Do you think marriage is important and essential to raising a child?
2007-12-07 09:34:56 · 19 answers · asked by CK 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it is both important and essential. Just look at how many questions/crises there are on here with people wondering what to do with ex's and their children! It creates so much instability for the children. Also, there was an article about a month ago about all of the children that are abused by boyfriends/girlfriends of the parent b/c they just want the parent...not their kid.
Yes, people can raise good children and be divorced/remarried/single parent. Is it the best environment for a child to be raised in? No. Children learn from their parents...and will pattern their behaviors. I don't think parents realize this, and that's a big problem. I think children are much happier when they go home to mommy AND daddy that love each other.
2007-12-07 09:41:21 · answer #1 · answered by Student Doctor House 6 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Having 2 responsible parents/adults PERIOD is essential to raising children, but a lot of people feel that the message that is conveyed when people are married raising children is more positive. Marriage usually implies responsibility, and stability. Obviously not all marriages have this as an underlined value, but it's implied. Either way - 2 responsible adults are necessary to raise children. It can be done with 1, but it's much harder.
2007-12-07 18:23:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a question that is going to get a lot of different answers. Heres mine.
Sometimes it is out of a persons hands when they have a baby. Some may say you shouldnt have sex untill you are married. But in todays world, it seems like it is almost expected that a person gets pregnant without being married. Im not just talking about our younger generation.
A person can raise a child on their own if that is the case. I feel that if the child is recieving all the love, care and nurture that is needed then they are ok. My mother and father were married for only 3.5 years when he was killed. My mom raised me from age 3 to 12 on her own and I came out fine. :)
I do feel that it is important to be married so that you yourself are more secure financially and emotionally.
But like I said the times have changed, this is not excuse, but many people do use it as one.
:) I hope I made some kind of sense and answered your question.
2007-12-07 17:53:21 · answer #3 · answered by Girly Graphics 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
the ideal situation for raising children is 2 parents who are married to each other. Sometimes it doesn't happen that way though. Obviously it is not essential that the parents to be married to raise a child as plenty of people raise kids by themselves, but the children do suffer for it. Sometimes it is unavoidable (death of a parent, abuse issues, etc.), but a lot of times I don't think people consider the impact their life choices have on their children. I'll probably get a bunch of thumbs down for this, but when people become parents I think they give up their rights to many choices. If two parents have domestic issues (with the exception of abuse), I think it's selfish of them to not suck it up and play nice. People say that kids suffer more when they live in a house where the parents argue and can't get along. So, when parents find themselves in that situation they need to be responsible adults, find a reason to appreciate and respect each other, and stay married.
2007-12-07 17:52:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
it takes a mom (did your hurt yourself, let mommy kiss it better) and a dad (get up you'll be fine) to help round out a child. maybe the key isn't ,before getting married ,just make sure before you have kids this is really someone you can look at for the rest of your life and not think about all the things you would like to change about them. picking your spouse is the most important decision you'll ever make. raising children is the hardest and most rewarding job you'll ever have. Yeah, marriage is essential.
2007-12-07 17:45:39 · answer #5 · answered by Jelly B 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Not as long as the couple is loving towards each other or at the very least civil. I think marriage makes things easier as far as insurance is concerned. But other than that, if a couple chooses to live together and take care of a child together--or even if they don't live together--then I think if they can do so in a loving environment, then all will be fine with the child. The kid might have to suffer being made fun of, but what kid doesn't?
2007-12-07 17:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
I think that as long as you both are together, that it is not necessary to be married. It is important for a child to have both a mother and a father in its life, I feel that much is true. Plenty of mothers and fathers raise children alone, but it isn't recommended.
It depends on the relationship with whom you would be having this child. It is normal in Europe for parents not to be married (living together still) and raising children, I know a few. It is merely how you BOTH feel is best for the child and your relationship.
2007-12-07 17:41:34 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica P 1 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I personally wouldnt do, its just the way I was raised..but I know many people who have. I think as long as its a loving caring home, there is no need to get married right away, but if youre bringing religion into it, the I think you should get married..Good Luck and Congrats!!!
2007-12-07 17:42:58 · answer #8 · answered by Leannamick 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's essential. What is essential is love, respect and stability. If these exist within the framework of a marriage, then that's the best situation...but it's not the only one that can work.
2007-12-07 20:57:20 · answer #9 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I did it....it is a sin...statistics say a married couple has much better success with parenting and I agree....we have gotten married and beat the odds though(thank you God!)....I believe it is VERY important to get married first if you can
2007-12-07 19:18:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋