Ok so here is the deal. I'm married and I have 3 children. They are not my husbands children. He and I fully agree on how to discipline the kids in our home but my youngest daughters father disagrees he says that it is against the law for my husband to do so. I have looked around and I have not found anything that has said such a thing. Is this true? It is putting a real strain on things in our home because we would never do anything to hurt the children but its to the point where we are more watchful of what we say and do and the result of that is the children run all over us. Is there somewhere that I can get this law if it does exsist? Any advice would help. Thanks
2007-12-07 12:15:01 · 18 answers · asked by baby girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
of first of all i was never married to the father. and the father of my first 2 i was with for 7 years it just didn't work out. I was talking about spanking. We do not spank the kids but he keeps telling me that there is a law that forbids my husband from doing it at all. Her father once said that he would rather my daughter get hurt than have her hand smacked for sticking it into a light socket. Anyway I do not think that spanking is abuse and the law here agrees that if you are not beating your kids a spanking isn't abuse. I know others have different opinions so please spare me the rude comments and keep anything rude to yourself.
2007-12-07 13:32:54 · update #1
As long as it is normal punishment, and not physical, you need it. You have to enforce your house rules.
2007-12-07 12:18:50 · answer #1 · answered by CherryCheri 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There is not a law against a step parent disciplining a child. If your kids are with a sitter they are allowed to discipline them. Stop letting them run all over the two of you. It is none of your ex husbands business what goes on in your house if his children are safe. Tell him to butt out and worry about what goes on in his own house. Your children live in your husbands house and that gives him a right to discipline them. Your ex is just being jealous and trying to cause problems. If you are really worried about it go into the local police station and ask someone.
2007-12-07 21:32:57 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Some people are abusive to children. I'm not trying to accuse your husband of anything. I think that childen shall get spankings. I used to get spanked and I feel that if you do something wrong you get a slap on the back side. But parents sometimes abuse this and they cause domestic violoence and then that's when children learn to call cps
2007-12-08 02:07:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a step mom and get slammed all the time for disciplining my step son and my daughter. To me my kids (I view my step son as my son) when in my care or the care of any adult have the right to be disciplined. I do not smack my kids. However, they do get punished. They both get punished and my husband and I both have the right to punish either of them. As does anyone that they are in the care of. You cannot stop someone for punishing a child when they need it, unless it is abusive toward the child. BUT it sounds as though your ex is trying to make contention between you and your family. I am in the same situation. Kids need structure and when someone is going to say that you cannot do it...that is just not right. Kids cannot control the parents, do not lose the upper hand and let them have free reighn over you. It is not showing them discipline or respect. Good luck to you and if you know of a way to change those good ol' step parent right laws and ex laws...email me, I will sign on with you....
2007-12-07 20:28:25 · answer #4 · answered by Eastcoast beachgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummm...don't think that is true. If it is then heck...I'm in trouble for allowing my husband to discipline my son. Both my sons real father and I agree that his stepfather should discipline our son when necessary. How else will he learn to respect him? I'm interested to know if there is such a law now. Good question.
2007-12-07 20:21:00 · answer #5 · answered by latinlady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how many fathers of these 3 kids are there, like 1 dad per kid??
Uh, your husband has no business putting his hands on any of the kids at any time. Certainly grounding them for breaking rules, not keeping their room clean is OK. Its his house right?
2007-12-07 20:19:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has the legal right to verbally discipline the children. It is his house, the law recognizes this and the rules of the house can be inforced by him.
2007-12-07 20:21:32 · answer #7 · answered by Rein 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it is illegal, but theoretically it is not a good idea. Stepdaughters have enough problems dealing with step fathers. You should be the one disciplining your children. I'm sure a lot of people won't agree, i am just passing on what statistics show, not from experience.
2007-12-07 20:19:56 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This law does not exist. Of course, abuse is not okay, no matter who does it, but there is no law that forbids a stepfather to discipline his wife's children.
2007-12-07 20:41:42 · answer #9 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no law saying he can't (your hubby) do anything. Your baby's daddy is blowing smoke up your Hinny... He just plan out doesn't like it, as you wouldn't care for his new wife to discipline them...
Good luck!
2007-12-07 20:22:33 · answer #10 · answered by Can't stand this 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no law against step parents disciplining their step kids--as long as it's not abusive. In that case, it's illegal for all parents.
2007-12-07 20:39:45 · answer #11 · answered by christina30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋