Well I am 18 and meeting a man in a hotel soon. I never met the guy but have met him online. I have only seen pictures of him from years ago, no recent picture. I have been talking online with him; he is a bear and likes younger boys. What can I do to make sure I am safe and he is not some psycho killer?
2007-12-07 08:48:37 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Dont meet him in a hotel....meet him in a public place where there are people around...you cannot trust people these days right off the back....please stay safe and good luck honey!
2007-12-07 08:51:21 · answer #1 · answered by Go Away 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
DON'T GO! I'm serious!! There's absolutely NO way that you can be sure that he's not some psycho killer. You guys are obviously meeting for sex. Isn't there someone you can meet out at a bar or something, so you can at least get a feeling of their personality first?
Seriously, if he's soliciting young boys on the internet, he's probably married or at least in the closet. And that's best-case scenario. Remember, Jeffrey Dahmer solicited young boys too.
Please, please, please, don't go. Think about it! You owe it to yourself, your health, your safety, and your future lovers who are going to treat you right.
EDIT: Sufi and Trisha are right - if you HAVE to meet him, do it in a public place, and don't let him guilt you into going anywhere private unless YOU really want to go. If he pushes you to do something you don't want to do, he doesn't respect you and probably has alterior motives.
2007-12-07 08:53:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully, I don't hear about this incident on the news......the only thing I can say is that I told you not to go, so it's not on my conscience.
DO NOT GO!!!!! Meet him in a public place, and once you did get to know him better I STILL would not advise going alone.......have someone at least nearby in case you need help
All this crazy mess about people people meeting over the Internet in strange places and your actually giving it a thought?!?! At a HOTEL no less?!?!?!
2007-12-07 09:04:29 · answer #3 · answered by PrincessJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are really gonna do this, then be safe as possible!
Tell somebody where you are going, right down to the room number, have an agreed to check in time (call them at that time) if you dont call, they should contact police, and have a code word that means send help!
also, meet them in a lobby or nearby bar or coffe shop, that way if he is a troll you can politely bail.
Most chicken hawks are just out for fun, but you gotta be safe.
2007-12-07 08:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by parkermbg 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
:o first dun go and meet him you don't know what this guy will do to you and second if you do decide to ignore the first 1 bring a cell phone and some sort of weapon you can defend yourself with and its best to meet him in a public place. Stay safe!
~ksnkun
2007-12-07 08:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by ksnkun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell a friend where you are going. Make sure the friend telephones your cell phone at a prearranged time, to check that you are ok. (I don't care if it interrupts anything - your safety is paramount)
Besides, if you are on here asking this, it shows you have doubts about it. Doesn't that bother you? If you have doubts, don't do it. Bring him home for dinner at your place or something. At least you'll be safe.
2007-12-07 08:54:09 · answer #6 · answered by claire b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT GO!!! That is a not so smart silly thing to do!! Please, Please don't go!! At least email me if you go and let me know you are okay once you have left. Let someone you trust know what is going on, where you will be and so on.So if something were to happen they can track you down. But please reconsider you are still to young and naive. You may be putting yourself in danger. Also if you insist on meeting with him have him meet you in a very public place first!! So you can get teh vibes on if you are doing the right thing. Sounds like a bad idea to me!!
2007-12-07 08:54:56 · answer #7 · answered by married with kids 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not go. What kind of person would want to meet you at a hotel? Come on where is the common sense? Any decent person would want to meet somewhere public. stick to meeting people in public that's how i met my husband. they are plenty of people in your town.
2007-12-07 08:53:03 · answer #8 · answered by Trisha heart 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm what can you do? Not go! Duh. Why would you want to put yourself in this kind of position. Just to get some ***? Doesn't make sense to me. If you really need it that bad then meet him in a public place and hang out with him for the whole day before you go back to the hotel. You don't know where he has been...gross. You need to get educated!
2007-12-07 08:52:18 · answer #9 · answered by Sadbrowneyes13 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Always meet in a public place and continue to do so until you can trust him. Many people are not who they seem.
To meet him at a hotel room is absolutely insane.
2007-12-07 09:00:58 · answer #10 · answered by fun_purple_beach 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋