plz i need answers
2007-12-07 13:23:05 · 28 answers · asked by jess9638 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Help her. If she is getting rejected, she may be going about meeting boys in the wrong way. Find out what her interests are, if you are friends, you should already know. Go with her to places where the recreational activities are taking place. If she does not have that many interests, ask her to tell you in three minutes as fast as she can, what she likes for fun. Then, get her active in those areas.
Being pretty is not everything in life.
My wife and I met years ago, and liked each other because we had so many things in common. We liked the same books, movies, tv, going to the same places. We just started talking about these things, I was not looking for a girl friend, she was not looking or a guy. But, we first became best friends.
You would not like her, if you had nothing in common.
Boys, might like her for her looks, but that does not make for a lasting friendship. Would you spend much time with the girls that bore you? Well, best friends in the long run, make for the best relationships. Do not put the cart in front of the horse, have her find out what SHE is all about, come to know herself, before she looks for others. If she does not, she can choose the wrong boy, for the wrong reasons... That can end in disaster.
2007-12-07 13:49:36 · answer #1 · answered by Kingair315 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep supporting her. Let her know that she doesn't need a boyfriend, that a guy who will care for her a lot will come along, and that she is amazing without having a boyfriend. Remind her of the plus sides of being single:
More freedom, more time for friends, less to worry about (you don't have to worry about what your guy is thinking or why he didn't answer his phone, etc.), and lots of other stuff. (Present this all nicely and not dumping all at once, she might be overwhelmed or stuff.)
The main thing you need to do is be there for her and support her. On the weekends, when she wishes she had a date, plan something fun - a shopping trip, a sleepover, a spa day, whatever you enjoy doing. Go to the movies, or do a movie marathon at your house. Have fun.
Good luck!
2007-12-07 13:31:56 · answer #2 · answered by Maybur 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't!!! You're her best friend! Best friends are like sisters nowadays. If you're truly her best friend, she thinks a lot of you and trusts you. Please don't break that trust by shattering her confidence!! There's ways to do it gently and subtly. If she wears too much make up, tell her you think she is pretty but she hides it behind make up. Encourage her to go more natural (which is apparently the "look" nowadays, so throw that out there. Enhance features, don't overpower them.) and to try and wear less make up so people see HER and not her foundation. Go through magazines with her and look for beauty tips and try them out. That way it becomes a bonding experience and a fun time, as well getting her away from excess make up. If you think she's fat, it's not really your place to say so. If she's happy with her body, let her be happy. But if you think you could help her subtly change, tell her that YOU want to work out and get in better shape and you'd like a gym partner, aka HER. Ask her if she'd sign up for a kick boxing class with your or something. That way you're getting her in shape while making it look like you're doing it for yourself.
2016-05-22 02:24:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We cannot possibly know why she gets rejected. As to what you can do, there is not a lot. You could try to fix her up with a double date, but if you don't know why guys reject her, you may have trouble matching anyone to her.
I honestly believe there is someone out there for everyone, but that doesn't mean you will be able to find hers.
2007-12-07 13:29:54 · answer #4 · answered by Computer Guy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's pretty, but what about her personality? Maybe there's something about her that turns people off. It's kind of you to take an interest in your friend, but there's really not much you can do unless you know something about her that she should change. If so, then you can make suggestions that might improve her chances of getting a boyfriend. Otherwise, she will just have to be patient and let nature take its course.
2007-12-07 13:30:56 · answer #5 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old is your friend? There is no rush in getting a bf. Is there something she is doing/saying that might be getting her rejected?
All I can say is to tell her to relax and take her time, it will happen. You need to be there for her to support her.
2007-12-07 13:26:48 · answer #6 · answered by Canadian Kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything that you can do for her except tell her that when the time is right for her to have a b/f in her life she'll get one. Let the guys come to her for her to avoid getting rejected.
2007-12-07 13:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by gapgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to figure out what is turning guys off - is she too prissy or too bold, too aggressive or too shy, too made up or too rough looking - what is the turn-off? You, as her friend. are the perfect person to gather some intell from guys who have been approached. Just take a nice, objective, news reporter like stance and let them know their answers will be kept confidential and this is not intended to get them to give her another chance - you just need some idea of what she needs to do to improve her "hit" rate.
2007-12-07 13:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by Amy R 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
she probley just needs to change her ways. there might be something about her that just turns guys off or makes them think shes not what they want in a girlfriend. Maybe she just needs to talk to some new guys.
2007-12-07 13:25:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's impossible to figure out why your friend gets rejected without knowing her. She could be self-centered, have bad breath, be unintelligent, etc. Who knows?
2007-12-07 13:27:02 · answer #10 · answered by Ria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋