O0k Well me and my boyfriend (michael) have been going out for 2 years. I'm the guy in the relationship for example : I call him first, I say I love you first, I kiss him first, I start sex first , I propose ideasthat we can do like a movie,bake,zoo, museum . . .. Most of the stuff we do is because I proposed it . . . .Even when we have sex I feel like I control him . . . He's just there like a rag doll doingg a few things. I'm horny all the time . . . And when I want it I attack him . . .. Nnn when he wantss some . . . He will sit there until I do somthing . . . . I love Michael with all my heart . . . Breaking up and finding another boyfriend isn't the answer !!!!! Pleasee I need help . . . Need tipss need adviseee . . . I really want him to start growing some balls n be a man . . . And control me and the relationship . . . . Coming up with ideas of fun things we can do, he can attack me more, be on top off our relationship . . . . In genaral bee a boyfriend in charge . . . . .. . Pleaseeee I need adviceeeeeee . . .
2007-12-07 12:51:50 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
WOW ALL OF THIS IS GREATT !!! BUTTT . i tried all of it .. i yell... i nagg. i try to be nice... im a *****.i talked to him in a nice and bad way .he keeps telling me i need to back off a little bit and maybe he will start coming to me . butt i tired thatt alreadyy 2 weeks passs i goo crazyy cause imm f****** hornyyy and hess chillin there likeee hess not horny . . but i noo hes waitin untill i make the movee and i ttry sooo hard not to butt i end upp doing it . . and i make fun of him ... i tell him to grow some balls . . idk what to do anymoree . andd he iss brokenn cause the guyyy should be the guyyyy not the gurll . . . and i knoo guyss like it when gurls control buttt come onnn alll the time??? ill be happy if it was 50/50 butt nooo its more like 100/0 . godddd thankkk goddd imm not aloneee . i justt need more ideass . . and i asked him if he could take viagra and he was like nooo im not old . .. which i understand cause its 4 ppl dat cant get it up. . . n he can.
2007-12-07 13:11:57 · update #1
Are you a Leo or Scorpio by chance? Just talk to him. Tell him to observe nature and see how it works on the primal level. Tell him you need him to get all manly with you in bed. Tell him you love him very much but you hunger to feel the male force in your life. Encourage him to come out of his shell. If you can do this you will have created an amazing man. And lol don't take charge all the time. Just look at him with bedroom eyes and an expression that says "Are you going to take me or what dolt?"
He may like that you take charge a bit. But he needs to be touched emotionally and sexually enough to demand a reaction out of his spirit, not just his body. Even the most docile of us are a feral animal somewhere inside.
2007-12-07 13:21:41 · answer #1 · answered by Peter R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that Yahoo woman is a poor female. I would also think of a good lawyer, because she would be going to the courts of the land to answer for her violence. I would think this because I firmly believe that you do not treat a woman like a man. Knowing this I have no defence against the fists of an unjust and angry female. I would have to take the beating if I cannot retreat. If I can retreat then I would do so strategically. Now if it were a man trying to beat me up I would let loose and my fists and boots would fly. No need for the courts as we would settle it ourselves. Whether I win the fight or take a beating. No courts. So that's what this Yahoo man would think. Who's a good lawyer cause this ones going to court!
2016-04-08 00:44:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, quit being sexist. Being the aggressor in a relationship doesn't make you the man. You have a totally bad attitude that way. Second, if you actually had a take charge attitude, then you would have used it long ago to sit down with him and ask him why he doesn't initiate anything with you. Instead you simply wimp out by making the decisions and letting him sit idly by. So get up some courage and have a talk with him.
2007-12-07 12:59:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he seems to have a very cautios personality hell do anything to keep you just tell him to man up tell him you want him to be dominant thats really the only way you can talk to us guys cause if youve noticed we rarely can take a hint. Other thant that he just seems afraid to loose you or ever be in trouble with you so he dosent want to do anything you dont want to do for fear of making things suck. Help him out tell him you know hun i wouldnt mind if you came on to me, in fact i think it would be hot. and heel do it almost deffinitely.
Hope i helped
peace
2007-12-07 13:00:35 · answer #4 · answered by Josh H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are the problem here. Stop initiating everything and stop and let him do it. If he doesn't, ask why.
Your behavior sounds somewhat controlling.
Don't you communicate, talk? Try that, ask him what is going on. I'll bet he will say he doesn't have to do anything because you always do first.
Either that, or he is just not into you anymore.
2007-12-07 12:57:15 · answer #5 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where does it say that a man has to do everything? We enjoy it when women do things for us and control us once in a while.
In understand, though, that he is being completely submissive to you. Maybe that's just who he is. If this really bothers you, you should talk to him and ask why he lets you do everything.
2007-12-07 12:56:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't change men.
well u could try talkingt to him, "hey michael, i love you, but i sometimes feel like im doing a lot of the work in the relationship...y'know?"
talking is straighforward, the easiest answer. Depending on his answer, re-evaluate from there.
and when i said "you cant change men" i meant that it is extremely difficult to change their personalities, but you can, with hard work, change some of their habits.
The question is: is his lack of envolvement a characteristic trait or a habit?
2007-12-07 12:56:48 · answer #7 · answered by Kemps K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask him or try to hint it to him like when ur doing stuff u know tell him if he wants to do something to u to make him man up or when u want to go out and stuff ask him waht he likes to do maybe hel take more control when u hint him
2007-12-07 12:56:03 · answer #8 · answered by Just flowing by.... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AAAAH! haha im in EXACTLY the same situation. i really dont have any advice but i am highly amused and relieved that im not the only girl out there like this.
2007-12-07 12:55:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st off way to much info 2ndly i dont no i seem to pick the really controlling ones so i have no idea
2007-12-07 12:58:30 · answer #10 · answered by Softball Chick 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋