HELLO This is new for me! I and my husband been married for seven years now. I say around the second or third year of marriage it started to take a turn. Don't get me wrong he great with the kids, he a great provider, however the communication and relationship that we have are not the same. We barely talk and when we do it is when we are apart. Sex is minimum. I have grown tired of that. I am not an unattractive female I'm sure I wouldn't have a problem finding a man but that is not the point. I'm trying to save my marriage we have went to dozens of counseling. None has worked we even separated for a couple of months and got back together to try at again however we ended up back in the same boat. I am tired of being in the same household with my husband and feel that he is not there I am tired of going through of not having sex for six mo. almost two yrs once. He stated he would rather leave because he feel he doesn't need to change. Im tired of doing all the sacrificing.
2007-12-07 15:11:30 · 6 answers · asked by Ms. Lena! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He hasn't really gone into details why he wants to give up. He feels the marriage is fine like it is why can't I see that he cares because he is and still there and working. I've tried so many times to explain to him that it takes so much more than that but he looks at me with this expression like he really doesnt get it. I really want to stay like I stated before he is a good man however we have no kind of relationship and i dont know how long i can stay foolin myself.
2007-12-07 15:34:27 · update #1
Boy does that sound really sad, yes it does and i'm sorry you are going through all of that. Now has he given you any reasons why he wont change? And are you sure he don't have a girlfriend on the side? I know it always seem like the women do the sacrificing, and want to keep trying but maybe you should really think about leaving for good this time. I do hate to see a marriage end but sometimes we have no choice. If your not happy then i would just get out. But you really need to follow your heart and do what is best for you and your kids. I wish you the best of luck....
2007-12-07 15:25:18 · answer #1 · answered by Toni A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all comes down to one thing! YOUR HAPPINESS!! if you feel unhappy and feel that you have done all that there is to turn around the situation but in vain, then just move one and happiness will find you.
If he has stated that he would rather leave than try to work things out, then you should be on you way as well. Otherwise you will live your life sacrificing and being unhappy and thats no way to live.
Wish you all the best.
2007-12-07 15:40:57 · answer #2 · answered by Essie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oooh, man, that sucks. I can see where you are coming from. Sounds as if you have exhuasted all forms of saving the marriage and he is not willing to pitch in and make things worth....then it is like telling you it is not worth it. You have tried and tried and you are so frustrated, maybe it is time for you to leave. You are doing all the work to keep things together, but he's not....come on that is selfish. There is only so much you can do. I would agree with you I think its time to move on. Good luck.
2007-12-07 15:18:47 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let him go or else you are going to spend your life being unhappy.
2007-12-07 15:21:18 · answer #4 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just remember...
.... we will ultimately be judged not on the commitments we make, but the commitments we keep....
Good luck.
2007-12-07 15:16:34 · answer #5 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
turn to god
2007-12-07 15:18:26 · answer #6 · answered by snowman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋