why do i always get so mad becouse my house cannot look nice and clean everytime i come home from work i always have to pick up after my husband and its gets me mad sometimes why i dont understand
2007-12-07 13:27:19 · 10 answers · asked by rockmusicdance 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your sickness name is 'control freak'.
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Usually when someone wants total control on small things like the cleanliness of their home, the cushions are not fluffy enough it's because you do not have control over the bigger issues of your life such as your job, your marriage, motherhood, with your parents, siblings etc. Not being able to control those big aspects, you over-control the little ones.
2007-12-07 13:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
My sister-in-law has this same issue and one person said it would be better to have a partner than a clean house.HAHAHA No that is not the answer. I would say either set your levels of clean a little lower. Don't be compulsive about it but also let him know what you need to have happen and cleaning up after him is not your job...tell him he should do his part by keeping his stuff cleaned up. and you continue with the rest. or but a box out on the porch or in the garage and but his crap in it when he leaves it laying around nonstop. (last resort there) but communication is key. your not a door mat or his maid and he should respect your way but you can not be over compulsive about either. if that fails use the box method and when he is looking for his stuff then tell to hit the box. only a few weeks of this with mine and communication after the box issue my husband is great now. my brother is on a better track but that is still work in progress. good luck
2007-12-07 21:46:47 · answer #2 · answered by osu0001@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what my wife doe's to me.
We make a list on chores and we have a certain day for trash and dishes the dishwasher thank goodness for that invention.
I have 5yrs old and she knows to be a helper too ..So have a family "Chore chart" that is listed like my example"
Chucky aka-Trash-mon-wed-sun
E-Snow removal-Mon-wed-sun
J-dishes-all week-wife LOL-than on weekend is me or my kid.
Laundry swich days back and fourth and car wash too..
omg laundry time LOL
2007-12-07 21:36:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
my husband works 80 hours a week so the fact that he leaves his underwear NEXT to the hamper instead of IN the hamper is no big deal!
2007-12-07 21:39:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have a sickness you have a lazy husband. Stop picking up after him. He is a grown man and he needs to pick up after himself. Tell him that he needs to do his share and that you are no longer going to pick up after him like he is a child.
2007-12-07 21:37:05 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Would you rather have a house that is not clean and no husband? That's what I've got. I'd much rather have a man in my home to be my partner. You're very lucky and I don't know that you see it.
2007-12-07 21:32:24 · answer #6 · answered by Sassie 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
whine over trivial nonsense
things could be worse, he could be gambling your savings awar
he could be boinking another chick OR guy
he could be a druggie
men are naturally slobs, pick your battles wisely
2007-12-07 21:45:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you ask him to help out its should be a team not just you...if he's not worried about it...you shouldnt too. go with the flow take a big breath...and stop being a control freak ...or anel retentive..
2007-12-07 21:37:08 · answer #8 · answered by shayhi 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I really think all of us feel like this from time to time...I feel it is not that we mind doing this but sometime would like to be appreciated for it. Best to you
2007-12-07 21:54:56 · answer #9 · answered by wilma s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard to say.... however it could just be a sense of why is he so lasy.....
2007-12-07 21:32:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋