I just found out that my husband is out with another woman tonight. What should I do when he gets back?

Question

looking for opinions

Answer 1

I would have his things packed neatly. Also, I'd let him know that he needs to go back to that other woman because you deserve more than a cheating bastard for a husband.

Then, give him his things, have a good cry then call a lawyer.

Answer 2

before you react make sure that you know for sure you have a solution for afterwards because if you dont leave him for cheeting he will continue to do this and it will be bad. do you want to be with him knowing he is cheeting? dont have to answer that on here just ask your self. i caught my ex husband cheating and i let him know i know, i served papers and i gave him the pics and he couldnt say nothing, it was so hard cause i have a son but it was better for my son i dnt want my son growing up to be a womanizer.
make sure you have a solution before you let him know you know. but if you do have a solution then get proof bring a camera or tape recorder or use your phone to record him and the girl together so you have proof that he cheated. cover your assets trust me. if you like you can email me me myself i dont put up with cheaters no way, no such thing as give him a chance coming into the marriage knowing that you not suppose to cheat then he still does it, thats disgusting but thats just me and i had a friend who forgave her husband for cheeting and the end results were not good. just dont make rash decisions suddenlt think before you act, go down there an get proof, when he comes home check out his clothes without himknowing, then take time to think abt what you are gonna do.take care hope this helped out
im sorry, btw if you have children dont stay with him just because of the kids cause the kids will mimick his behavior and im sure you dont want this!
what ever you do dont nag him dont ask him cause no man is gonna tell you oh yeh i was cheating on you, never wil they admit this thats why you need proof. if you nag they will blame you and try and turn it around and say this is why im out with another broad cause all you do is nag so dont nag him if do what you have to do so he knows your not an idiot and cover your assets. you are whats most important.

Answer 3

Get pics of them kissing or doing something else that shows "cheating". You can use this evidence in the divorce proceedings. Right now it's just, "he said, she said", you need proof for the Judge. After you get the pics, have a bag packed for him outside and tell him he is never to come back in your life because you are too good for a cheater. You'll feel sad, but you have to leave him, he's with another... Sorry.

Answer 4

If you have concrete proof....undisputable proof then when he gets home you calmly sit down and explain that you know where and who he was with...and then tell him your plans. Wether it be to leave or to forgive. Ive been in your shoes. I forgave and that was enough to mend alot between us. I have also been there with someone else that I left immediately. You have to weigh out how important this relationship is to you AND why? Either way he needs to be told calmly and maturely...that you will NOT stand to be treated this way. Things will change or you will go. The reason I stress calmly is what he is doing ...if he really is ....is very immature and stupid. You need to stay above this level and keep your head up....Remember if you leave you are not being defeated. You are coming out on top..No one deserves that treatment. Just make sure you know your facts before you approach him.

Answer 5

if you can go out and just smile at them both...its not just her fault though remember that! and go home or stay home put his stuff in the front yard and call a friend to change the locks if you can't. and if you can not do that then leave tonight go to a girlfriends or family don't tell him were your at and in a day or two let him know when your back into the house only when ur back in the house tell him pound dirt and to get out your done and that "he did not hurt you but he hurt only himself" if he does it once he done it several times there is nothing he could say to you that you could truly believe at this point! good luck and stay strong

Answer 6

Girl go to home depot get some new Locks and throw his crap on the lawn! I hope its Raining! you don't deserve this he is making a fool of you and you should not let him get away with it because if you continue letting him he will never stop! You show him who is Boss, I know it may be hard but you have no choice its what has to be done!

Answer 7

Prepare a dinner for him and after you eat tell him that you want to talk to him. Don't nag at him nor confront him in a bad manner, say it in a nice and calm way. Ask him who is that woman? What is his connection to that woman? Why did he went out with her? Tell him that you want to know the truth =)
Goodluck

Answer 8

Before you accuse him make sure you are 100% sure that he is doing what you think he is doing and if so you need to talk to him screaming will get you no were take step back think about what you want to say and if children are involved please do not allow them to hear the conversation. Sometimes things are not what they seem to be good luck!

Answer 9

Act all cool like nothing is wrong. Then when he falls asleep play with his little area and get him all excited but don't wake him up then super glue it to his stomach. Or just punch him in the face when he is asleep. Either will let him know that you know and you are pissed.

Answer 10

Is your source reliable? I'd go to where they are & check it out (unseen). Once I've seen it w/ my own eyes I'd go home and wait for him. Then ask him where he was...like the other said, he'll probably lie, but at least when I accuse I'm I'll be positive I am correct in my accusation...

I'm really sorry you're going through this. :(