Are some terms coming to be a bit more accepted??

Question

Recently, someone I've gotten pretty close to called a guy a "f@g." Don't get me wrong; the guy deserved to be insulted. But the thing I don't get is, the guy that said it, is gay.

Generally, terms such as "f@g" are considered insults to homosexuals. So, I was pretty surprised when the guy said it.

Are terms such as that becoming a bit more accepted, and considered less of an insult to gays; more a generic insult?

I think he's accepted his own homosexuality fine.

The other guy told him that he "thought he was cute, but then he took a closer look at his face." It really hurt his self - esteem, after he's already had a crappy time lately. He was incredibly angry and upset, and he just sort of.. said it.

Answer 1

Insults are an interesting thing...sometimes they can be very mean and insulting (duh)...but sometimes they can be used in a friendly kind of way. Consider the word "b---h"...sometimes people say it in a truly insulting fashion...but girls often use it w/ one another in a playful manner (not meaning it at all).
For some reason, insults seems to be okay as long as you are a part of that groupd....ie: a gay person can call another a "f-g" or a "fairy"...or...a black person can call another the "n" word. People sometimes do this to actually insult...or sometimes they are joking, being friendly. It really is kind of wierd...and makes it hard for everyone to know what the line is.
I try not to use any of these words because even though they can be used in a fun loving manner, they can also be hurtful. And I often try to correct people when they use certain words...especially if I know the person. For example, it really bothers me when people use "gay" or "retarded" instead of "stupid" or "annoying"
We really are interesting creatures.

Answer 2

I started asking my friends a question kinda similar to this...

I said that the term "gay" is used as an insult for things that are found unpleasant. Do you think that it's used because society deems this phrase popular...or because society sees homosexuality as unpleasant therefore anything else unpleasant can be titled "gay"

In my opinion...i think that the term started as a negitive insult to homosexuals in the way that everyone saw homosexuality as wrong so called someone a "f@g" as you put it means they are wrong. But now i think that society is forgetting the roots of why it was being used...and is now just tossing it around as a popular term...

Answer 3

To late for such as an in-depth question, I'm so tired, and it's not even really that indepth lol

It depends on the context of how the kid said it. Maybe he's still having some trouble accepting himself, or maybe it was just meant as a stupid generic insult.

To be quite frank, I don't think it could hurt to be called a f@g from an openly gay guy.

Answer 4

"Sweetie- i'm a lefty thank you and till you could teach me the "gay gene" i'm going to proceed to have faith it to be selection pushed somewhat then dna pushed" Wether or not there's a gay gene is up for debate. although what i can inform you is that homosexuality isn't a wakeful selection. At maximum you could declare that's a subconscious selection (i.e. a psychological sickness). So shall we inspect the case of somebody who has obsessive compulsive sickness. To me, doing issues a undeniable way in a undeniable trend each and every of the time without exception seems stupid and ridiculous. however the those that be afflicted by this sickness did not decide to have that want/concern. i assume that's a decision made on a subconscious point and on an analogous time as they could bodily provide up behaving like that, they could in no way provide up feeling like that. medical care facilitates even though it has shown regularly ineffective with homosexuals. lots of the cases the place homosexuals receive "medical care" for his or her "condition" lead to suicide or purely repressing/pretending to be right this moment. some thing like ninety% of therapists have abandoned attempting to "treatment" homosexuals and now attempt to help them come to grips with what they are. So no remember if that's a psychological sickness that's quite deeply imbedded into somebody's psyche. permit me ask you this? have you ever seen being gay? have you ever felt any charm to teh comparable intercourse? have you ever made a option to be right this moment? Im assuming u fairly a lot have been constantly right this moment. So those those that "decide" to be gay..... while do they make this selection? Why do they make this selection? if the worldwide depended on you figuring out to be gay for an afternoon, could desire to you do it? (and that i dont propose the act of kissing a guy, could desire to u certainly relish it in case you had to make that selection) in case you cant answer that then you definately ought to settle for the prospect that the alternative (no remember if that's a decision) is previous our administration. in case you could understand which you DONT understand wether that's a decision or not you could then reevaluate ur stance on the concern. you assert that till somebody shows u the gay gene you will proceed to have faith that's a decision. So responsible till shown harmless huh? Why do you assume that's a decision? Why cant you assert "i dont understand" and reserve your judgement till you do?

Answer 5

gay people are just people... and most people don't think when they speak.. especially if they're angry and looking to insult someone... stuff just comes out... the sad thing is what's been programmed so deep inside there that it just comes out like that... he must have heard that word a lot as an insult to instantly think to use it himself... so embedded that he didn't even think to realize that it's an insult to himself at the same time... sad...

Answer 6

blacks go around calling each others nggas
it is called self-hate