How to deal with pregnancy when I'm 18 and she's 18.?

Question

Second year of college starting in January. Any tips?

Answer 1

I'm 24 now and still not ready for a baby. Protection is best, but if mine failed...I'd probably have an abortion.

p.s. Don't listen to any "keep your baby, abortion is murder" b.s.

Answer 2

You and your GF can continue schooling and work while she is pregnant and when she has the child- do not listen to someone who says that you can't. And please do not have an abortion- that child your GF is carrying is a baby, not just a bunch of cells- his/her heart has been beating since 3 weeks after conception. You should have thought about a possible pregnancy before you two slept together, birth control or not she could get pregnant. So be responsible and deal with it in a healthy way- remember there is a baby involved.

Answer 3

Your life is now about the baby and not about you.

Try to continue your education because you're going to need the money (and encourage her to continue her education as well).

This is a LIFELONG commitment...even if things go sour between you and the GF at some point down the road, you will ALWAYS be that baby's father.

EDIT:
And to all the "use a condom next time" folks..condoms fail between 10-15% of the time so it's quite possible he DID use one and it didn't work!

Answer 4

Well, I was the same age, and same year of college when I was a first-time mom.

My best advice: you two sit down and (ignoring everyone else - seriously, from personal experience someone is going to tick you off with advice at some point, listen, but do this first) make a plan, talk with her about college, and if you two want to move intogether for the baby, financial/job plans.

Being pregnant and finishing college wasn't the easiest, and, luckily I had a amazing b/f, who went through college before me (he is 6 yrs older) and made sure that things that would freak me out -- like bills, were kept out of my sight. It truly is amazing, and if you two are going the long haul, and everything, I also suggest seeing her assigned counselor at the college about early 2nd trimester, they will help her with her schedule, and if you plan on going to doctors appointments with her (which I highly suggest, cause it does feel really great having the man you love there, and knowing whats going on) talk to your counselor as well, about letting them know. Start looking at financial aid now, and once the baby comes, you can change your student loan information then, as such you will have to re-enroll for Fafsa and what not anyway.

Be supportive as possible, and smile, I was a pain in the butt to my guy breaking down that I could'nt go through college, and he pushed me to finish (I was 2 semesters behind in the end, cause I took one semester off to be with the baby, and I took part-time online courses the 2nd semester, cause I couldn't find adequate day-care.. another thing to see if your college can help you with - they pull strings big time for students, I messed up on that part -- look EARLY! Not your last trimester - take that advice and run!)

Keep your heads up, and smile, I am not gonna lie, it's one heck of a ride, and you will love the end results. Oh - be sure of this: During the third trimester - talk to your professors, and see if they will work with make-up testing/assignments, you will be out for about 3-4 days (if not a week, if you plan on staying home (the first 36hrs) and being their for labor (which can take a day or two), most are gracious about it, or might brush off some things (not everything, and don't even try to milk them, it'll only backfire)

Best of luck once again!!

Edit:: PS: To those who spoke about the condoms, please knock it off, they AREN'T 100% effective, so please again stop saying those things. My joy and pride, my son is proof of it, and we love him to death!!!!!

Answer 5

wow that's a hard thing to deal with though Ive never experienced something like that i have allot of sympathy for you and don't let others make up your mind for you. if you two are really in love and care about each other and are in a financial situation to take care of them then i say go ahead and do it but if your not i say give the child up for adoption but you have to remember whatever choices you make at this time your child will have to live with them for the rest of his/ or her life so take that into consideration. don't stop your education though. if u have to put it on pause then do that but don't stop it all together. there is nothing like a good education. so next time remember safe sex is happy sex.

Answer 6

im 18 n n my bf is 18 turning 19 in jan. n any tips? um yea..handle it...and make arrangements. having a baby doesnt stop ur education..trust im 22 weeks pregnant n goin to school as well as work. so just deal with it i guess.

Answer 7

Start saving money. Quit partying. You are going to be a father. This, though it is bad timing on your part, is still a gift from God. She and you just have to face up to what you have got and take good care of her so the baby can be healthy. Good Luck.

Answer 8

well, you guys either keep the baby or think about puting it up for adoption. Just make sure you can take car of him or her if you keep the baby. Get some help if you guys need it. You need to make up your mind on what to do. Good luck

Answer 9

well sorry to say but any good career plans for the future are down the drain. Say good bye to all you hopes and dreams

Answer 10

Be responsible next time and use a condom.