I am a forty-year-old, happily married woman with a fifteen-year-old daughter who thinks she's ready for sex. I want to take my own poll and discover what other people think. (Please answer appropriately.)
2007-12-07 11:24:11 · 67 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The appropriate age is when she is mature enough to handle the consequences. My grandmother and probably yours was married at 15 in 1922, just a different time back then. No matter what, you should get her on the pill. She may chose to ignore your wishes, she needs to be protected. My sister thought her daughter wasn't sexual active, now she is a grandmother at 38. My niece had her son at 16.
2007-12-07 11:32:35 · answer #1 · answered by John B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't think anyone under 20 years of age is truly ready for sex. I have a 15 year old daughter as well and I stress to her that sex is something that should happen between two people that love each other. Thankfully she has chosen to remain a virgin until after highschool. I know that this may change at some point, but I'm glad that she feels that way. 15 is WAYYYYYYY too young to have sex. But, all you can do is make sure your daughter understands the reasons it's better to wait, the biggest reason being is that she is in NO WAY emotionally ready for something like that. Good luck hun. I hope I've helped.
2007-12-07 11:32:50 · answer #2 · answered by Kathy R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lost my virginity at age 15. I regret that so much.
Here's some questions for you and for your daughter. Don't take offense to these because I'm not being sarcastic or mean, they're just really important questions that you need to ask yourself as a mother, and your daughter.
For you:
1.) Are you ready to become a grandparent if she becomes pregnant from having sex? ( not all birth control methods work 100% of the time )
2.) Are you ready to pay the bills of her pregnancy and birth? Or the hospital bills if any complications arise in the pregnancy she may have from being sexually active?
3.) Are you ready to deal with her possibly contracting a STD? There's bills with that too, trust me, and they're not cheap at all.
For your daughter:
1.) Can she face herself, her friends, her life if she contracts a STD? It's not just like finding out you got a bad grade on your homework, it can be life changing sometimes if it isn't curable.
2.)What if the guy she's with rapes her? I know that can happen whether you're a virgin or not, but how could any of you handle that situation?
3.) Can she physically, emotionally and financially handle being pregnant and being a parent?
Those are just some questions to think about. My personal opinion, I wouldn't give her permission to become sexually active. She may do it on her own time, behind your back, whichever. Not always is being that open going to bring you closer. I would talk to her about it and tell her all of the risks of having sex. Losing your virginity is a big deal, you can never ever get it back.
I hope you two can talk it out and agree on something. Good luck!
2007-12-07 11:42:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are 40 years old and happily married, you should know what to talk to your daughter about. No way is it ok for a 15 year old to feel ready for sex. She needs to talk to you openly and honestly. I know kids will do what they want but as long as she is asking you should be armed with information as to all the risks involved with sex etc etc. She needs to know that being ready for intercourse is a lot different than the sexual feeling she is having now.
2007-12-07 11:34:01 · answer #4 · answered by beenthere2 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have 14 year old daughter and as a very protective father I would have to say after Im dead is a good age for her to start having sex. Realisticly though, when did you start? When were you curious about it? Were you her age when you felt you were ready? I know everybody matures in that area differently , so my advice would be just make sure she knows all the options for birth control and safe sex. If she wants to do it she will and its better she does it safly and can feel safe talking to you about it should any problems arise. I am not in anyway saying its ok to have sex at that age, but I am not one of those cluless parents who think their kids will never do it. If you raised your daughter right and she values what you say the best you can hope for is she will wait, but boys can be persuasive. Good luck with it all though.
2007-12-07 11:32:50 · answer #5 · answered by puglyparker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to wait at least 5 years. Get out of school and in a good job or college before she ruins her life.
Take her to a hospital and show her the nurseries there, Have her talk to some teen moms or single moms, outside your family friends or little groups she may know. Ask her what she'd do if the first time she did have it . She got sick from an std or worse HIV ?
It's best to wait till marriage, but todays society doesnt do that. So they should at least wait till they're through with school So they can have a chance of succeeding well in life.
I hope she changes her mind about things. I was so proud of my girl for getting through high school without even thinking about it, and taking her studies over boys while she was learning.
2007-12-07 11:31:58 · answer #6 · answered by poetbjc64 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
usually i wont initiate killing people who've intercourse with the comparable age team. Justifiably, 18 your an person, nevertheless id opt to assert while your 21 i misplaced mine at 13. And definite i'm a slut. i'm additionally a guy, yet im first rate and purely sleep with those in my comparable age or atleast 4 years withing older our youthful and not in any respect absolutely everyone decrease than 18. the people who do, choose a bullet of their head. So im gonna say 18.
2016-11-14 19:58:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 15 she is willing and able and if she chooses to go ahead with it then there is precious little you will be able to do about it. Just tell her about how important it is to have safe sex to avoid STD's and unwanted pregnancy. Show her a child birth video (this sometimes deters them for a while). Tell her how you will be disappointed if she does have sex this early in life (how succesful this is depends on the relationship you have with your daughter) Don't fight with her or even talk in raised voices over this issue, she may do it just to spite you.
Best of luck. As for when is appropriate, only your daughter can answer that, and she won't know the answer for many years to come.
2007-12-07 11:34:48 · answer #8 · answered by oldersox 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you ready for her to be sexually active? Are you ready to take that chance of becoming a grandmother? How about that trip to the doctor to get birth control? How about to treat a sexually transmitted disease? Would you be able to meet these boys who she'll be having sex with at age 15? I'm not sure what the appropriate age really is but I'm not ready for any of that when it comes to my 15 year old. If she says she's ready, I'm sure she'll do it with or without your permission.
2007-12-07 11:36:30 · answer #9 · answered by TNC 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my. I'm eight-teen years old and I don't think I'm ready for sex! Its so sad these days to see all the girls at my highschool who are pregnant and their boyfriends left them. Do the right thing. Talk to her and tell her that sex is not an extra curricular activity its meant for someone you love and want to be with. And make sure she knows about std's. Also put her on birth control. If she wants to have sex she will find a way to do it so there isn't much you can do except make sure she is informed and on birth control.
Hope I didn't offend anyone!
2007-12-07 11:30:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋