Really Deep Question, Don't Answer if You're Used to Being Shallow?

Question

Please don't direct your answers at me, its not personal.
A lady realizes she's become pregnant due 1 night she was sexually assaulted. She doesn't find out until 3 mons later, b/c everything was normal until then. She's single, but was in the process of starting a new relationship. Since she's found out she's with child, should she a) pursue the relationship and hope for understanding, but also risk being rejected; b) just forget about the relationship and focus on her developing fetus; c) put off the relationship, give the child up for adoption and then pursue her relationship, or d) hope its not too late for an abortion?

If there are other options please add.

Answer 1

I'm thinking she should choose a). If he rejects her that shows he's "shallow". I bet she's a loving and caring person and abortion or adoption aren't really in her sights. But she does deserve the oportunity to find love and if he's the one he'll accept her and her child.

Answer 2

Somewhere between C and D. Most women would almost immediately get an abortion. The ones who do have and keep the child end up abusing the child because it reminds them of the sexual assault. And as far as a relationship, a real woman wouldn't even be thinking about that, some may even be afraid of men for a while.

Answer 3

Interesting, I was going through this exact scenario in my head about a week ago. A child is a blessing so I would see it as such, and if it's meant for me to be with the guy, I would let our relationship continue to gradually develop. If he is a good guy and cares about me, he will accept me and my child as well. Of course, if they are still together when the child is born, then the child would very likely grow up to see them as a father figure, but that's only if the two adults stay together that long, and if it was me, I would definitely make sure to explain to my guy that I don't expect him to feel like it's his responsibility but that I do expect him to care about my child since he cares about me.
Of course, if she really, really is unable to take care of a kid at the time, then she should consider adoption, but yes that would be after careful thinking because I wouldn't recommend it off-hand as the very first option since if she is a working adult with family support, she could really grow to love the fact that she is having a child.
Nobody is a mistake, so abortion shouldn't even be an option.

Answer 4

Hmm with the first choice it depends on the guy. I would pick A. Or something like it. He is going to find out sooner or later so why not make it sooner? For the second and third choice they could back fire. With the second the guy might really want to have a relationship with the woman and they end up together anyway. Or he could keep trying to win her back, cute but eventually annoying. With the third the woman may not want to give up her baby, you know she's grown to love it. And after dumping the guy he might not want to get back with her, especially if he finds out about the baby. As for the last one, it's too late for an abortion. I'm pretty sure by now that she wouldn't be able to get one being this far. And even so it would be pretty expensive, and most likely hard to find.

Answer 5

There's a problem with your question - how did the woman not know she was pregnant for three months? How did she not notice her period skipped not only the first month, but the next two months as well? And why did she not seek medical treatment immediately after the assault, which would have automatically included a pregnancy test?

But assuming she somehow had normal periods while pregnant, yet tested herself at the third month to discover she was pregnant (totally illogical, but working with your scenario):
a) she should be totally honest with her partner about the assault and the result
b/c) there is no need to sacrifice or delay the relationship for the developing fetus
d) it probably is too late for an abortion, but given that she was raped, I think that abortion (or adoption or childrearing) should remain her choice during the first trimester.

Answer 6

I say a). If this man loves he will understand that even though this is another mans baby, it is growing inside the woman he loves so pationately. But if he don't understand go with b). I'm not dirrectly against abortion but i believe that a child should be given life and at least live with 1 of it's biological parents.

Answer 7

There are many different options. All of which start with communication. This person should figure out what they want to do with their life, and then ask the person they are beginning a relationship with to do the same.

It does no good to figure out possible options through conjecture. The person in question needs to find out what their options really are by communicating with everyone involved...
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Haha, all the people giving me thumbs down must prefer to "guess" all possible out comes and situations. It does no good to tell this woman she should keep the baby and continue a life with her boyfriend if once she talks to him he decides he does not want children at this time in his life and/or can't handle the situation. Who are we to tell her if she should keep the baby in the first place? This is her decision to make, and then it's her obligation to disclose the situation to her mate so that he can make a decision he'll be comfortable living with.

all the hypothetical situations go out the window once the rubber meets the road. Options that were there one minute on the internet, might not present themselves in real life.

Answer 8

My advice would be to be honest w/this new person;then go from there;I think it`s too late for an abortion so this coming baby is a reality she has to deal with. She may change her mind a few times before she comes to choose and comit to an action regarding this baby.

Answer 9

she should do what she feels is right.
if I were in that position there is no amount of preaching etc anyone could do to stop me from having an abortion (so option d).
I think I would hold too much resentment toward that child for what happened to me, I'd worry that I wouldn't be able to provide it with a loving home. here come the thumbs down....but you know what people? THAT'S MY OPINION!

Answer 10

I would go with another option. similar to A ...
pursue relationship and tell the man her story. ask for support. if man rejects, then i guess he never really did love her in the beginning...