I'm 28 and my boyfriend is 24. In the beginning, he talked about getting married and we are very much in love. We lived together for like 4 months and I moved back in with my parents because he really wasn't ready for me to move in since we both hadn't been in a serious relationship for like 4-5 years (I have been divorced) and he had never lived with a girlfriend before... but since I moved out we've become a lot closer and our relationship is a lot stronger. I know he's the one I want forever.
We have been together 8 months and I REALLY want a ring. Just a promise ring... I'm not talking like getting married tomorrow. It's just that a ring is the ultimate symbol of commitment.. and plus, that means he's serious. He's already taking me to meet his mom next year. How would I let him know that I really want that commitment? I'm not getting any younger, I want kids and a family eventually and I really wanna know if he's serious about our future or not.
2007-12-07 12:51:22 · 13 answers · asked by oOMissMoonOo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Okay... for the people who are asking me "What's the rush"?? I'm 28. I've been married once to a man who I was with for 9 years and finally asked me to marry him at 22 and then, a year and a half later, walked out on me and I found out he cheated on me with my ex-best friend. I want to have kids and I want to do it before I'm 30 if possible... I want to be young enough to enjoy them, ya know? I don't want to PUSH him into it, but I want to know if he still has the intentions that he did in the beginning.
Also.. for those who think a "promise ring" is just an object or for "teenagers"... that is a matter of opinion and not a fact, first off. Secondly, the symbol of a ring, the circle, is personally a very important symbol that represents forever. It's a personal choice that I, as a woman, want to have as a promise from him. I don't need diamonds.. it's not the material object that I crave.
2007-12-08 15:42:00 · update #1
Wait until after you meet his mom to have this talk. He is already showing you that he's committed to you. A ring is just an object.
2007-12-07 13:30:55 · answer #1 · answered by luvly 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
confront him head-on. Ask him if he is serious then you would like a commitment. You are right in wanting a ring as that is what my wife did and I had to decide and choose to give ring . we married a couple of years latter.
Without a full commitment I would not contine as time does have a way of ticking fast....
2007-12-07 13:02:07 · answer #2 · answered by ensoman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have a relationship that's healthy enough to consider marriage, you should have a relationship that's healthy enough to SIT DOWN AND TALK TO HIM about it.
If you can't talk about it with him, then you're not ready to get married anyway.
That being said - you've only been together for 8 months. What's the rush?
2007-12-07 12:57:34 · answer #3 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
simple : talk to him about it..
if he is not ready for it ( he is only 24 afterall) then its up to you to decide if you want to sit and wait for him to be ready or to move on to greener pastures.
ps. a ring does not always guarantee a commitmen/marriage! Some guys give it to women to buy time and to stop them from nagging- do you want something to show on your finger? considering you say that you want to marry this guy, you should be pushing for a wedding date not a just promise ring.
2007-12-07 13:13:19 · answer #4 · answered by Hunney4Bs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a discussion about marriage. Ask him his beliefs then joking mention something like "so would you wanna marry me" and see what he says! That way you save face if he totally rejects the idea.
2007-12-07 12:56:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly i just want to thank you for answering my question on gemini men,im a firm believer in astrology!
I know where you are coming from because im in the same position with my man im 26 in 2 months and i want the whole commitment thing. Id say lethim know how much you want him and that theres noone else you want,then take a little step back.it will shake him one way or the other.
added you to my friends list.
Also check his star sigh,and work out how to get him to react,i know games are **** but all men play them xxx
2007-12-07 13:09:57 · answer #6 · answered by sexy v 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
if you pressure him, you are going to push him away. you could always ask him what he sees in his future? that is a good way to find out what he might be thinking, without saying "marry me".... maybe he doesn't want to get married?
a promise ring is for teenagers.
2007-12-07 12:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ring = commitment= rope around neck= exit out the window.
Dont do it, just let it be.
2007-12-07 12:56:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I agree ask him, if he says no its not the end of your relationship and dont feel rejected. if you love each other enough there will be a right time.
2007-12-07 13:17:17 · answer #9 · answered by Joanne E 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that you want to have some talk with him which is really important for lives of you both.
see if he comes for a talk. if he listens to you tell him you want him forever.
2007-12-07 13:10:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋