I was betrayed by someone close to me and i am having a problem forgivig because i cant forget and i feel i can not believe anything this person says to me. So i have stopped speaking to this person all together. I feel i cant say anything because i cant say anything nice. do i continue to be hurt over and over again or do i just keep the peace and be silent?
2007-12-07 15:14:00 · 8 answers · asked by Kelina C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
this person is a relative
2007-12-07 15:24:24 · update #1
Kelina.........sometimes you're run into someone that will fine it hard to give the friendship they have been given.
if this person betrayed you in a way that it harmed or did damage to your character, then forgive him/her and wish them well, for the friendship can't be repaired.
i can tell you have a good heart, and that you was hurt in this. your heart also show softness by not wanting to say things which isn't nice.
just look toward Jesus for strength and continue going forward. you don't seems to be a person that will let this stop you from enjoying both, life and friends.........
God Bless You and Merry Christmas
2007-12-07 15:34:27 · answer #1 · answered by LITTLE_JOHN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive the idiot within yourself so you don't carry that burden within you. Regard this relative as an animal that doesn't know any better.
Don't buy into anything this person says ever again, and keep them at arm's length (so to speak). Since it is a relative, you have to be cordial... you don't have to stick around after saying hello. Just eat dinner and keep your peace.
At some point, you need to evaluate each relationship and ask, "What does this person bring to the table?" Is this person a mooch? A user? A manipulator? A drama-queen? A time-waster? Or is this person your cheering section? Provide insight? Make you laugh? As you go down the list of traits and how each thing makes you feel, you will know who you should be spending more time with.
2007-12-07 23:46:33 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you express the way you feel to this person. Forgiveness is a process, so you going to have feelings of anger and resentment. Don't be phony, if this person continue to hurt you. You may need to move on and find another friend.
2007-12-07 23:17:39 · answer #3 · answered by BizWoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to anyone above who say you should forgive...Forgive someone only ONCE but if he continues just leave him. For me that's forgiveness. As i can see you don't want to talk to him. Continue like this and you will again feel good one day when you will have a new one.
2007-12-07 23:22:19 · answer #4 · answered by mrashvin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive had my best friend sleep with my boyfriend haha but were still best friends sisters is more like it, its ok to forgive id like to more detail into what happened, but you really gotta ask yourself if you miss your friend, and remember ppl arent perfect if you close yourself off from getting hurt( cuz we have all hurt someone) your not gonna be able to have meaningful relationships. stay away for awhile but when u feel like u miss her then get back to being friends water under the bridge and its almost imposibe to forget but never imposible to forgive.
2007-12-07 23:34:56 · answer #5 · answered by Krissy W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to be quiet an keep the peace. Just because they are family does not mean that you have to take their crap over and over.
2007-12-08 00:59:48 · answer #6 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in order for you to have peace you are going to have to forgive the person that hurt you. why complicate your life with the exrta pain that unforgiveness brings. even if you choose not to repair the relationship you had with the person, you have to forgive them in oreder to hael yourself. REMEMBER I SAID FORGIVE NOT FORGET!!!!
2007-12-07 23:26:32 · answer #7 · answered by ltonyasfun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive had this same problem. just say nothing and move on, it will feel alot better
2007-12-07 23:17:47 · answer #8 · answered by amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋