If your friend's 2-year-old daughter is 78 lbs., is it wrong to tell him/her that you're concerned? Your friends feed her whatever she wants, how ever much she wants, and at any time; because if they don't, the 2-year-old throws "frightening" tantrums. How would you go about it, or would you?
2007-12-07 15:03:39 · 9 answers · asked by 7155_0 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I'd definitely say something if your friend seems to be oblivious to the problem. I wouldn't just come out and say, "Your kid is fat!", but I'd offer to help. Maybe something like, "Hey, I got this great new recipe for a healthy, kid-friendly snack that your daughter might like." Or, "I just found this great Mommy and me work-out group. We go for walks and a lot of outdoor activities. I thought you and your daughter would really enjoy it and we could all get in shape too."
Surely this mother knows how horribly over-weight her daughter is. Does she take her to the doctor? I'm sure the pediatrician has lectured her on the matter. If you want to be more direct, you could say, "I don't mean to be rude or intrusive, but I was wondering, how does Dr so-and-so feel about your daughters weight? Is there anything I can do to help you guys out?"
She may be upset and really defensive, but obviously somebody needs to say something. Continue to show your sincere concern for her daughters health and offer to help in anyway that you can.
2007-12-07 15:11:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
Wow. That is a GOOD question!
I don't know if I would go into it or not. If you're genuinely concerned I would sit your friend down and talk to her. I would start out with a "I'm your friend, I want you to be honest with me as I am about to be honest with you..," etc. Tell her that you're very concerned about her daughter and why. She's going to have to take a huge 180 and a trip to the doctor to find out how to get her 2-year-old to lose weight. You have to tell her that she has to stop - those tantrums won't stop unless she stops giving her all that food. It will be very difficult for awhile, but she HAS to do it. All that she's doing is making her kid fat..and it will get worse. She will have health problems, be picked on, and have a very bad childhood because her parents are too chicken to tell her no. Ask her if she's wants to see her child come home from school crying everyday because she was too afraid to say no.
Good luck!
2007-12-07 15:13:32 · answer #2 · answered by rhiannonb52 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I think that when the welfare of a child is involved, everything else goes out the window. You may lose a friend, but I'd express my concern. Why not just ask what her pediatrician says about the child's weight? Or ask her if she's heard of the various health risks such as juvenile diabetes? Tell her you'd go with her to parenting classes or watch her child while she goes if she needs help with handling that part of it. In my mind she's negligent to the point of being abusive. jmo
2007-12-07 15:11:28 · answer #3 · answered by keshequa87 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Definitely speak up. The child is at risk for a lifetime of health problems (diabetes anyone?). Maybe your friend doesn't realize the problems that obesity can cause. If you can't influence the eating habits , maybe you can encourage them to go for a hike with you or some other forms of exercise?
2007-12-07 15:29:10 · answer #4 · answered by Janelle H 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no its definitely not wrong to be concerned
2 years at 78 lbs is absurd!
the kid could die of heart disease by the age of 20
that is too young for a good child to die at =/
unfortunately if you try to tell the mom, she will probably be in denial.
so you have to be very frank and get right down to the point. also having one of your friends who knows the mom tell her about her overweight child will re-enforce your rightful opinion.
the life of a child is at hands here, and no life should be taken away because of ignorance.
2007-12-07 15:14:15 · answer #5 · answered by In It To Win It 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Start by "So I was watching Maury Povich .."
Interesting, the one episode I saw of this, was when I was at the hospital in labor, with the obese toddlers, where the parents all said the toddlers threw tantruns if they didnt get their coca cola in their baby bottle.
2007-12-07 15:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by lillilou 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like the child is given what ever she wants when she wants
2007-12-07 15:11:47 · answer #7 · answered by THE CROP KICK CHICK 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
tell them there kid is fat and going to die
2007-12-07 15:11:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
holy crap CALL DSS THAT IS ABUSE!!!!!
2007-12-07 15:11:05 · answer #9 · answered by Joesph B 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋