Attraction?

Question

What are your thoughts on attraction? Is it purely physical at the beginning. Do you have to begin with attraction or can it be developed over time? I think emotional and spiritual attraction keep us in love and is what makes strong relationships. Appreciating how lucky I am to have my spouse makes me think of her as sexier? What is it that attracts you to your spouse besides physical appearance? Also Why dose attraction sometimes fade? What makes it fade? Lastly, what prevents it from fading?

Sorry for so many ?'s

Answer 1

Well I can tell u, I'm in love w/ a man that I have never met. I have seen pics and thats about it. I fell in love w/ his personality, he is one of them great guys u rarely find. He knows how to treat a woman and talk to one. However, he is right now on his way here for the first time, we live in different states. Physical attraction doesn't matter I am still gonna bang the heck outta him cuz I love him.

Answer 2

Attraction can be purely physical, but that usually does not last and if that is all there is between two people it will usually fade.

When I met my sife I was honestly floored. Yes she was physically attractive to me, however I swear I could see her soul. I knew in an instant that she was the one. It is more I believe a mental awareness that we aould be compatible and her manerisms are what really caught my eye. Hard to explain but we are programmed by our experience to recognize things like danger, happiness and fear. When you meet the "one" I believe that a switch goes off in our heads that recognizes this person as the "one" we were seeking.

We have been together for 17 years now and I feel so strongly about her. I still remember that day and we celebrate it every year.

On the other hand, the relationships I had previous to her were built more on visual attraction with an attempt to be compatable. I even was involved with a friend type whom I thought I would grow to love, didn't happen.

Listen to your heart, mind and eyes for the best chance at finding the "one"

Yoda out

Answer 3

Most romantic relationships start with attraction,,,for some it is physical, others it is mental or spiritual attraction. It varies depending on circumstances. Emotional attachments begin and the end results in a strong relationship. Believing in each other gives confidence to both parties. To keep the relationship requires a great deal of trust.

Answer 4

It differs for everybody I think. For me, there are two different types of attraction. Guys I would shag and guys I would be with. If you would shag them with no emotion or attachment then it's just about the physical. I love the appearance of strength in a guy, their smell and most of all shoulders. But if I was going to be with a guy then it is about them being on my level in terms of intellect, maturity, aspirations, priorities. I hate being the powerful one and I hate feeling powerless.

I don't believe that you should have a relationship with someone you aren't attracted to- it can be so forced, and you can get pretty torn inside if you are trying to make yourself feel attraction to someone and being guilty when you don't feel it. Sometimes you will have known someone as a friend for ages before you suddenly start to be attracted to them, but it doesn't work that way as a partner. Part of a relationship is fulfilling your spouses need to feel attractive, and how can you do that if you don't truly find them attractive. I remember a boyfriend saying "you're beautiful to me" and I thought "what, are you qualifying it or something". Because we don't want to feel like he's going out of his way to find us beautiful and nobody else does.

I'm attracted to my partner by his personality, especially by the way he loves the little things in the world that nobody else seems to notice. We just connected so well when we met, we had so much in common but so much to learn from and teach each other as well.

For some people, attraction and the thrill of the case must coexist or the attraction fades. Familiarity can fade attraction. People changing can make it fade. Obsession with or attraction to another person of the opposite sex usually takes away one's attraction to a spouse.

Finally, you can prevent it from fading by continuing to make an effort for our spouse, keeping the sex interesting and different, and not allowing yourself to give in to attraction to other people.

Just my thoughts, I'm rambling and I'm only 16, but I hope it sheds SOME light. :)

Answer 5

well i become attracted to some one but looks and then i take in how they act and treat other people and then if i like how they act and treat other people then i become more attracted to that person. I think that attraction fades when people dont make time for one another. To prevent it from fading make time for each other and communicate to each other

Answer 6

As a woman I will feel attracted toward a man solely on the way he makes me feel. If he is confident, makes me feel beautiful and interesting he will become attractive to me. I will not see his hairline retrieving or his love handles. When I met my husband in a coffee shop my first reaction was 'oh no, I am not attracted to him'. Five minutes later I was on cloud number 9 cause he had swept me away with his confidence.

Answer 7

This may be weird but for me the attraction to my wife is her smell. Not just perfume or freshly showered but just her at any time. The smell of her lying beside me every night always gets my motor running.

Answer 8

I think you have a very mature outlook on life.

The piece of the puzzle I think you are missing is the fact that we are not only spiritual and intellectual creatures, but we are also animals.

Mix all that together and the answers you seek may become clearer to you.

Good lcuk.

Answer 9

i think the personatily of a person how kind and considerate she is.

Answer 10

wow... i love that question.... a good ponder type of question
a star!