Did I Do The Right Thing (Leaving Home)???

Question

5 months after i turned 18, i decided to just leave my house. i walked out of my parents, without them knowing i was leaving them. i live with my boyfriend (who already asked me to marry him) and i do love him, but sometimes i wonder if i did the right thing. My parents have tried so many times and things to try to get me to come back but i havent. Recently ( the last 3 months) my parents finally told me that i wasnt part of the family and that they didnt want to hear anything from me. That to them i was practically "dead". Im just wondering. Did I do the right thing??
I know i did things "WRONG" but what im asking is..Do you think i'll regret what i did later on in life??

i feel really guilty of what i did.
I dont know what to do ...either way im going to leave someone really unhappy.
if i dont go back to them , i basically lost my family. But if i leave my boyfriend (fiance) , i dont know how he will react. All he's shown me these last couple months has been love and support, he doesnt deserve it!
im torn between both of them!

Answer 1

Honey stay right where you are. They are trying to force you to do what they want you to do. Let them be. If they really are going to ruin your relationship because you will not do as you are told you are better off without them. You are going to do a lot of things in your life that other people are not going to like. That is their problem. You have to live your life for you. You are the only one that can make sure that you are happy. You might have gone about moving the wrong way but that does not make you wrong. It also does not give them a reason to disown you. We all make mistakes and do things hastily but it is no big deal. We learn from them and go on. If you give in to your parents demands now, they will blackmail you into doing what they want for the rest of their lives. You are an adult and you have to answer to no one. You do not say why you wanted to leave in the first place. I would not go back if I were you. We do not have to take this crap from people just because we are related to them. It does not give them the right to be mean and to bully you.

Answer 2

You sound unsure of yourself and I am sensing some guilt. You shouldn't have walked out on them without them knowing. I know you are an adult now but that was very disrepectful to them. You might regret it. You are still very young. Do you want to go to college? Get married and start a family of your own? What if your child did that to you? I'm sure they love you and just of course want the best for you. They will always be your parents and you might need them one day. Don't rush into anything either or you may definitely have some regrets.

Answer 3

Your parents are disappointed. Apologize for the way things happened and try to stay in touch. They may eventually come around. Men come and go but most families will love us despite our bad choices in life.
Most of the guys my parents hated were losers, one was even homeless in NYC about 9 yrs after I dated him. My mother hated him. Another one went to jail my mother hated that one too. Often times parents are better at spotting bad apples, they are wiser and more experienced at life.
Make sure that the guy you are going to marry isn't a loser! Will he be a good husband and father? Will he be a good provider?
What ever you do please get an education. Love doesn't always last and you will need something to fall back on (a career). Good luck!

Answer 4

You will regret it, and they will too. Keep in touch. Make them a part of you and your boyfriends life. Since you are getting married, ask your mom to help plan it. Invite your dad to walk down the aisle. Show them that you left home to start your own life and not be a burden to them. It sounds like they had other ideas for you and wanted something more...maybe school.

Answer 5

maybe,maybe not. but one thing is sure, they wont be there when you need them the most