy women put us in screwed up situations. Evidently there is a reason that he wants to wait, be patient and find out. It might be something deeper than you know. This is not the way to act in a marriage, and you know it. What you are trying to do is so high school! You grown! SO you need to act like it and talk to your husband like a grown woman should. Quit being selfish and look at the big picture. It not always about you. I am not trying to offend you at all, I'm just keeping it real

Answer 6

What if say your husband went and got a vasectomy and didnt tell you. Would that be fair.

Clearly your relationship is not at a point to bring a child into the world if you are asking this question and seriously thinking about it. Work on or leave the relationship first if you cant get past this. A child doesnt deserve being born into it.

Answer 7

I think you should find out more information about why your husband wants to wait. Obviously, the method of birth control you're using isn't all effective anyway, but trying to be sneaky about getting pregnant doesn't seem like a good route to take if you want a happy and honest marriage.

Answer 8

wanna_B_mommy' s tips:

*The day you start your period is day 1 of your cycle
*Have sex days 12 14 16 18 and 20
*After sex lay down with a pillow under your pelvis for at least 30 minutes
*If all possible have sex or right before bed so you are laying down all night
*Try to stay stress free (I know it's hard but it really helps)
*Start taking prenatal vitamins now!
*"Act" like your pregnant while trying to concieve! Only do things u would do while pregnant, because you never know if you are or aren't! Don't smoke or drink etc...

***GoodLuck and BabyDust***

Answer 9

I pulled a trick on my hubby when we last concieved our third child. I was wanting to try for a girl, so during the month of feb 2006, I made sure we had sex around the time I would ovulate. I always initiated sex for about two weeks. A week before ovulation and a few days after. Luckly, it worked! We found out about two weeks after we last had sex that we were pregnant. He later found out how I worked him into my plan. But we didnt have a girl. We had another boy! lol

Answer 10

trying to trick or force your own husband into having a baby is completely retarded!!!! You need to stop thinking of yourself and think of your daughter and your husband! your daughter may be interested in the kids she sees but is to young to understand the concept of having a brother or sister!!! your husband must have good reasons why he does not want another baby right now!! it may seem unfair to you but if you trick him and do end up getting pregnant and he is pissed about it think of the enviroment you will be bringing that new child into and also for your daughter!!! Having a child should be a joy for both parents!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 11

Yeah, because it's a great idea to force a pregnancy on a man who is mature enough to tell you that he is just not ready. Keep your condoms on and just talk to him about it. There is no harm in waiting and if you want it to be a pleasant pregnancy and life with your baby then you need to get your hubby on board. If you just "accidently" let this happen you are asking for trouble.