if you are talking with a man online in yahoo messenger with a webcam and on myspace for 2 months everyday for a long time and you fall in love with him and he falls in love with you but you have a boyfriend who is the father of your child and you live with him but you no longer have feelings for him and you are not happy with him and you do not like the way he treats u but the man u talk with online treats u better and does love u for u . how would i end the relationship with my childs father to be with my new lover and how would i go about it if i live with my childs father
2007-12-07 12:30:32 · 21 answers · asked by i am kool 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah, it's hard not to be interested in someone you IM every day for hours. (Sigh.) Well, you're not married -- go have fun with Mr Right.
2007-12-07 12:52:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
First of all, if things are ..bad between the guy you are with, you need to do something about that first. It doesn't matter if you are interested in someone else or not. It is not right to allow someone to treat you like crap. You are not crap, you are a person who deserves better. If you are afraid of his reaction, you can wait till you know he is not going to be home, is at work or etc. Then get your things together and get out. Take the child with you. Feel free to leave him a note telling him you have had it with him and you are not going to take it anymore. Tell him that he can see his child a few times a week or something. You bring the child over for a time and then go pick the child back up later on. You don't have to be there while the child is with him.
As for this person on the Internet, I only hope for you that it is a real thing. There are all kinds of weird people out there, this person you have been talking with could be someone else completely. Maybe he is married, or etc. Please make sure you know this person well enough to be with him. When you meet for the first time, meet in a public place with lots of people. Make sure you have a cell phone on you. (Or are near a pay phone) Do not allow yourself to be alone with this person until you have met with him quite a few times with a lot of people around. You can never be too careful. Yes, it is possible he is the real thing, it does happen. But it is also better to be safe then sorry.
Good luck and have a great night.
2007-12-07 12:43:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grass is always greener on the other side. An online relationship is so artificial. Of course the online guys seems better he is hiding behind a computer. You and your current boyfriend are raising a child that puts a lot more strain on a relationship than leaving emoticons and blog comments on a myspace page. I am not saying you didn't fall out of love with your current boyfriend, but you probably didn't really fall in love with the new one you were just looking for an escape.
2007-12-07 12:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by Trixstix 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
okay so it seems as though things are going great with this mystery man..and although you are in a spot where you obviously want and need attention that you are not getting from the man in your house. It will not last, it rarely does. You dont know this mystery man and it feels so right because you are not with him, but only dreaming of what it could or would be like. Trust me it would not turn out the way you think or would want it to. If it was meant to be that way then it would, but you don't really know him and he doesn't really know you. You need to let the man in your life know how you are feeling and even tell him that you have gone as far to turn to someone on line for the emotional support you are lacking from him. You have not cheated on him, but rather you have mearly sought out something you are missing. Let him know how you feel and that you need him to fill that void and not some stranger. Think of your kid too, it cannot be done to just put a new man in the situation, think about that. Good luck to you
2007-12-07 12:38:12 · answer #4 · answered by Eastcoast beachgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once, I was where you are right now. I would have fought anyone who told me anything other than what I wanted to hear. But you need to trust me on this one...you can't trust the feelings you have for someone you met online, because it isn't completely real. Until you've spent "real" time together, it's a 2-dimensional relationship that is destined to fail. You'll regret it.
My best advice is to tell your child's father you've fallen for someone else, and explain why. Then suggest you'd like to make your relationship work and get some counseling together. After he thinks he may lose you, he might start treating you better.
2007-12-07 13:18:38 · answer #5 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well i had a boyfriend i cheated on with a man i met at a restaurant and well now i hate the man i fill in love with at the restaurant cause he is a drunk that wont even help with the house work and my ex clean the hole house. sometimes if your no living with a man they seem better but, then they move in and they turn out worse then the one you got rid of. if i could get my ex back my new boyfriend would be gone so be careful he may treat you like crap later too. you don't no anyone from Internet
end it with boyfriend but, be care when starting a new relationship it may turn out bad too. good luck and think hard OK.
2007-12-07 12:49:35 · answer #6 · answered by daisy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No this is not okay of course , but the good thing that he let you hear what he say to her on the phone and the email, But can you guarantee what he say to her while you are not there . I had a friend before like this and we were in a very short relationship and it didnt work but we stayed very close friends and when he used to call me infront of his girlfriend we used to talk serious but when he call and she is not there he was trying to speak dirty and flirt and say he miss me. If he is honest now maybe in the future he will miss her , and trust me because she is a female she will not support you when he complain about you , this is women nature anyway , so tell him to minimize talking to her and if guys told you that is okay just because men think differantly and they dont know that women even when they are secure they dont like there man to have best friend female. bring a recorder and leave him at house alone and record for him what he say to her when he call , keep doing this for one or two weeks and then you will know what is going on exactly , but dont encourage him at smile at his face when he speak about her ,so if he really cares about you he will show some more respect to you and not contact her. In the future maybe he will have another 2 or three best freinds who knows .
2016-04-08 00:43:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know this man online will treat you better....How do you know this man on line loves you.....How do you know this man on line is not married....How do you know this is really a man you are talking to...If you are not satisfied with the childs father..tell him....then move on to a REAL person. Best of luck
2007-12-07 12:43:49 · answer #8 · answered by wilma s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it in phases... dont rush even though you cant help it... your decisions are clouded...
number one. when you talk with other guys while you are in a relationship you are not giving your partner a fair shake to improve, you have already given up, however you never ended the relationship. now you dont want him there and you have another man in the waiting... do you think he is waiting for you? what if he is really married and doesnt plan on getting a divorce... what if this is a game to him and you are taking it seriously...
if the relationship was really over your boyfriend would not be there.... so you havent ended it.. i wonder if the other guy is thinking ...gee when she gets tired of me....is she going to find another guy online then tell me to get out... he will never trust you... and since he is flirting with another mans girl... you know he will be doing that without regard after your together with other women... so you will never trust him....
its your choice to move on to an untrusting relationship with a guy you never met and take your chances.... or at least attempt some type of communication with your current man...
another thing... how are you going to end it..are you going to be honest or lie... the honoable thing to do is to say you met someone else... that can be scary though...and sometimes dangerous.... when your baby grows up they will find out these things and you will lose credibility as a parent and an adult... trust me kids might seem stupid sometimes but the get smarter than you eventually....
its always great when you only talk to someone online periodically...but its different when you have tpo live with someone... you dont know if you are going into worse waters than you are in right now....
its kinda like buying a used car... sorry honey no warranty it is as is... would you buy it online without taking it for a test drive? and if it was to expensive of a price would you look at just fixing up your car for so much less effort and cost and it would or could be good as new again... think about it...
dont let the affection of someone you really do not know cloud your intelligent thought process...
just to let you know I flew someone accross the country to meet them and it was a similar situation... and for the most part it went well... but all in all there was some things that just didnt fit after we hung out for a few days...
i hope i sparked some questions for you to think about.... look at your life it could get a lot more tougher if you dont deal with one issue... then allow yourself to be involved afterwards...
just think when the dad comes to get his child and the other guy is there... even if it did work out.. you will be looking over your shoulder for a long time....
good luck to you... i hope you make good choices on this... your child is counting on it.
2007-12-07 12:49:48 · answer #9 · answered by my_huckelberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember,,,,on-line romance is with a virtual person and you have a fantasy for them. People who fall in love with someone on the Internet should remember that the other person can create a figment of what they want you to see whether true or false. Better known as vaporware. Find a real person that you can see, hold and touch. That's real romance.
2007-12-07 12:42:57 · answer #10 · answered by MoonDoggie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First thing i would say is by the way you are talking you havent meet this guy online yet i would go and meet him and really get to know him before you do anything take this from someone that has meet a guy online and then after meeting them they where not the same person. So i really think you should get to know this guy before you do anything else.
2007-12-07 12:42:42 · answer #11 · answered by Jelly bean 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋