should u stay in a relationship with your child;s father if u are not happy or in love with him and how do you end the relationship if you both live together
2007-12-07 12:18:42 · 14 answers · asked by i am kool 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nope, I would leave... I would make sure I had all my ducks in a row, but i would leave... It's not healthy for you, him or the kiddo!
2007-12-07 12:26:10 · answer #1 · answered by Can't stand this 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! Run (not walk) as fast as you can!! Don't ever for a moment think that you are going to learn to love a person if you are together long enough. If you stay with him, you will be doing a great unjustice to yourself and your child. You wouldn't be setting a good example for your child if you did. How would you feel if you knew your parents didn't love each other and fought all of the time? Most children think that they are the reason that their parents fight--in this case, it would be true because you are only in it because of your child. If you and your child's father can be civil to one another while you are apart, it is a lot better than fighting and arguing while being together.
2007-12-07 12:25:23 · answer #2 · answered by Joi J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as there is no physical or mental abuse, and he's not cheating on you...not doing drugs or alcohol as an addiction...if he works and does not force sex on you....Then yes, you should stay. Love is a funny thing. We expect to feel fireworks and have this great attraction for the rest of our lives. What happnes in reality is that we stablize with our partner and what some people think has gone stale, is actually just a type of security. That's why they say it takes alot of work to keep a relationship exciting. Plan a special date night twice a month....get a babysitter those nights so you two can reconnect with the same passion you had early on in your relationship.
2007-12-07 14:57:04 · answer #3 · answered by Dana C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Children pick up on this very easy! It's better for a child to see you seperate and happy, than together and unhappy, even arguing. Assure the father that he will still be in the childs' life just as much.
2007-12-07 12:24:48 · answer #4 · answered by Amy D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well that is so tricky especially in this day and age. I have been trapped in that situation and questioning for years. I love my kids and my son is my hubbys from his first wife. I dont think it would be a good situation for him to go through another seperation. I dont want my child to go through it either I have seen how messy and hurt they can get. Our relationship has gotten so much better for years now but it was hard for a long time. I stayed and with staying the love grew and got better, but it was really hard for a long time. best wishes to you and i hope it gets better for you too
2007-12-07 12:31:59 · answer #5 · answered by Eastcoast beachgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a toddler does no longer want its mom and dad to be mutually. it somewhat is spectacular, yet recent study have shown that if a toddler is raised by making use of divorced mom and dad that the two take an energetic area in the youngster's existence, the youngster is unquestionably much less probably to grow to be in contact with drugs and crime than a universal kinfolk wherein the two mom and dad paintings. it is extensive... do no longer stay considering the fact which you think of you're helping the youngster. the dating will suck and the youngster with think of that adults merely have crappy relationships. do no longer sleep around and attempt to pretend which you're nonetheless with him. Have some dignity. come to a determination what you want your existence to look as though in 5 years and then commence education that right this moment.... solid success
2016-10-10 12:27:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thank God that I'm not with my daughter's dad any more! We fought constantly. He ignored her. I'd rather any kid on Earth grow up fatherless for a while ( you'll find someone else ) than to grow up thinking it's normal or ok for couples to fight alot or for the man to beat the woman or anything toxic like that. Kids pick up on these things very young too so try to move fast. My then 18-month-old niece used to walk around saying "Daddy hates Mommy" like it was just normal. It's heartbreaking. You'll all be better off if you split up.
2007-12-07 12:29:54 · answer #7 · answered by Debbie mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends. why are you not happy? what are the problems/issues? abuse? infidelity? mental health/substance abuse issues? if the issues are serious and can't be worked out in counseling, or he refuses to participate in counseling then, yes you may have to end the relationship. it's a decision only you can make.
2007-12-07 12:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by jen19music 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES!!!!! Stay with him for the SAKE OF THE KIDS!!!!
What would await them if you divorce? Custody and visitation fights, new boyfriend/girlfriends for their parents, possibly new stepdads/moms, stepbrothers/sisters, etc, etc, etc. If no new bf/gfs, a poor single mom with the kids seeing their dad every other weekend!!
CHAOS!!!! Don't do it!!!
2007-12-07 15:22:03 · answer #9 · answered by serene e 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sit him down & say "Sweetheart, you will always be the father of our child, but I think it is time for us to part because_____".
Better to be good parents APART than to be stressed parents together.
2007-12-07 12:23:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of you have to move out of the house and just tell him it's no longer working for you. That's what I did and I've never been happier.
2007-12-07 12:49:04 · answer #11 · answered by Jai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋