2007-12-07 08:13:31 · 28 answers · asked by Wickwire 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
I did when I was young, figuratively speaking, and when I was testing the water and sowing my wild oats. If I did something wrong, I would absolutely get physically sick and throw up.
I feel very fortunate, I have carried my Guardian Angel/my Mother on my shoulder since the day she died. I was eight years old at the time. I moved in with my grandparents, who lived right next to the section of the cemetery, where she was buried. I could walk out the back door, walk 30 feet and visit with my mother at her grave side. I think that is when I begin to heal and feel her presence with me and I knew in time. . . . We would sit together and have our usual, cup tea and toast.
This isn’t a sad story for me by any means. It was 64 years ago and time heals and the pain goes away. It has been good for me, because I have always tried to please her, but there are, those times that I felt, great remorse and had a guilty conscience, because I failed her expectations of me. Her spirit has kept me on the straight and narrow, with the exceptions of the times that I crossed the line.
My 13-year-old granddaughter gave me a cute little plaque for my birthday. It says, “Grandmothers Are Antique Little Girls” It’s a lot easier for antique little girls to follow, the straight and narrow.
Thanks so much. Your question sent me back in time and now, “ It’s back to the future.”
2007-12-07 18:36:04 · answer #1 · answered by DeeJay 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do feel I have a guilty conscience. I feel that way all the time. I may not be guilty of doing anything wrong at all, but still feel guilty of wrong doing anyway. I feel like that no matter what I do or how much I do, I could still do more or done better than what I did. Even at that, sometimes I am afraid to do some stuff as I have the fear of get gripped out cause I did it wrong or not the way that they would do it, (even though the end results would be the same). I think the reason that I feel this way is because of all the years of abuse that I have gone threw.
2007-12-07 11:11:45 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No Wickwire. I have done my best and that is all I can ask of myself. Did I make mistakes? Without a doubt, would I changed that if I could... maybe. I have learned a great deal from my mistakes. Having a guilty conscience implies that we haven't done our best or have done something we need to be forgiven for. If anything, I feel guilty about things I had no control over and that just doesn't make any sense at all... such as, If I hadn't been born my Mother would have had a better life. True? Who knows, but those are the only fleeting feelings of guilt I feel on occasion.
2007-12-07 08:28:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
For many years I carried so much ( undeserved) guilt. My dad was a minister ( that was a joke) but anyway, I moved to my parent's home after my first 13 years with my grandparents, and I became involved with the church. This was not a bad thing, at the time I was a very lonely little girl and my friends at church filled so much of my empty hours that I experienced with mom and dad. Anyway.....for years all I could think about,
was if my ( adult children) didn't go to church or weren't involved with religion it was all my fault and they might go to the wrong place in the end.....which of course would be my fault as well. I finally, with therapy, got over that and now I don't feel really guilty any more than the average person I think.
2007-12-07 09:53:33 · answer #4 · answered by Eve 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, I really have nothing to be guilty about, Im a very honest person and im not saying i never stretch the truth, but if its something that is important i wont lie about it.. so therefore i dont have a guilty conscience..
Deb :)
2007-12-07 12:13:02 · answer #5 · answered by debbie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I married the wrong guy, and so gave my kids a poor excuse for a father. But they don't see that as such a terrible thing, so my guilt has been relieved a bit. Other than that , no I don't feel guilty for anything - I've always tried to do my best, and there haven't been any really bad outcomes. Thank heavens !
2007-12-08 00:57:54 · answer #6 · answered by Stella 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For the most part no. If anything there are things that I did as a mother that I feel guilty about. Like marrying my second husband, not saving enough money..stuff like that. I suppose that all mothers are like that though.
Southern Comfort ...dont' feel guilty about that. You should not let yourself suffer. I have been there before and I know how it is.
2007-12-07 08:46:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No because I try to make the right decisions and not to do anything to make my conscience guilty. But you know we are not perfect of course.
2007-12-07 08:19:55 · answer #8 · answered by Jamonican 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
IN only one area, and it is a very painful area...that I could have done more for one who died...that I could have given him more 'personal time together" by going out to keep him company when he was eating alone, that I could have spent more time just talking and listening to him....I thought there would be years, there were none....I will never loose this feeling, so to others, don't make the mistake I did...do it now. Tell someone you love that you love them, listen to them NOW, not tomorrow, spend time with them NOW, not tomorrow..I found out that sometimes, there is no tomorrow.
And for fathers, spend the time NOW with your children, not tomorrow. They leave so young, by the age of 12 or so, they are gone into their own lives and you are left behind. Spend that time NOW before it is gone....all those excuses, I'm too busy making a living don't hold water once the kids are gone. Trust me on that one. Phil
2007-12-07 14:17:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a conscience......and only feel guilty when I
AM! lol
2007-12-07 08:16:36 · answer #10 · answered by sage seeker 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋