Will people like me more in college???

Question

I went to the same school preschool-8th grade. i had a group of 10 friends. we were all really close in 7th and 8th grade and we all were like sisters. we were the "popular" people so to speak. when i was in 9th grade i transferred to a new school and moved to a new town. im now in 11th grade. i made one close friend really quickly. but she recently ditched me a few months ago for a new group and hangs out with this other girl now. this other girl who was my friend like tries to ditch me all the time. im not mean or anything i'm nice but am also quiet at times around people other than my friends. so now im so confused. i don't get why people don't wanna be friends with me..???im really nice and helpful to everyone...i still keep in touch with 1 girl from my old school. but still i've been at this school 2 years and right now i feel like i have no friends to hang out with because they both pretty much ditched me..now what? :(

are people in college nicer???

Answer 1

College is an entirely different atmosphere. You'll quickly see that old cliques you remember from high school either fall apart in college, or don't matter as much. There's also all kinds of people in all kinds of age categories, that have all sorts of hobbies and thoughts and goals and passions. It's an amazing place to find new people.

Answer 2

Well, I think college-age people are more mature and more serious about their education, since they are that much closer to having a career and supporting themselves and possibly a family. High-school and junior high girls are more into cliques. I speak from experience, because when I was in high school, I hung out with a group of girls, but in college I didn't have much time for socializing, as I was also working part time. My suggestion might be to join a sorority where the girls pretty much have a common goal of friendship and unity. Sometimes, though, it's better to have one or two close and loyal friends, than a whole gang of fickle-minded ones. In college you will probably find more mature people who have common goals and interests. Just continue to be nice and friendly and approachable, and you shouldn't have a problem. Good luck!

Answer 3

I was in a similar situation. I started high school at a completely new school and I didn't relate to anyone there except one girl. This is why I didn't have tons of friends in my new school: I didn't want to get drunk, I didn't take drugs, I didn't sleep with random guys and I wasn't into immature talk like who has brighter highlights.

So really, it's all up to you. If you are really as kind and helpful as you are, make sure people know it. If you can't relate to anyone then it's not your fault. People in college, I'm sorry to say, aren't really that much maturer. The girls may be, but the guys aren't. I have to ask, why did your friend ditch you? Was she bored? Or just pure mean? Find out. Maybe you'll find out why you're losing your friends.

Just be yourself, and eventually things will fall into place!

Answer 4

well im finally in college and had a lot of friend problems in high school girls will be girls and they love drama this wont ever go away even adults have it but after high school you really mature and find who you really are inside i dont live with anyone i went to high school with and i still talk to some people from my high school but you will find friends and nothing really matters like it did in high school i love college compared to high school -- people always told me high school would be the best years of my life and dont get my wrong i had a blast but college had been WONDERFUL for me i love it and i really think you will love the person you become because you find your true friends and you start being more of what your morals and values are because no one is "popular" and no one knows if you were "popular" in high school or not -- no one cares who the homecoming queen was!! while in high school defiantly make the best of it because you dont want to miss out on anything! find a friend and thats all you need to make it through i promise i was there not to long ago!! believe me everything will work out you aren't in this alone a lot of girls feel the same way!!!

Answer 5

College is just like high school, except a lot of people have much more open minds about people...and a lot of people are much more judgemental. The only big difference is that there are so many more people in college. You will have more opportunities to make friends. There will be such diverse activities and clubs, you will probably find a lot of people who do and don't like you.

Don't worry about your other "friends." Perhaps you've just grown apart. I'm sorry to hear how much this hurts you. I know how bad it feels when you care more than they do. They're just so wrapped up in their own lives, they have probably forgotten about your feelings. Try not to take it too personally.

Answer 6

People in college are only nicer if your willing to do their homework. other than that, they ignore you if you dont socialize which can be a good thing especially if you are premed. So you can imagine there is not as much need to have a million people hanging around you in College. That is what parties are for. But, I guess everyday is a party in High School. Well, at least at my high school. Anyway, college years are your best because you get to party after working really hard.

Answer 7

People in college tend to be too busy keeping up with all the reading and studying they have to do to have time for cliques. I'm sure they exist, but I'd say they occur more with those who go to college to party rather than to work. Just be yourself and focus on what you want to do in life and don't get stressed out over friends or the lack of them. You may be trying too hard to be liked.

Answer 8

I think you will find that some of the best friends of your life will be made in your college years. Remember that everyone else in college will be in the same boat as you will be; being a new person in a new environment

Answer 9

i had the same experience. i lost a lot of my friends. they all went different ways in high school. i had a few close friends when i graduated. but i met a lot of different people in college. i think people become more mature and less into cliques in college.

Answer 10

Sorry to tell you this, but people are always going to be cruel no matter what. It's a fact you should learn to accept and roll with. The more you let it bother you, the more people will do it.

Just remember, normality is just a lack of individuality.