she is 26...when we were dating she told me 26 guys and i thought that was a lot but today she told me the number is more like 60...i am 29 and i have only been with her. we have been together for four years.
2007-12-07 12:08:34 · 38 answers · asked by Marty the One Man Party 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, we all tell lies because we are embarrassed by our past. Don't give her a really hard time, she just didn't want to tell you and to be honest... I wouldn't want to tell anyone either... Don't be scared, your married and you've been together for 4 years... don't sweat the small stuff...
2007-12-07 12:24:31 · answer #1 · answered by Can't stand this 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is just kidding you .. right ?
If she is 26 now .. and you have been with her for 4 years .. then this means she would have been with 60 men before she was 22 ?
You can't unring a bell ... however, I would find out if she was serious.
Being with this many men could represent many diseases.
I hope you are not from a small town because every one you look at will make you wonder .. is he one of the 60?
Surely .. she is not serious.
If she is serious .. I think I would have to do a lot of thinking about this.
Everyone does things in their life which they regret. And, lots of times people want forgiveness - and they learn their lesson. Also - there could be extreme circumstances which contributed.
You should gather all the information about it .. and see what you think of the situation as a whole.
You may love her enough to forgive her .. get past it .. and go on with your life with her.
We must judge ourselves, before we judge someone else.
2007-12-07 12:25:42 · answer #2 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!! Why now?? You should have been freaking out when she told you 26, so why does 60 really make a difference? Plus you have been together and married for 4 years and you haven't said that things were bad, so Be blessed she chose you to marry and enjoy the time you spend together with the woman you love and married.
2007-12-07 12:49:14 · answer #3 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should read the question about "can you turn a whore into a house wife" for more info. She is probably great in the sack and you can thank those 26 guys for her experience! If a guy did the same thing he would be hailed as a hero!! Many guys wish they could have numbers like that and are envious! Women can have casual sex way more often and easier than a man because there is always a guy willing to throw his dik on the craps table and guys usually have to work to convince a woman! (were beggars and they're choosers) As long as she is disease free and committed, then don't worry because you can turn a ho into a housewife!
If a woman walked into a bar and yelled out "who wants to have sex?" she will always find offers. (unless she is repulsive)
If a guy did the same thing he would be called a pervert, definitely not score (unless your girlfriend was there lol j/k), and probably get tossed out.
This is my theory on beggars and choosers!
2007-12-07 12:22:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go easy on her. It took a lot of time for her to open up to you and tell you the truth, so she's likely feeling pretty vulnerable and scared about it right now. If you throw it back in your face, you'll maybe end up with a divorce, so be kind. She loves you enough to be your wife and tell the truth, which is probably way, way more than she ever gave those other guys.
The main point is her faithfulness now. The lack of phisical virginity never doomed a marriage, but the lack of practical chastity does every time.
2007-12-07 12:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by emmyfair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about 60 men. She might of had some sort of confrontation with 60 men, she kissed, went out on a date with, etc. It's probably not those shes had a relationship with. I wouldn't worry about it either way. She married you. It's YOU she loves, not however many men shes done whatever with in the past.
Good luck and have a great night.
2007-12-07 12:26:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what makes you want to freak out? the amount, the fact that you dont have that much experience, the fact that she does? You chose to be with her for a reason, did she not tell you this until after you married? can you blame her for not telling you the proper number, look at how upset you are over it. unless she slept with any of these men while she was with you, it is a waste of energy and hurtful to your relationship to assume that it makes a difference. we spend so much time searching for that perfect someone that when we actually find them, we freak out and want to change them to fit what we think is proper. so she has a past. I am sure there is a lot abvout your past that you arent proud of either. it doesnt make her a bad or unfaithful person. if she is disease free, faithful to you, and trusted you with this information...then you need to be a good husband and stand by her side. you chose to marry her, so why should her past change how you feel about her now? she is still the same person you married. how would you feel if the situation were reversed? would you want her to trust that you love her and that it was all in the past or would you want her to freak out and judge you for your past? think about it and I hope it all works out. try talking to her about what is really bugging you about the entire situation, maybe she can ease your worries.
2007-12-07 13:02:48 · answer #7 · answered by piercing_beauty96 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I got together when I was in my mid thirties, he was in his late thirties. We had both been married previously. How many women he has been with is not something I even want to know! How many men I have been with is irrelevant to him as well. I don't understand what your wife is attempting to accomplish by telling you these things. It has obviously upset you - and for good reason. I think I would be wondering why she wants to hurt you this way, more than if you should be freaking out about the number.
2007-12-07 12:21:58 · answer #8 · answered by Maggie Mae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, yeah. I'd be a little worried about that. Sixty is a huge number for someone 26. Oh well, she's probably a freak in bed. Have fun!
2007-12-07 12:21:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not yanking our chain, your wife has probably accumulated half of those 60 guys while you've been together. Hence the reason she previously told you 26. And based on your earlier question about her going to bars but "not cheating", she is probably in fact giving it away like Halloween candy.
2007-12-07 13:08:27 · answer #10 · answered by jeff b 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't matter, maybe she was a nymphomaniac and thats nothing to be concerned about, I am sure thats all outgrown, just took her time to find the right man. Maybe the diseases she could have picked up would be a concern, I think Herpes is one common one and I think if you have kids, it would be a concern if she did have that.
Otherwise, it's in the past, so NO it shouldn't really matter, it's cool she was honest with you. I wouldn't sweat it, those college years can tend to be quite FUN!!!! and she is past all that now, be glad for that.
I totally agree with ACE!!!!! If you changed anything about her past, she wouldn't have been the one you fell in love with.
2007-12-07 12:18:46 · answer #11 · answered by darlin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋