If a spouse doesn't want to have sex is it okay to not want to give them access to all your income?
You each would still contribute each of your FAIR share for the bills and expenses, but keep the rest to yourself.
Would this sort of self behaviour on both side make the other person value their spouse any more or less?
So which is more wrong?
With holding Sex or Money?
2007-12-07 09:39:12 · 10 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Come on get off your high horses. "More Money" and "More Sex" are the two most common arugments in marriage and every tries to say they aren't related, but I believe they are. If a spouse is getting their fill of sex they are more willing to spend more money on their spouse. So why can't the reverse be true as well.
2007-12-07 09:56:08 · update #1
Equally unhealthy for a marriage.
2007-12-07 09:42:30 · answer #1 · answered by primalclaws1974 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find out why the spouse doesn't want to have sex. Are they tried from work, stress out, or something YOU did wrong and you don't know about it?
Money shouldn't be an issue here, your relationship is. Talk to your spouse.
2007-12-07 17:43:55 · answer #2 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's ask the reverse of the "is it ok to not want to give them access to all of your income?"
Is it ok to pay your wife for sex?
I think you know the answer to that.
You shouldn't withhold sex, you shouldn't withhold money. But you do need to get to the bottom of why your wife (or husband) doesn't want to have sex with you. Something is wrong...try talking. It does wonders for a marriage (believe it or not).
2007-12-07 17:44:45 · answer #3 · answered by Student Doctor House 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are MARRIED. Whatever access to your income you give should be based on that, regardless of the amount of sex. If you got married simply for constant access to sex, then that was your mistake.
You dont have rights to someone else's body, even if you are married. Sure, usually married people have sex, but you dont get to demand it. Period.
If she's withholding sex for money reasons, she's wrong and so are you. Otherwise, you're just wrong.
2007-12-07 18:21:18 · answer #4 · answered by lutmerjm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is that your spouse or a live-in prostitute that you connect sex or lack thereof to income. Sounds like you are on different wavelengths.
2007-12-07 17:44:27 · answer #5 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
money is not the issue here. something has gone wrong and it sounds like the communication has failed. sit down and talk to each other and be very open and honest with each other. as a married couple you are one and there is no mine.
2007-12-07 17:46:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do notice your are far more concerned about what is fair, then why the poor woman has no interest!
If you really loved her, you would be concerned about WHY!
2007-12-07 17:49:30 · answer #7 · answered by starrzfan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? What the heck does one thing have to do with the other?
2007-12-07 17:43:45 · answer #8 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is powerful, don't give it up for nothing.
2007-12-07 17:57:14 · answer #9 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I am going to pay it won't be my wife.
2007-12-07 17:54:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋